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    Smiley Has anyone benefitted from abstaining from masturbation/watching porn?

    I've been having a lot of sexual frustration lately and I've been thinking about abstaining from masturbating for a while. I would to discuss other SW's experience on this!

    To elaborate, I'm a full time cam girl. So I masturbate for a living! But 90% of the time I fake it! I fake orgasming, I fake rub my clit, obviously I cant fake penetration, but faking the other things helps me separate work from my real sex life. I love being a cam girl but sexual frustration sucks when it's your job to act horny and help other people orgasm!

    Personally I masturbate and look at porn to get an orgasm daily, sometimes twice a day. (We can abbreviate this term to PMO). Immediately afterward I feel sad and lonely, because I know doing this isn't helping my sex life at all. I want to have sex with my boyfriend more, and lust for him more and I believe PMO is to blame.

    My boyfriend is super hot and amazing! I want to have better, more passionate sex with him! I remember back a year ago when I was having better orgasms during sex so much easier, and now lately I definitely only orgasm from masturbation.

    Not to say masturbating isn't healthy, but i feel like I'm totally addicted!

    I'm going to try to abstain for a whole month, and I'm really nervous about it! I'm worried it will make me even more sexually frustrated. But hopefully it makes me want to initiate sex with my man more and chase that O during sex!

    Please share your thoughts or experiences!

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    Default Re: Has anyone benefitted from abstaining from masturbation/watching porn?

    Oh yea, def quit porn to start.

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    Default Re: Has anyone benefitted from abstaining from masturbation/watching porn?

    If I were you I’d cut back on watching porn and masturbation and do more romantic things with bf

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    Default Re: Has anyone benefitted from abstaining from masturbation/watching porn?

    ^ Yep.

    It's much more common for men to get into porn and neglect their partner ( yeah for flipping the script haha ! ) .

    It honestly sounds like you've got a handle on it. Cut back a touch. I bet after 2-3 days off you'll by dying to pounce on the bf and he will feel the higher enthusiasm energy too.

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    Default Re: Has anyone benefitted from abstaining from masturbation/watching porn?

    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    If I were you I’d cut back on watching porn and masturbation and do more romantic things with bf
    Yes totally! My bf has mentioned that he wants to go on more dates and be woo'd by me >.< hahaha. Thank you for your input

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    Quote Originally Posted by carmen_b View Post
    ^ Yep.

    It's much more common for men to get into porn and neglect their partner ( yeah for flipping the script haha ! ) .

    It honestly sounds like you've got a handle on it. Cut back a touch. I bet after 2-3 days off you'll by dying to pounce on the bf and he will feel the higher enthusiasm energy too.
    Totally flipping the script! Haha. Thanks for your input!!!

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    Actually can’t respond to this since I only had two real boyfriends in my life - but looking back (and going forward) I would focus more on our relationship. There’s nothing in this world like love. Even if it’s temporary love. I pay all my net worth to experience love again. But once it’s over it’s over, and I move on.

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    I think this is an informative post and it is very useful and knowledgeable. I really enjoyed reading this post. big fan, thank you!

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    If I were you Id cut back on watching porn and masturbation and do more romantic things with bf
    THIS!

    Sometimes building up a more emotionally intimate relationship with your partner brings back the spark.

    In my own experience, when I feel lonely and/or sad after masturbating to orgasm, it's often because I'm using sexual relief to distract myself instead of trying to fix the true cause of my loneliness. Kind of like eating when I'm sad or drinking when I'm bored,ya know?
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    Default Re: Has anyone benefitted from abstaining from masturbation/watching porn?

    Porn is a helpful thing, but watch it in moderation. If you focus exclusively on porn, then your vision of the relationship between a man and a woman may be distorted. Or that social skill will atrophy. If you don't have a partner, masturbate to porn only when you feel physically needed. This, by the way, is necessary (sometimes I also play with my favorite sex toy). If you have a partner, try virtual sex as an alternative to normal sex or masturbation. It will allow you to take a fresh look at the process of self-satisfaction.
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    Depends, do I have a Girlfriend or not? If no Girlfriend then PORN is my Girlfriend.
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    Default Re: Has anyone benefitted from abstaining from masturbation/watching porn?

