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    Would you date a guy who's last girlfriend was a drop dead gorgeous, perfect 10 bombshell, or who you thought was prettier than you? I know us ladies on here are all beautiful, and I'm happy with the way I look...but I'll admit, there are women who are more attractive than me! It is what it is, there's always going to be someone physically better looking. I consider myself an 8, realistically. And I'm happy with that. But I don't think I could be with a man who has had better than me, unless the girl was really stupid or their breakup was really bad and he wants nothing to do with her anymore. Maybe I'm insecure or paranoid lol but that's how I feel. I would not want to be considered a man's downgrade! What do you think? I'm not going through this, by the way. Just a curious thought

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    Your question is directed at women, but, I'll volunteer a guy's opinion.

    First, what you would consider a 10 bombshell may not be the same as what the guy considers a perfect 10 bombshell. For example, I dated a European girl who I considered a perfect 10 - she was a gorgeous petite with the prettiest face I had ever seen, bigger than average boobs, small (but not anorexic) waist, and perfect curvy butt. However, she considered herself merely an 8, because, in her mind, a girl had to be size zero and super tall to be a perfect 10. Personally, I don't consider super tall & super skinny women perfect 10s.

    Second, while men tend to place more significance on looks than women, looks are not everything.

    I have dated two 'perfect 10s' in my life and aside from being stunning to look at (it was 'love at first sight' with both of them), and, the ego trip that comes with walking around with a 'trophy' gf, dating these woman was not all that remarkable.

    The first 10 I dated was the European girl I mentioned. Even though she was perfect, she was obsessed with losing weight (wanted to drop her size down to 0) and she wanted to get breast reduction, which was crazy, because, her boobs were awesome! She was constantly complaining about being fat, because she couldn't drop down to a size 0. (She was about the equivalent of a US size 6 and managed to drop to about a size 4.)

    The other 10 I dated was a professional model even more obsessed with her looks. She made some money in fashion shows and shoots for small-name designer, but, it did not seem to justify the massive amounts of money she spent on plastic surgery, expensive beauty products/treatments, modeling classes, etc. Her whole world revolved around her modeling aspirations and she would have sold her soul to break into the big leagues. While I admire that kind of dedication, it does not make for a good romantic partner.

    What I am saying is that there are trade-offs, and I would gladly take a down-to-Earth 8 over a beauty-obsessed high-maintenance 10.
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    Quote Originally Posted by EastCoastDancer01 View Post
    Would you date a guy who's last girlfriend was a drop dead gorgeous, perfect 10 bombshell, or who you thought was prettier than you? I know us ladies on here are all beautiful, and I'm happy with the way I look...but I'll admit, there are women who are more attractive than me! It is what it is, there's always going to be someone physically better looking. I consider myself an 8, realistically. And I'm happy with that. But I don't think I could be with a man who has had better than me, unless the girl was really stupid or their breakup was really bad and he wants nothing to do with her anymore. Maybe I'm insecure or paranoid lol but that's how I feel. I would not want to be considered a man's downgrade! What do you think? I'm not going through this, by the way. Just a curious thought

    ???

    It’s his last girlfriend, which means there is a reason it ended. Wouldn’t you be more concerned about that?

    I’ve dated some very attractive women that I didn’t last long with, and it was usually I doing the breaking off... sometimes to their very surprised reaction.

    It has surprised even me learning just how fast an outwardly attractive person can get particularly unattractive if their insides are ugly.

    The exact opposite is true. I’ve dated some women who were less outwardly attractive than these so called stunners (still pretty I’d say) who I found got very much more attractive to me the longer I knew them.

    It’s the totality of the circumstances, so why should the former girlfriend’s looks truly enter into the equation? Seriously, ECD, I don’t understand... help me get it?
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    BTW, while we are on the subject, is it needed to point out the obvious: That it is just possible that if you are willing to judge the worth of someone simply by what you read on a website about them it might say a whole hell of a lot more about you than it says about the person you are judging?

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    I can add to this later, but yes, and here's why-

    * looks aren't everything. There are many reasons younger people gravitate towards "attractive" people to seek LTRs with, but as one ages he or she realizes that skin-deep attributes won't make a real life relationship work if the "pretty person" has character issues that cause life to be unpleasant.

