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    Default Re: How to do a contact dance?

    How did it go, OP??

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    The weekend was crazy. i must have spent the first hour on Friday awkwardly walking around with my head down hoping people wouldn't notice me, despite my neon green leotard glowing so brightly under the UV lights i could have been seen from outer space.
    I gained a little bit of confidence after i had come off stage for the first but still to shy to approach and start talking to people. But being a Friday, by midnight the club was packed out and i was brought over to a group of young guys by one of the girls and managed to sell my first dance.
    The private lap dance area is actually not private at all. There are no individual booths, it is a large open plan room so everyone can see everyone else, dancers and customers, and is fully visible from the main area, so i was able to look over from time to time.
    A lap dance isn't quiet what i expected. Every dance i did was mostly spent naked either sat or kneeling between the customers legs having my butt grabbed, boobs fondled and nipples tweaked as were the rest of the ladies around me. So its pretty full on and something i am going to have to get used to.

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    Default Re: How to do a contact dance?

    See. It wasn't that bad. Just used to the grabby hands and you'll be numb to them soon.

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    OP, just hope you know that there are alternative options in sex work. That kind of contact / becoming numb can have long-term effects on your personal life. I'm assuming the potential downsides are worth it to you, and seriously no judgment here, but i just want to make sure you know there are always other options. The tone of your posts makes me feel like your natural disposition and feelings towards the gig are not 100% a great fit for dancing with that level of contact.

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    Default Re: How to do a contact dance?

    Quote Originally Posted by Likethis View Post
    I think it's best to look at all other options before committing to just one place and one way of doing things - what other clubs are there and how do they do dances? Even when all clubs in an area are contact the level of contact and what kind of customer behaviour they allow can vary. Crossing personal boundaries can be very harmful to your well being so watch out so that this doesn't cost you more than it is worth in the end. I stayed only one night at my first club (not because of contact levels but other things) and then worked in a lot of other places with no problems, so I really recommend looking around and choosing an option that really works for you whether that is a club or something else entirely.
    This is great advice and a great post. You may even be able to find a club that offers different levels of contact for different prices, so that even if you do decide to work full-contact, you could earn more per dance, or be more picky about which customers are touching you. For example, i worked at a club that was strictly no contact for $20, and allowed light touching (back, legs) for $40/dance.

    So you may find other good club options, with different rules, but there are also other sex-work options, too, like camming. You could even look into private parties, too!

    I got stuck at my first club for years, and i really wish I'd researched and tried other clubs earlier in my dancing career. It's stressful to audition, but it can pay off big time!! Better rules, better money, etc.

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    This is great advice and a great post. You may even be able to find a club that offers different levels of contact for different prices, so that even if you do decide to work full-contact, you could earn more per dance, or be more picky about which customers are touching you. For example, i worked at a club that was strictly no contact for $20, and allowed light touching (back, legs) for $40/dance.

    So you may find other good club options, with different rules, but there are also other sex-work options, too, like camming. You could even look into private parties, too!

    I got stuck at my first club for years, and i really wish I'd researched and tried other clubs earlier in my dancing career. It's stressful to audition, but it can pay off big time!! Better rules, better money, etc.
    Being a New Zealand dancer who has worked with a lot of Australian girls, this is just par for course on this side of the world. If you aren't comfortable with it OP, then the industry may not be for you, but you do come to accept it fast. In my club it's normal for girls to be brought for VIP doubles where we put on a show of eating each other out, things here tend to be very heavy and men expect that. I've never had an issue with it personally (though we aren't allowed to grind on dicks here and honestly the idea horrifies me, I will happily tongue a clit, but refuse to willingly feel a boner), but I can see how it would be and drawing your personal lines in the sand is very important. If you don't like nipple play, tell the guy before you go for a dance, tell someone off if they do pass boundaries. You'll have to sell a level of contact to make money in Australasia but it's up to you exactly what that it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RioK View Post
    Being a New Zealand dancer who has worked with a lot of Australian girls, this is just par for course on this side of the world. If you aren't comfortable with it OP, then the industry may not be for you, but you do come to accept it fast. In my club it's normal for girls to be brought for VIP doubles where we put on a show of eating each other out, things here tend to be very heavy and men expect that. I've never had an issue with it personally (though we aren't allowed to grind on dicks here and honestly the idea horrifies me, I will happily tongue a clit, but refuse to willingly feel a boner), but I can see how it would be and drawing your personal lines in the sand is very important. If you don't like nipple play, tell the guy before you go for a dance, tell someone off if they do pass boundaries. You'll have to sell a level of contact to make money in Australasia but it's up to you exactly what that it.
    Yes, from speaking to the some of other dancers, this level of contact is normal for the Gold Coast where i am from. It was just shocking looking over to the lap dance area for the first time and seeing what was going on.
    We are not allowed to grind on them either. The dances are two way contact but we have to stay away from their crotch area like they do with ours. Before going for a dance one of girls at the lap dance reception will explain the rules to the customer often by drawing with her hands an imaginary box around my groin, saying to stay out of the g string area.
    The only time someone has broken the rules and got to me a little was on my first night when leaning over slightly in the main area talking to a guy sat at a table, a female customer thought it would be funny to come behind me to pull and ping the elastic around the butt area of my leotard. I turned around to see the rest of her female friends sat around a table all dressed up for a night out giggling like they were somehow better than me.
    But my confidence is growing a little each night i work but still feel awkward at times being naked in front of so many people.

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