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    Default How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

    I’ve been a member of this board since I was 18 and I’ve been dancing off and on for about 6 years now. Even if I take a break (even months long breaks getting a regular job etc) I feel so burnt out...I was at work for an hour last night..nothing bad happened and I had an anxiety attack and left. I just do not want to even approach customers and all the emotional labor that dancing brings. I currently don’t have another job and I am beyond stressed. How did you know it was time to hang up the heels for good?

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    Default Re: How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

    I'm not a dancer but it sounds like you are at that point where you pretty much know.

    My reaction to getting on cam has gotten to the point that you described. The threat of being thrown out on my ass is the only thing that keeps me logging in and, even still, that's barely as convincing as it used to be. The occasional job seems to get my mental place back to a functioning state but the money is never as good. So I find myself going back but the anxiety returns as if I never stopped.

    I think quitting time has approached for you. Do you have an exit plan?

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    Default Re: How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

    I started vomiting and/or having massive diarrhea every time I had to work. Sometimes just at home getting ready to leave, but at the very end it was happening as soon as I got to the club as well. It never happened any other time and I haven’t had it since-it was pure anxiety of “will this be my life forever”, combined with a growing hatred of what I was doing as well as the club environment itself. Then, I would get drunk. That was another sign-never started drinking at work until I started hating what I did.
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    Default Re: How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

    Usually some form of constant anxiety and/or avoidance (ex procrastination)

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    Default Re: How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

    When I quit in 2011, I was majorly burnt out and my drinking was out of control. Truthfully I hated both the job and my life at the time, I cant blame it all on dancing. My life is in such a better place now and I'm a way happier person because I really love the family I created, occasionally I do miss dancing though..not the bullshit but the money, music and attention.

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    Our bodies tell us EVERYTHING we need to know. We’ve been brainwashed into dishonoring our feelings. When you don’t honor your feelings life gets bad real quick. Our feelings are our compass. I’m so guilty of asking for other people’s validation too. I’ve dealt with so much gaslighting I second guess myself. Anything that makes you feel bad IS bad. Things that are good for you FEEL good. It’s really that simple. Sorry, about the tone I’m just really passionate about people learning to trust their feelings. I think women get told so often to deny their reality-and men too but mostly women-that when we feel bad about something we have a hard time validating our feelings as real tools for direction in life. Your feelings are valid. If you are out of alignment with your highest self, your body will TELL YOU subtly and then loudly until you get the message.
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    I second that completely!

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    Default Re: How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

    Agree with the fonts above. When the tips aren’t coming in and it’s not the club. When I look like Boo Boo the fool on stage and I am getting pity tips from other dancers. When 65-75% of customers straight out reject me every night. And/or vanilla work is better in pay and everything else.

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    Default Re: How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

    I'll repeat what others said, your body will start rebelling against going into work even though you put on your shoes, drive your car, check in and etc....Your body just won't wanna be there.

    Same thing with other jobs you grow to dislike/hate, but in stripping it's on you to extricate yourself from the job.

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    I just no longer felt called to it. Like it just didn’t seem like a part of me anymore and doing it just didn’t sit right with me. It took YEARS to feel the way because before I was just moonlighting occasionally. Last November, a dancer asked me to do a strip trip with her to the place that I made the most money that I’ve ever made before and it just didn’t sit right with me. That’s when I knew I was done for good. I started dancing in October 2014 and the last time I worked was November 2018. No desire to go back at all (I used to fantasize about it).
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    Default Re: How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

    Quote Originally Posted by Prettyglitter View Post
    I just no longer felt called to it. Like it just didn’t seem like a part of me anymore and doing it just didn’t sit right with me. It took YEARS to feel the way because before I was just moonlighting occasionally. Last November, a dancer asked me to do a strip trip with her to the place that I made the most money that I’ve ever made before and it just didn’t sit right with me. That’s when I knew I was done for good. I started dancing in October 2014 and the last time I worked was November 2018. No desire to go back at all (I used to fantasize about it).
    I have that feeling and can relate. It’s when the money I was receiving felt like Monopoly money.

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    Default Re: How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

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    Default Re: How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

    I knew I was done when I had better options. I also got married, so that helped cut the cord too.

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    Default Re: How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

    When you quit because you know you're being treated like an employee with none of the benefits, but don't want to be publicly associated with a sex worker union or an industrial relations suit because you'd have to use your real name.