    * very few people maintain their peak attractiveness. Life happens! We gain weight, deal with health problems, and sometimes get less focused on looking hot (family life, investing time into work life.) Anyone who gets with you b/c you are "arm candy" will bounce as soon as you demand that they are totally invested in your future as well. People are people, not objects.

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    Yes.

    Unless the guy turned out to be vain and extremely superficial

    Now if he had an ugly morbidly obese gf then probably not because then I’d think 2’s n 3’s is all he could pull and I was waaaay out of his league.

    If he was a man who was successful, family oriented, treated me well (and other qualities I prefer in a long term partner) Then I’d do my best to overlook his past broads (whether they were 2’s or 10’s in looks)

    snuffle has a point too. It’s usually younger people and/or narcissistic people who are more laser focused on physical looks as a priority in dating/relationships

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    Hey Men,

    Why not leave this one for the Ladies. Do you date Dudes? If no, then bow out. They need to have some threads to themselves. This is, after all, THEIR SITE. We are just guests. Quit posting in here.

    EastCoastDancer01 needs advice from WOMEN. Not a bunch of Dudes swarming her. (And i think you are both good Dudes, and you just didn't think) So far it's two Dudes and two Women, that is disgraceful.

    The first and second fucking reply is from a fucking DUDE. Think about that. She doesn't need your advice, she needs WOMEN to reply. Try to be better.

    Let EastCoastDancer01 get actual advice from actual Women. You don't know SHIT about dating a Guy.
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    Don't get me wrong, i think you're both still good Dudes, but this one is for the Ladies. So leave them be.
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    I've been single for over 2 years now trying to get over the last relationship. I tried dating sites and in the past, it was a good way I found to meet people. I suggest this review
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    Quote Originally Posted by Raziel View Post
    Hey Men,

    Why not leave this one for the Ladies. Do you date Dudes? If no, then bow out. They need to have some threads to themselves. This is, after all, THEIR SITE. We are just guests. Quit posting in here.

    EastCoastDancer01 needs advice from WOMEN. Not a bunch of Dudes swarming her. (And i think you are both good Dudes, and you just didn't think) So far it's two Dudes and two Women, that is disgraceful.

    The first and second fucking reply is from a fucking DUDE. Think about that. She doesn't need your advice, she needs WOMEN to reply. Try to be better.

    Let EastCoastDancer01 get actual advice from actual Women. You don't know SHIT about dating a Guy.
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    Don't get me wrong, i think you're both still good Dudes, but this one is for the Ladies. So leave them be.
    This is the lounge. Anyone can post here. If OP wants to close the thread to blues OP will tell us.
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    Well, they should exorcise self restraint. I'm not making rules, here.

    EastCoastDancer01 should be able to talk to WOMEN.

    Do these dudes date fucking MEN? If not, shut the fuck up.
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    Maybe you should move this to Ladies Only.
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    I appreciate all feedback from both sides, men and women, as long as their answers are good! I would like to hear more ladies responses though Also, do you think it is common for an insecure man to downgrade significantly if he was with a perfect 10 who broke his heart, and he is bitter about it? I don't mean to sound bitchy or shallow by the way, I know personality and other qualities and aspects of a person are more important for the longevity of a relationship! Again, just curious

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    ^no i don’t think you’re shallow

    You seem like a cool lady

    It’s just what society programs into us.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EastCoastDancer01 View Post
    Would you date a guy who's last girlfriend was a drop dead gorgeous, perfect 10 bombshell, or who you thought was prettier than you?
    It would definitely rise my attention, why did they break up etc. Naturally I'd be skeptical. I consider myself high on the scale (I respect that people have different opinions though) so my first thought would be that I could give her a good match

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    I would not want to be considered a man's downgrade! What do you think?
    No one want's that for sure! On the other side, what's a downgrade? People see each other in different ways so it's not necessary that obvious.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kimbe View Post
    It would definitely rise my attention, why did they break up etc. Naturally I'd be skeptical. I consider myself high on the scale (I respect that people have different opinions though) so my first thought would be that I could give her a good match


    No one want's that for sure! On the other side, what's a downgrade? People see each other in different ways so it's not necessary that obvious.
    Having been on the flip side of "why did you and So and So break up if he was perfect for you?"...........That question boils down to just nosiness or (maybe) a serious minded person caring about not doing what So and So did to you.

