So I had a custy that paid really well. I had him convinced he wasn’t a SD I wasn’t a SB that I had real feelings of love for him. He finally figured it out and is now just furious with me. Any ideas what to do ?
Long con gone bad
So I had a custy that paid really well. I had him convinced he wasn’t a SD I wasn’t a SB that I had real feelings of love for him. He finally figured it out and is now just furious with me. Any ideas what to do ?
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Maybe apologize, say it started that way but it blossomed into more & now you have genuine feelings for him & love how he understands your love language/situation & takes care of you..... yadda yadda. But, this is just to prolong/milk it a little longer, if it's still worth the emotional labor on your end. Rule of thumb is; most good customers like that have a shelf life. Regulars that spoiled me excessively always wanted more than just meeting ITC or paid dates. After a while when they learned I wouldn't give them more, they either got stingier with money/more demanding or moved onto the next girl. My few "shelf stable" regulars come in periodically & drop $150-500 at a time (maybe a gift now & then), they aren't whales but they are low maintenance & a healthy steady bonus, & generally more pleasant to be around since they aren't as emotionally demanding as a whale or SD. But those big spenders that are hoping it will turn into "something real" one day won't last forever so don't come to depend on it & always have your own back or others lined up. Also, read "Ho Tactics" by G.L. Lambert.
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Stop talking to him and ignore him if he comes in the club. If you have to, get the bouncers to 86 him.
This is why it's a pain in the ass to play this kind of long game. Personally I don't think it's worth the drama and bad vibes the guy brings into the club when he inevitably figures out you're playing him.
"People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."
"You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."
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He did take me on dates, dinner and more and bought me anything I asked for . Designer stuff and a new puppy. Then he said he was leaving his wife which freaked me out. He said he was crazy about me and I lapped it up.
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Ohhh okay. I thought you meant like you wanted to keep the hustle going not that you were in danger. Absolutely agree with Selina, and get some kind of self defense if necessary. Stay safe!!Originally Posted by Vegasmade
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Girl he played himself. He cheated on his wife and now he’s the victim. Girl if it wasn’t you it’d be some other younger girl he “fell in love with.”
If a younger girl likes and older man it’s because of $$$ How old is he? If he’s in 30’s he knows better than to think anything else. He could have gone to couples therapy, but men don’t want to do the hard work, so they chase younger girls rather than work on their relationship. They rather have a topless therapist than work on their shit.
In truth, I think it’s better to be upfront about the nature of the relationship. Although it’s rare for a guy to UNDERSTAND the contractual nature of the relationship.
But seriously. He has no moral ground to stand on that you played him. He played himself.
Take your bag and move on from this guy. He’s gonna cause nothing but drama. You don’t want to have to deal with his wife when she finds out. Women can be crazier than men!
Yes you will lose out on money when you walk away, but most regulars have an expiration date. So you do have to be prepared to cut them lose when they eventually start acting crazy.
Last edited by moneybags; 02-27-2021 at 09:21 PM.
Focus more on what you want than on what you don’t want
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^exactly!
How a SD gone wake up one day n “figure out” he’s an SD
He already knows what it is.
Now he’s guilting you into doing things his way
I mean let’s just say in case the dude really is that clueless. You stayed in this situation too long. It’s like a game of double Dutch, you jump in while the setup looks good, stay in for a bit, then jump out (while the setup is still good) ..... if you waited till things fall apart/get messy/dude starts asking hella questions, making demands - then you waited too long and you should have gotten out n been on to the next
Long con games are never a good idea in my opinion. Once dudes start catching real feelings then this is when things can get really out of hand
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He really can't " prove" you don't love him or anything.
So if you don't and he is now announcing he is leaving the wife it's kind of up to you to figure out what to do.
I'm assuming you don't want to move in / have a full relationship or you wouldn't be posting !
Sorry your SD wanted " more ". As is the nature of that hustle which is why it's hard to pull off. : /
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I mean you don't seem like you are asking about dangerous issues ( him stalking or anything ).
You are asking more as a " how to " get the $ money back ? It might be expired on that one.
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Just delete his phone number and move on.
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He reached his "expiration date" of his shevle-life. It happens and it's part of the game.
It's stripper-universally-known, all regulars expect your feelings, a date, your personal phone number, in return once the "investment" stage has reached its limit. Once it does, (you'll know; minor whining, complaining, pushing OTC constantly, seeking more of your attention), I begin to slowly cut my time with him and start the "wanna dance?" routine every time he comes into the club then ignore him later once he's done spending. Then the hard part is trying to ignore the easy money when it gets to the point of doubling-down on excessive spending and giving lavish gifts.
The Doubling-down stage, some regulars proceed to this stage while others don't, is where it gets annoying and worse and where I straight cut him off shortly afterwards.
Just move on and focus on working your other regular customers and cultivating new ones.
P.S. I prefer when regulars just "disappear." It makes me wonder if they found a new hobby, a girlfriend, wise'd up, etc.
Edit: Oh snap! Didn't read OP's second post. IME I never met customers OTC in any form of consent. Sounds awkward and silly from what I've heard from stripper girlfriends' experiences as you gave them what they want - OTC. Again, from their experiences, customers stopped spending ITC and wanting more OTCs.
I only do transactions and trades ITC. I'm an erotic dancer.
Not an escort, sugar baby, "stripper that I took out the club" or whatever they call it.
Last edited by 305gurl; 03-01-2021 at 05:13 AM.
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In dudes simple mind, if you ain’t dropping everything to fuck them (like multiple times/days a week) then you don’t love them. Lol!
Or if you don’t fuck them without the “hoe transaction” (aka money before sex) then you don’t love them.
they asses be having tests n shit to determine “hey does she really love me???”
Demanding more n more (and the woman acquiescing to demands) IS the proof....at least in a “fragile male I don’t know I’m a sugar daddy” mind
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^ Her SD clearly knew he was one hahahaha ! He just fell for her and wants a " regular " relationship.
Since she doesn't want to sleep with him for free it's just about minimal damage at this point. :/
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Last edited by Vegasmade; 03-02-2021 at 10:09 AM. Reason: Too much info:(
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^what?!??
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^ Trolling hahaha.
I always hesitate to answer anything by posters with only a few things haha.
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I wasn’t trolling
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"Ho Tactics" by G.L. Lambert.
I agree with this Amazon reviewer 1000%
...... the author suggests to women lying about sexual trauma as a tactic to avoid having to have sex. Please girls NEVER lie about that. if that wasnt in the book i would give it a 5 star rating hands down. But maybe since the author is a man he doesn't understand the ramification of women lying about this. It is very hard for women who have been raped and molested to be taking seriously much of the time. Even though a TINY percentage of women who report these to police it end up being fake. but to lie about that to anyone a trick a friend a sugar ANYONE is just not ok, and makes it harder for women who have been and have these issues to be taken seriously. I am really dispointed anyone would give that advice to girls no matter what thier objective is. The rest of the boo is Gold thats why i gave it two stars and not one. but that is a REALLLYYYYYY big bad red flag no no do NOT do ever!!!
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