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    Default How to do a contact dance?

    I am about to start as a dancer at Players showgirls in Surfers paradise, Australia.

    I understand that i will called up to pole dance on stage in front of everyone throughout the night in a sexy outfit, but people will also be able choose me for a private dance where contact/ touching is allowed.

    I have never seen this before and have no idea how its done.

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    Default Re: How to do a contact dance?

    Contact dance usually means customer can grope your body and fondle your boobs while you can contact him(grinding on his crotch) if you want.

    Here's my example: we sit and chat in a private dance booth while the current song is playing - usually guys will grope on your thigh while chatting in there. The next song comes, I get up, lower my top half of my dress and take off my bra. Since he already groped on me, he has a half of an erection. I turn around, sit on his crotch and grind for a bit. He'll fondle my boobs(hate it but it's part of the job). Once he has a full erection, I get up and start doing non-contact moves,, like pressing up against the other side of the wall and jiggle my butt or stand up on the booth cushion seat and bend over and see his face between my legs(keep an eye on him since they'll do perverted things like sniffing your butthole/vagina if you're not looking) as my long hair falls down and my boobs hangs. There's another non-contact maneuvers that I do but the whole purpose is to waste time and minimalize contact especially with his dick.

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    Default Re: How to do a contact dance?

    I think many ladies overthink it as newbies. There should be lapdance videos on youtube. I've seen managers ask other girls to teach newbies. Maybe you can visit as a customer if it helps you before you apply to see what they expect of you?

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    Default Re: How to do a contact dance?

    It totally depends on the club. And clubs have written rules (the rules they tell you) vs rules the dancers actually follow vs rules according to city ordinances. Those might all be different things, and it can be tough to navigate the differences.

    I've personally never done a dance where a customer was allowed to touch my breasts, ass, or pussy, and I've danced in several clubs across multiple states. I personally couldn't handle that level of contact, and I've also never worked in a club that allowed it. I've worked in a club where customers could pay $40/dance to touch our backs and thighs, but that's it. That doesn't make me better than anyone else, I'm just saying, it's not the standard to be groped in every club.

    Don't cross personal boundaries to make money - the money you'll make isn't worth the toll on your mental health and value system. It's fine if your priorities change over time, but that should happen gradually. Don't do something just because you think it's expected of you, or because others are doing it, or customers tell you to do it. Put yourself first and money second.

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    Default Re: How to do a contact dance?

    Thank you ladies and sorry for sounding like such a newbie. i haven't been to club like this before and never thought i would ever work in one.

    I have spoken to the manager, have been put on the rota to dance there. but me being my shy and socially awkward self didn't really ask any questions apart from what i should wear. I have a sparkly one piece swimsuit i've been told is ok to start in, but must have a g string on underneath. So i need to buy one of those before i start as i've never actually worn one before.

    I do have more understanding of what ill be doing now. I was expecting to be on stage pole dancing in front of everyone. During the routine i need to take my outfit off and dance in just my g string, which i am a bit nervous about.

    I am only going to earn money though doing private dances for a customer. It is having to do those that are starting to freak me out. A private dance is a lap dance, away from the stage in the lap room where i am going have to be completely naked. In the part of Australia i am in contact is allowed, so not only am i going to be naked, the person i am dancing for can touch me everywhere except my inner thighs and anywhere that would be covered by a g string, so my vagina, pubic area and between my bum cheeks.

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    Default Re: How to do a contact dance?

    ^Even if that level of contact is allowed, you don't have to allow it. Just saying. Your body is your body, and you make the rules.

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    Default Re: How to do a contact dance?

    Quote Originally Posted by xCrystalx View Post
    Thank you ladies and sorry for sounding like such a newbie. i haven't been to club like this before and never thought i would ever work in one.

    I have spoken to the manager, have been put on the rota to dance there. but me being my shy and socially awkward self didn't really ask any questions apart from what i should wear. I have a sparkly one piece swimsuit i've been told is ok to start in, but must have a g string on underneath. So i need to buy one of those before i start as i've never actually worn one before.

    I do have more understanding of what ill be doing now. I was expecting to be on stage pole dancing in front of everyone. During the routine i need to take my outfit off and dance in just my g string, which i am a bit nervous about.

    I am only going to earn money though doing private dances for a customer. It is having to do those that are starting to freak me out. A private dance is a lap dance, away from the stage in the lap room where i am going have to be completely naked. In the part of Australia i am in contact is allowed, so not only am i going to be naked, the person i am dancing for can touch me everywhere except my inner thighs and anywhere that would be covered by a g string, so my vagina, pubic area and between my bum cheeks.
    You'll get use it. Just space-out throughout the session during the first couple of months. I remember my first month of being a "baby stripper." Couldn't deal with the feeling of strangers grabbing my 34D awesome boobs for $25/song(2-3 minutes).

    But remember, have future goals, bills have to be paid, many people are slaving away for peanuts while you took a "frown-upon" gig by exchanging your beautiful naked body for men to watch and touch for potential massive monetary gains.

