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    Hi loves, let’s start a very important thread on toxic relationships. We don’t enter relationships with a guide or ANY sense of what’s normal and what’s toxic and it’s left a lot of us lost and traumatized. ‘I should have known the relationship was toxic when: ___________



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    Then there's this:

    Exploring Emotionally Abusive Relationships
    Characteristics of an emotionally abusive relationship include:

    • Using money as a means of control

    • Threatening to walk out or abandon you

    • Creating fear through looks, words, threats and actions

    • Destroying things (and often things you value) – either in a cold and heatless way, or in an angry outburst or fit of rage

    • Using blaming, shaming, minimizing and denial to control you

    • Verbally attacking and demeaning you (includes name calling, shouting at you, criticising and putting you down – especially in public)

    • Attacking and putting you down in private, and acting loving and charming in public

    • Minimising the abuse; acting as if you’re over-reacting and it’s “no big deal”

    • Deliberately withholding approval, affirmation, affection and as a means of punishment or control The effects of living with emotional abuse include:

    • A fear of being natural and spontaneous

    • A loss of enthusiasm or their old joie de vive

    • Insecurity related to how they coming across to others

    • An inner belief that they are deeply flawed

    • A loss of self-confidence and self esteem

    • Growing self-doubt (so they’re afraid to make even the smallest decision, or to take on even the simplest of tasks)

    • Never trusting their own judgments (as they believe that they misunderstand or misread everything)

    • Having a constant critic in their head

    • Feeling they should be happier and more upbeat than they are (in order to meet the approval of others)

    • Feeling they’re too sensitive, and ought to “toughen up”

    • Fearing they’re going crazy, or losing their mind

    • A tendency to live in the future (“Everything will be OK when/after ….”)

    • A desire to break free, escape or run away

    • A distrust and fear of entering into any close relationships again

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