    I know this is an older post, but maybe start off by masturbating to thinking about your boyfriend. Might be an easier transition than cutting off masturbation completely as a first step.

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    Default Re: Has anyone benefitted from abstaining from masturbation/watching porn?

    Several years ago, we put a flat screen in the bedroom. And, we found that our love making really went downhill. We were watching porn and masturbating far more often than actual fucking. So on night, I went to grab the remote and BF said, "no baby, I want to watch you masturbate." Well, that was kinky enough for me. So, I got undressed and he sat in the easy chair across from the bed. I stared masturbating and he watched. I put a couple of pillows under my head so I could watch him. Pretty soon, I was cumming and so was he. Totally wild! Since then, no porn in the bedroom for us. Only the real thing. The more variations, the better, but always live in the bedroom.

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    Default Re: Has anyone benefitted from abstaining from masturbation/watching porn?

    In my personal opinion, you can merge the the masturbation, porn and love-making. I'm sure your BF would love to watch you masturbate, that is so hot! (But you already know that, because, you are a cam girl.) He can watch you for a while, and then, join in with my fingers, tongue or a toy on your clit.

    Also, you can try mutual masturbation. I love sex, but, sometimes getting a hand job is nice, too. You can do a lot with your fingers that a dick or vagina cannot do. There is more control using fingers and you can apply special techniques. Same with oral. I always end up masturbating my wife (clit), because, she cannot cum from penetration alone. Sometimes I use my fingers and sometimes I'll use a clit massager.

    Watching porn is very hot as foreplay. But, at some point, you need to transition to looking at each other and telling each other how sexually attracted you are to him/her.

    Also, add more sensuality to your lovemaking, like bubble baths together and hot oil massages. Sex should be a 1-hour or more sensual adventure, not, a 5 minute 'release'. (That's more like going to the bathroom.)

    Lastly, what kind of porn are you watching and fantasizing about? Maybe you are watching MMF spit roasts and the idea excites you, but, its not something you can really do in real life. You can role play this by using a toy or sex machine, like a Ceaser 2.0 sex machine that pounds you from behind while you give your BF head.

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    Default Re: Has anyone benefitted from abstaining from masturbation/watching porn?

    I, as a girl, can say that it is quite different from masturbation. If girls who can control sexual desire are better than boys and masturbate, then what can I say about guys. It is good to masturbate as it relaxes you and makes your mind clear. For girls who masturbate can offer such an interesting tip: use a vibrator, namely one that has the function of This vibrator function can lead you to some sensations that you have not felt from any sex. I always use and I am very satisfied and first of all satisfied.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    In my personal opinion, you can merge the the masturbation, porn and love-making. I'm sure your BF would love to watch you masturbate, that is so hot! <snip>

    Also, you can try mutual masturbation. I love sex, but, sometimes getting a hand job is nice, too. You can do a lot with your fingers that a dick or vagina cannot do. There is more control using fingers and you can apply special techniques. Same with oral. I always end up masturbating my wife (clit), because, she cannot cum from penetration alone. Sometimes I use my fingers and sometimes I'll use a clit massager. <snip>
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    My experience may help the OP a little.
    When my girl spreads her legs and those magnificent labia, I just have to join in. I just love eating her and penetrating when she wants (she uses an IUD) and my ED medicine is working. Many times we watch porn together, but that usually leads to her giving me a bj. Occasionally she wants to self-pleasure and just have me watch and self-pleasure myself. I still enjoy porn by myself.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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    I feel you! The only porn I can stomach is lesbian porn & even that isn't as romantic as it once was. I want to watch soft core but I'm probably too traumatized to enjoy it. I hope to have a lady friend to date next because sex with a "man" is just not what I'm up for & it hasn't been for 5 years not to mention before that I was a virgin at age 19. I prefer s3x magic masturbation to call in my desires.
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    Question to the women that prefer masturbation: If your SO learned to do the exact same thing to you that do to yourself (massage your clit, use a vibrator on you, etc.), would you still prefer to do it yourself, or, would you like him to do for you?
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    i heard about positive efects of masturbation. But I am not so big fan of it. I prefer to talk online with girls in and make entertainment. Plus I like online flirting and adult sex talkings.
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