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    I just left an abusive ex. I'm staying in a domestic violence shelter right now and can until the beginning of February. I don't have a large family support and I'd rather move at this point to avoid seeing him again.
    I don't know where to go after here.
    I have a little bit if money and I feel itd be best for me to move at this point. I used to dance but its been a little while. I was wondering if y'all have ever relocated with little support and how you did it? Are there any places that might offer dancer housing?
    I want to try and find something in a warmer state to at least avoid fear of homelessness in winter. I'm currently in kansas city. Any advice helps,thanks.

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    Default Re: Relocating before you know anyone...

    It would probably be best to work near your shelter and save .
    Keep it simple at first v.s. incuring travel costs.
    Good for you for getting out.

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    Default Re: Relocating before you know anyone...

    If you don't have a place to stay, one option would be to find a job that provides housing, such as a nanny or care-giver. Here's a site with 20 jobs that provide housing for employees:
    https://www.moneycrashers.com/jobs-p...-free-housing/

    If you want to find vanilla work, the job market is good right now. I've seen Amazon commercials on television, where they're looking to hire, with jobs starting at $15 an hour plus benefits. You could probably afford to live on that in some of the less expensive areas, if Amazon has positions available in those locations.

    Would you consider joining the military? You'll be provided housing from day one. They'll also pay for traveling and relocation expenses.

    Would you consider sex work? If you work at a legal brothel in Nevada, you will be provided with housing and have the opportunity to make a lot of money in a short period of time. On the downside, you'll have to have sex with strange men.

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    Thank you for your response ladies.
    I have done sex work and stripping before. I am thinking about the brothel but I read on a thread here that its super slow this time of year.
    A nanny may be an option. I have a vanilla job now but it'll be almost impossible for me to make it on my own. Im going to try to throw sex work in with it but I can't in my city right now.
    I might end up in Vegas or something. Does anyone know of studios or something that's there? I won't have enough to get a very good computer for awhile.

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    I live just outside of Vegas, glad to hook u up with a couple of honest realtors. I was also the Photographer for Love Ranch Vegas n the Alien Cathouse for many years before Dennis Hof died. So yes, I can agree this is the slow time of the year, n at Sheri's n the Chicken Ranch girls too commonly complain of leaving owing the house. That said I know other girls that have made 20K in a single night, even this time of year. LRV is closed now, but Richard bought the Alien n I've been invited back there to Photograph for them, n probably will. I see good n bad there, but that is normal. I will ad that many that move here make in in the beginning by working Ride or Lyft, they r both heavily used in Vegas. Ask me anything u like, glad to help.

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    Kudos to you for leaving a bad sitch, & best to you..

    I would try stripping on the side, can you try a club not in your immediate area? How about waitress/bartender?
    I was going to suggest also camming, but I see you don't have a 'puter.

    I know there's prob more/better suggestions, search around, look in Cam Conn section (there's some great stuff in there, that you can apply to other ideas other than camming) Stripping section on here, Newbie, Hustle Hut too.


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    Default Re: Relocating before you know anyone...

    Moving won’t necessarily change things. Speaking from experience, most women keep attracting the same abuser different mask unless they get long term help. I recommend CoDA or adult child of dysfunctional family meetings. No one wants to here that, but I have to say that because your family should be helping you. I understand because my family didn’t care about me either. I moved with no help and support twice because of domestic violence.


    Love you babe. Be safe. I’m so proud of you for leaving.

    As far as clubs, I moved to Des Moines. That’s where all the KC girls comes from. Money is NOT great, but it could be the next right choice.

    I hate to recommend this place because the owner is trash, but the outhouse is where I worked for awhile. They have the willow house domestic violence shelter.

    I actually know a Christian farm that helps former sex workers in Missouri. You’d have a free housing and you don’t have to work except you do chores on the farm. It’s actually pretty neat from what my friend said.

    http://www.harvesthome.org/ Just apply online

    Hugs!
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    Default Re: Relocating before you know anyone...

    I'm a guy so I'm reluctant to give advice on how a woman should move to another place without knowing anyone. I have done it but the the things I would do I wouldn't recommend for a female. That said, the cheapest quickest way to find shelter is to rent a room. In terms of housing and room rental I noticed that a lot of places specifically only rent out to females so you have that to your advantage.

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