    If you don't want to be fingered, vaginal or/and anal, be firm about it when they first attempt. I am. Even with my belly button. Same goes boob-sucking.

    Warning: it does happens. Few bastards succeeded sucking my boobs or touching my pussy. There's nothing you can do other than be stern about it, collect your payment and move on.

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    I honestly would probably do low-volume escort work, webcamming, or choose to work in a low-contact club and make less money before I'd do high-volume, full-contact dances like that. Everyone has different preferences when it comes to how they make their money in the sex industry, but the emotional and physical toll of having that many customers touch me in such intimate places for relatively little money would seriously mess me up. No judgment whatsoever, seriously. I just couldn't handle it.

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    Default Re: How to do a contact dance?

    They are starting me off working Friday and Saturday night. I think when i get there im going to have to ask one of the girls what exactly a lap dance is and how its done, and how different it is from dancing on stage.
    I'll try and keep distance while dancing to the song thats playing so i dont get touched as much.

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    Default Re: How to do a contact dance?

    If you ask other dancers, then get in VERY early and ask when it’s way slow. But honestly watching somebody else in the dance area should be good enough. Maybe once in a while, peek over at somebody while you’re walking by. And just peek for like 5 seconds at most don’t stare.

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    Default Re: How to do a contact dance?

    Quote Originally Posted by StellaRose View Post
    If you ask other dancers, then get in VERY early and ask when it’s way slow. But honestly watching somebody else in the dance area should be good enough. Maybe once in a while, peek over at somebody while you’re walking by. And just peek for like 5 seconds at most don’t stare.
    Yeah, or maybe even buy a dancer's time and have her show you some moves! Or watch on a bouncer's security camera while you make conversation with him. All kinds of ways to get that experience asap.

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    Default Re: How to do a contact dance?

    I'd say just do it. Be a big gurl and earn yourself some big bucks. Screw all that low-contact dance stuff where guys are just too iffy to spend.

    Stop pondering and throw yourself to the wolves and be the apex predator!

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    Default Re: How to do a contact dance?

    Thanks again ladies for the advise. Sorry again on sounding naïve, ive just never seen a lap dance before. I think the customer will be sat down along a sofa and ill be dancing in front of him, just without a pole that id have on stage.
    i'll try and keeping myself at arms length from the customer as much as i can to begin till i get used to it all.

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    Default Re: How to do a contact dance?

    There you go! There's nothing to fear but fear itself.

    Just sit then grind on the guy's crotch. When he starts to get "hard," just get up and start doing non-contact sexy moves.

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    Also, don’t do some of the dumb stuff I did when I was new...

    *grinds on customer*
    Customer: yeah you can feel it can’t you?
    Me: no, not really

    Another time...

    *Dancing on customer*
    Customer: do you ever get really turned on during dances?
    Me: huh?

    I’ve learned some social skills since back then LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by StellaRose View Post
    Also, don’t do some of the dumb stuff I did when I was new...

    *grinds on customer*
    Customer: yeah you can feel it can’t you?
    Me: no, not really

    Another time...

    *Dancing on customer*
    Customer: do you ever get really turned on during dances?
    Me: huh?

    I’ve learned some social skills since back then LOL
    Girl, you sound like me, for real, and this isn't the first time I've had that thought! Lol! I said so many stupid things over the years, partially because i was naïve, and partially because i was just disgusted by the weird fantasy world that these guys live in.

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    Default Re: How to do a contact dance?

    Do you two mean like being space-out, blunt with responding to customer's questions and ignoring what they say the first time?

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    ^No, more just responding too honestly to their questions.

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    You're probably right. I might have lost a dozen of potential regular customers for being too honest and ignore what they mumble something to me in the private booths. Though some be intrigued with my personal life and ask silly questions about family and pets.

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    Default Re: How to do a contact dance?

    Thank you for the support ladies. Only a couple of days now till i start and my nerves are really kicking in. Ive bought myself my first ever g strings and a couple of outfits to wear.
    The club has girls called controllers who look after after the dancers and make sure everything is being kept within the rules. They will also help me sell dances which is what im going to need to start.
    In a regular club would feel so embarrassed just walking up and talking to a group of people i didnt know, let alone having to do it wearing a stripper outfit.

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    You don’t need anyone to control you. The bouncers are responsible for enforcing the rules not other girls. I’m sure you can sell dances just fine by yourself. You’re selling lap dances not life insurance. Do what you want. My advice would be to work alone. Some clubs have house moms, but even then you really don’t need any girl to “help” you.
    Focus more on what you want than on what you don’t want

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    ^i had the same thought, partially due to their title: "the controllers." What? Unless you're paying my taxes, you are not controlling me.

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    If you want, keep us inform on your progress.

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    I leave to start my first shift in about six hours. Super nervous. Ill let you know how it went.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xCrystalx View Post
    I leave to start my first shift in about six hours. Super nervous. Ill let you know how it went.
    You'll do great!!

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