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    I hate it when you just meet someone and agree to hang out/get to know each other and they love bomb tf out of you...like every few seconds they tell you ‘’you’re so cute!’’ or ‘’you’re so beautiful!’’ and constantly touch you/kiss you/hug you, etc. I’m not trying to sound bitchy or conceited either, but I find it really creepy and obsessive/stalkerish. It gives me so much anxiety! I love it when a guy is genuinely interested and affectionate/treats you good, but there is a fine line between that and being a creep. Can anyone else relate to this or have any stories/advice to share?

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    I agree.

    In the beginning its hard to tell if its genuine (most times it's not) its usually guys tactic to stroke your ego so you'll stroke his at some later time in the very near future

    If a guy consistently provides affection over time - then its in his nature

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    It depends on the guy and relationship. If I'm into the guy and we're already in an established relationship, then I don't mind the touching, hugging, or kissing aspect. I am an affectionate person myself when I am in love with someone. I don't do well with being complimented on my physical appearance though, especially excessively. I grew up the scrawny, nerd with the awkward bony, boyish body, acne, frizzy hair, glasses, so I still cringe when people compliment me, thinking that they are joking or making fun of me. If it's a guy that I've just met and getting to know and I'm not sure how I feel about him yet and he's overdoing it on the physical touch or kissing and compliments to the point where I feel smothered, I'm going to be turned off by it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WendiStarr View Post
    It depends on the guy and relationship. If I'm into the guy and we're already in an established relationship, then I don't mind the touching, hugging, or kissing aspect. I am an affectionate person myself when I am in love with someone. I don't do well with being complimented on my physical appearance though, especially excessively. I grew up the scrawny, nerd with the awkward bony, boyish body, acne, frizzy hair, glasses, so I still cringe when people compliment me, thinking that they are joking or making fun of me. If it's a guy that I've just met and getting to know and I'm not sure how I feel about him yet and he's overdoing it on the physical touch or kissing and compliments to the point where I feel smothered, I'm going to be turned off by it.
    I agree.

    I think telling a woman she looks amazing in that dress, etc. is great however for me, even better is when guys can give a variety of compliments (ex, I love how well you cooked that meal last night, or youre such an amazing mother to our kids, or you're so intelligent I love how you come up with the best ideas, etc.)

    and that they know which types of compliments you prefer

    Also if its too much too soon, it triggers 'narcissist' flags for me

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    Quote Originally Posted by EastCoastDancer01 View Post
    I hate it when you just meet someone and agree to hang out/get to know each other and they love bomb tf out of you...like every few seconds they tell you ‘’you’re so cute!’’ or ‘’you’re so beautiful!’’ and constantly touch you/kiss you/hug you, etc. I’m not trying to sound bitchy or conceited either, but I find it really creepy and obsessive/stalkerish. It gives me so much anxiety! I love it when a guy is genuinely interested and affectionate/treats you good, but there is a fine line between that and being a creep. Can anyone else relate to this or have any stories/advice to share?
    You're not being bitchy or conceited. You don't have an obligation to feel uncomfortable for someone else, especially when it comes to being touched.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WendiStarr View Post
    It depends on the guy and relationship. If I'm into the guy and we're already in an established relationship, then I don't mind the touching, hugging, or kissing aspect. I am an affectionate person myself when I am in love with someone. I don't do well with being complimented on my physical appearance though, especially excessively. I grew up the scrawny, nerd with the awkward bony, boyish body, acne, frizzy hair, glasses, so I still cringe when people compliment me, thinking that they are joking or making fun of me. If it's a guy that I've just met and getting to know and I'm not sure how I feel about him yet and he's overdoing it on the physical touch or kissing and compliments to the point where I feel smothered, I'm going to be turned off by it.
    Yes! If I just met someone and I already feel smothered by him, it’s a big turn off. It sets off major alarms and red flags. Men like that are the same types who become really obsessed and will give you a hard time if you try to break up with him...no thanks!

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    ^or they do that to get you hooked (fast) so they can quickly smash n dash. Some of them think most women have low self esteem so they can just toss a few generic compliments, provide a bit of physical affection and voila she’ll be ready to go

    Love bombing is a classic narcissistic trait. I’ve experienced this once where a guy took me to really nice dates, talked on phone nightly, gave compliments, physical affection etc. It did seem a bit too much when he tried to hold me at the end of first date and at end of second date he tried to kiss me.

    The thing about love bomb is it is really strong romantic efforts to sweep you off your feet then they can only sustain that effort so long.
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    I’ve watched a lot of true crime shows and love bombing is a common tactic that con artists use to lower your guard and lose your wits about you. Honestly I hate it when men or women rush into a relationship/ friendship with me. What’s the rush? It doesn’t seem authentic because it’s most likely not. Anything good in life takes time, nurturing and patience.
    If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it , change your attitude. ~ Maya Angelou ~

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    If you can’t stand being loved bomb that’s a good thing! Good job!

    I was reading Michelle Obama’s book. She said what she loved most about Barack was his character. That’s what I love! Slow and steady love from a man with character. Barack took her out to Baskin Robbins for their first date.

    I’ve heard healthy couples can fall in love quickly. I could never just meet someone and fall in love-too risky.
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