    The phrase "You had to be there" sums up understanding why some seemingly "perfect" unions break up. People outgrow eachother, Life happens.

    & Trust me, what you find dazzling and exciting in a partner in your 20s is not what you will seek in your 30s or 40s. Trust me.

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    I have personally seen men go for truly low quality women out of pure desperation, or because the chick is a pick me type who will put up with his bad behavior...but yeah, it’s not a clear cut black and white type of thing. You really have to know the people and their situation, looks are just the surface!

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    Also beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

    What one man considers a dime could be a solid 6 to another man

    I wouldnot want to be anyone’s downgrade either. But I really think a lady could look like a 10 and some asshole would consider her a downgrade based on qualities other than physical looks (ex. Maybe she’s not intelligent, has bad hygiene etc)

    On the flip side if you’re with guys who consider you an upgrade (no matter what you look like cause looks fade over time) this would be a great guy to stay with especially if he treats you well and has something going for himself

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    Quote Originally Posted by Raziel View Post
    Well, they should exorcise self restraint. I'm not making rules, here.

    EastCoastDancer01 should be able to talk to WOMEN.

    Do these dudes date fucking MEN? If not, shut the fuck up.
    Are you speaking for EastCoastDancer? What the fuck makes you think she needs you to speak up for her? You come here acting like her white knight and end up high jacking this thread with four emails that only draw attention to yourself. You have the audacity to tell the moderator how to do his job and you assume EastCoastDancer does not know there is a section on this site for pinks only? Maybe you should shut the fuck up instead of telling others what to do. Don't bother responding to me and hijacking this thread with more nonsensical posts. You're on my ignore list. (There is only one person on that list.)

    Sorry EastCoastDancer for this post, but, someone just needed to tell this bird to shut up. Back to your question...
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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    Are you speaking for EastCoastDancer? What the fuck makes you think she needs you to speak up for her? You come here acting like her white knight and end up high jacking this thread with four emails that only draw attention to yourself. You have the audacity to tell the moderator how to do his job and you assume EastCoastDancer does not know there is a section on this site for pinks only? Maybe you should shut the fuck up instead of telling others what to do. Don't bother responding to me and hijacking this thread with more nonsensical posts. You're on my ignore list. (There is only one person on that list.)

    Sorry EastCoastDancer for this post, but, someone just needed to tell this bird to shut up. Back to your question...
    Oh fuck off. I'm not speaking for her and you know it. Am i speaking for EastCoastDancer? NO. She can speak for herself. I'm nobodies White Knight.

    Ram it up your Pie-Hole. You shouldn't be fucking posting in here.

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    For a guy, the equivalent question is: Would you date a girl that has dated a dude with a penis bigger than 8-inches. Most guys would be very insecure about trying to impress a girl that has had a well-endowed lover.

    A girl I dated in college told me she had dated a well-endowed guy, and, this made me very insecure, since I am only a little better than average. But, she also told me he was not that great in bed, because, he was so cocky (pun) that he thought he could make any girl orgasm by just pounding away. She was a clit-sensitive girl and he paid virtually no attention to her clit and was too cocky to include any toys in their lovemaking.

    If you ask the guy why he dumped the 'perfect-10' girl. He will give you reasons that will put your mind at ease.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    For a guy, the equivalent question is: Would you date a girl that has dated a dude with a penis bigger than 8-inches. Most guys would be very insecure about trying to impress a girl that has had a well-endowed lover.

    A girl I dated in college told me she had dated a well-endowed guy, and, this made me very insecure, since I am only a little better than average. But, she also told me he was not that great in bed, because, he was so cocky (pun) that he thought he could make any girl orgasm by just pounding away. She was a clit-sensitive girl and he paid virtually no attention to her clit and was too cocky to include any toys in their lovemaking.

    If you ask the guy why he dumped the 'perfect-10' girl. He will give you reasons that will put your mind at ease.

    That's a really good analogy! And yes there's definitely reasons why a relationship with a perfect 10 could not work out

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