Sex drive almost completely gone since I started stripping :(

[Femmefatale666]

Hey! I’ve been dancing 2x a week for a few months and I love it. It’s perfect for me because I have a lot else going on but I love making money and being sexy.

The one main downside I’ve noticed is that my libido is almost completely gone. I used to have so much fun dating around and having casual sex but now I don’t even want to have sex with the hot guys I’ve been seeing lol.

I masturbate basically just for the endorphins but it takes me a while to finish and I don’t even have that much fun doing it lmao. I haven’t had any traumatic experiences dancing, just normal annoyances, and my self esteem is the same, as well as my general happiness minus being upset that I don’t have a sex drive anymore.

One of my friends suggested exercising more (I don’t work at a normal club with poles so I don’t get as much exercise during work) as well as spending some time volunteering, and both of those things seem like a start.

Has anyone else gone through this? What helped? Thanks so much!

[StellaRose]

Idk...I feel like a fluctuating libido is normal? Maybe if that low libido is tied to lethargy or depression then yeah that’s a problem.

Volunteering, while a good thing to do, I’m not exactly sure would help with being in the mood.

[carmen_b]

I'm curious about your club ! It must be more like a " sit and drink / chat " type of place ?

I look at it like this ......... being in the sex industry but not having a thriving sex life yourself is like being a great chef but never sitting down and getting spoiled yourself enjoying an excellent meal. Do what you can to protect your own sex life !

It might be the casual nature of the sex that is throwing things for you ! Once you work at a club and get guys spoiling you with the $ aspect ...... casual dating is much less appealing. Maybe you need something deeper .... leading to bf / gf link ? I find myself disliking casual dating situations. Getting ready and getting done up for a $10 drink sounds awful when I could just get done up and make more in the club in just 2-3 hours and then take myself on an amazing date ( great food ect. ) ! I can relate. I tend to only go for the dating stuff when it seems like it might lead to something more serious.

[Femmefatale666]

I'm curious about your club ! It must be more like a " sit and drink / chat " type of place ?

I look at it like this ......... being in the sex industry but not having a thriving sex life yourself is like being a great chef but never sitting down and getting spoiled yourself enjoying an excellent meal. Do what you can to protect your own sex life !

It might be the casual nature of the sex that is throwing things for you ! Once you work at a club and get guys spoiling you with the $ aspect ...... casual dating is much less appealing. Maybe you need something deeper .... leading to bf / gf link ? I find myself disliking casual dating situations. Getting ready and getting done up for a $10 drink sounds awful when I could just get done up and make more in the club in just 2-3 hours and then take myself on an amazing date ( great food ect. ) ! I can relate. I tend to only go for the dating stuff when it seems like it might lead to something more serious.

I work at a clubhouse event hosted by a club so I basically do lap dance parties! And yeah I guess so, but I really want both lol. Maybe it’s too much to ask for? And that might be true, I used to LOVE getting dressed up for a nice meal or cocktails and I still enjoy it but the sexual part has lost all appeal for me. I also tend to go for the sugar baby/ spoiled girlfriend role when it comes to dating so maybe that’s conflicting with being a dancer. I’m very young and don’t want a serious relationship at all right now, but I want to go out there and hoe like I used to or at least hoe a little bit lol. Even the main guy I’m seeing right now I have no sexual desire for anymore unfortunately

[carmen_b]

^ Find a great SD.
They are out there.

[Optimist]

I’m very young and don’t want a serious relationship at all right now, but I want to go out there and hoe like I used to or at least hoe a little bit lol. Even the main guy I’m seeing right now I have no sexual desire for anymore unfortunately

You might not want to hear this but you're probably just moving on to a different phase in life. It sounds like the job is a coincidence not a cause.
Personally this job feels like 50 first dates so casual dating is aight but not a big deal.

[Xena]

it is kinda normal.... I would advise to not work everyday and get a second job as well.... otherwise it will take a very long time to go back to your " normal " habits

[KenzieJ]

Are you sure it's because of your job? It could be due to stress, medication you may be taking.. Life in general, etc. I have that problem quite a bit. I love having sex but I feel like I'm never really in the mood unless I masturbate lol

[CandyFlo]

I feel this way too. I feel like I know what men are thinking and I know what they are going to say before they even say it. Men just bore me they have zero character and there are so many girls out there younger then me and more fresh and probably more taken in by their lazy charms. I only feel desired by ugly dudes haha. I think I’m going to have a break from dancing soon.

[Jucie]

it is kinda normal.... I would advise to not work everyday and get a second job as well.... otherwise it will take a very long time to go back to your " normal " habits

So true, it’s important to try to stay in touch with the "normal society" when dancing.

[curlyrainbow85]

Something similar happened to me, the only thing was that my boyfriend lost his sex drive. He had no interest in having intercourse with me and it was really annoying. I talked to him and he was telling me that nothing is wrong. My friend told me to get viagra from and to put it in his drink. I know it might be bad to do something like that, but it worked like a charm. It was really good and now the sexual desire is back to normal.

[LolaLang25]

You hit the nail on the head with this one. I’ve noticed that I cover up more for that reason. I don’t feel the need to flaunt it like I used to in public. I think that’s normal though.