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    Default Re: How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

    Quote Originally Posted by Neonsugar View Post
    I’ve been a member of this board since I was 18 and I’ve been dancing off and on for about 6 years now. Even if I take a break (even months long breaks getting a regular job etc) I feel so burnt out...I was at work for an hour last night..nothing bad happened and I had an anxiety attack and left. I just do not want to even approach customers and all the emotional labor that dancing brings. I currently don’t have another job and I am beyond stressed. How did you know it was time to hang up the heels for good?
    you know your done when your tits are saggy like yours

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    Default Re: How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

    When you physically cannot do it anymore because your body can’t handle it. And you go through a mental breakdown. And you don’t feel sexy enough anymore (that’s totally your call though). Everyone goes through these things to some extent, but when it’s constantly wearing you down and effecting every area of your life negatively, then it’s time to hang those heels up

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    Default Re: How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

    One thing for certain, this forum has become quite popular. Trolls (whether paid, or not) do not post on low traffic, unpopular forums.

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    Default Re: How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

    Is there any other forum of sex workers to troll? Also, that last one was a jealous wife troll.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shy2 View Post
    Is there any other forum of sex workers to troll? Also, that last one was a jealous wife troll.
    Janik6 is definitely a sad pathetic little troll... move on little troll

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    Default Re: How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

    The last time i danced, i showed up at work, got dressed, hit the floor, started looking around the room, and just... couldn't even start working. It was a slower night, and i can't remember if i started trying to hustle before i left. I remember watching the other girls working and knowing that i just couldn't do it. It's hard for me to remember what happened because i just felt like the work was below me (that's just how it felt - sex work isn't actually below me). I remember i felt really beautiful that night before leaving for work, and in the club, i just felt cheap and absolutely depleted. I was fighting tears back, and the DJ and security were asking me if i was okay as i got the fuck out of there. I couldn't even talk because i knew I'd start bawling if i opened my mouth. I haven't danced since then. I got a low-paying vanilla job with a big company soon afterwards and started working my way up in the vanilla world. I don't have what it takes to be a long-term independent contractor.

    Back when i quit, i was going through a lot in my personal life (my relationship at the time was spiraling downwards due to my ex's struggle with his health and addiction), so i think that really contributed to my breakdown at work. It's hard to be strong at work when other parts of your life are crumbling.

    TL,DR - As others have said, when you know, you know. If you find yourself asking questions like the one you posed, it's time. Time for an exit strategy.

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    Default Re: How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

    Prolly when I was crying and drinking all the time frustrated. The worst was when I pushed forward and looked at customers there like scum (sorry if a male reads this), walk in/out of the dressing room, deny dances when approached, do something desperate to make enough money at the last minute because I didn't make enough avoiding customers. Manager told me I should be making in the top tier out of the club and was leaving with the least. Sending me to customers, many would approach and I would head to the dressing room to drink my sorrows away. He was so right my time was done. Escorting is better for me.

    It was a shit show at the club in the end and even the dancers noticed. I sucked it up and continued because I had no other job willing to hire me STILL. My resume is shit.

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    Default Re: How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

    When you dread going into work every night or nearly every night
    When you have to get drunk or high to motivate yourself to do it






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    Default Re: How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

    Quote Originally Posted by blondhottie View Post
    When you dread going into work every night or nearly every night
    When you have to get drunk or high to motivate yourself to do it
    I would usually need to get drunk or buzzed to approach custys & feel confident on stage. It helped but funny I don't neeed to do this with cam or pso/texting anymore

    I knew I was done when I was no longer getting hired everywhere I applied bc I had put on weight. It was annoying bc by the time it got to this point I was a mad hustler getting VIPs moreso than when I was skinny.
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    I knew I was done dancing when I was at Burning Man one year, had felt depressed AF the whole week, took some drugs at the big burn party on Saturday night to try and cheer myself up, was in a huge crowd feeling uncomfortable. All of a sudden the art car next to me, which had been playing cheesy dance club music, randomly decides to switch gears and play Time by Pink Floyd. It’s a song about waking up one day realizing that you’ve wasted your youth partying in your hometown and you’re not getting any younger. I was 26 at the time-certainly still young, but grown enough that it was time for me to start thinking about the future.

    When I got home I enrolled in community college for the following semester. It took me 3 years from that moment to starting grad school and actually being able to quit dancing.

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    Default Re: How do you know when you’re done with stripping?

    You're there but you're not there. You just there and going through the motions, if that, or you just sit in the corner and drink or look at your phone.

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