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    Default HavenÂ’t danced in over five years, but kinda have to do it again for money reasons.

    Mainly to pay a bunch of medical bills (of course, medical bills since this is ‘Murica). But it’s not going to be permanent (six to eight months at most).

    IÂ’m in better shape than the last time I danced (yay), but hereÂ’s the real issue: my mindset.

    As much as I sort of like the idea of getting back in my booty shorts and cocktail dresses...I feel like I might as well 🤯🔫 just by thinking of the fact of spending even five minutes on VIP/CR with some slimy customer hearing him parrot about things I don’t care about. Thinking about that totally kills my desire to return to a club ever again. I mean, I had lasered my pubes and I’m like four sizes less than the last time I danced, but still, merely thinking about listening to some customer saying even a single word is enough to send me on a frenzy.


    Help me get motivated!!!!





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    Default Re: HavenÂ’t danced in over five years, but kinda have to do it again for money reaso

    Everyone has a different hack.

    Mine is to set a low expectation on night 1 at a place like “ I’ll just get dolled up and make $100”.
    Then you can get in and adjust or just relax that first night.

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    Default Re: HavenÂ’t danced in over five years, but kinda have to do it again for money reaso

    That’s what I’ve been having to keep in mind. Then again, I just discussed with my husband a possible average encounter with a customer and the way it’d go...and I felt like I wanted to gouge on bleach because I feel like I can’t get myself into the “cute, bubbly, happy and sexy” girl I was back in the early 2010’s.

    My money making expectations are already stupidly low, but is because we are just recovering from an economics depression.





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    Default Re: HavenÂ’t danced in over five years, but kinda have to do it again for money reaso

    I hear ya, dancing is one of the most emotionally taxing jobs one can have. But, I try to go back to a place of gratitude. Smiling and listening to the customer yap about shit you don't care about is basic customer service, at least you're getting paid hundreds of dollars to hear it as opposed to other customer service jobs where the customers are rude, managers don't give a shit and you get paid much less. When I get irritated, I just visualize dollar signs. And I try to think of dancing as the ultimate meditation practice ...I'm trying to stay detached and keep my "zen" regardless of external circumstances. And lots of self-care after helps me. I set financial goals and then treat myself accordingly, whether that's grabbing a coffee before my shift or getting a massage when I'm done working for the week.

    Once you start seeing the money flow in again, you'll feel better. I see girls banking everyday, even with the world in this state. Oh, and I try to focus on having fun too. I actually like doing my hair, makeup, getting dolled up, feeling like I'm getting a little workout, etc.

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    Default Re: HavenÂ’t danced in over five years, but kinda have to do it again for money reaso

    Hi! I remember you, OP, back when I used to lurk this forums years ago before I came to register here.

    Girl, just do it! That's my advice. But things have changed in the strip club game other than the economic recession. It isn't the early-2010's anymore. But there's money to be made!

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    Default Re: HavenÂ’t danced in over five years, but kinda have to do it again for money reaso

    Quote Originally Posted by Jay12 View Post
    Mainly to pay a bunch of medical bills (of course, medical bills since this is ‘Murica). But it’s not going to be permanent (six to eight months at most).

    IÂ’m in better shape than the last time I danced (yay), but hereÂ’s the real issue: my mindset. just by thinking of the fact of spending even five minutes on VIP/CR with some slimy customer hearing him parrot about things I donÂ’t care about. Thinking about that totally kills my desire to return to a club ever again.


    Help me get motivated!!!!
    If you’re still in the Texas Hill Country, then no shame in just doing one step up from “wanna dance” and dance stacking. You got this.

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    Default Re: HavenÂ’t danced in over five years, but kinda have to do it again for money reaso

    Hey Jay Welcome back, good to see you on here again. Hope you return & kick ass with lotsa coin ��
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    Quote Originally Posted by trustfundkiller View Post
    I hear ya, dancing is one of the most emotionally taxing jobs one can have. But, I try to go back to a place of gratitude. Smiling and listening to the customer yap about shit you don't care about is basic customer service, at least you're getting paid hundreds of dollars to hear it as opposed to other customer service jobs where the customers are rude, managers don't give a shit and you get paid much less. When I get irritated, I just visualize dollar signs. And I try to think of dancing as the ultimate meditation practice ...I'm trying to stay detached and keep my "zen" regardless of external circumstances. And lots of self-care after helps me. I set financial goals and then treat myself accordingly, whether that's grabbing a coffee before my shift or getting a massage when I'm done working for the week.

    Once you start seeing the money flow in again, you'll feel better. I see girls banking everyday, even with the world in this state. Oh, and I try to focus on having fun too. I actually like doing my hair, makeup, getting dolled up, feeling like I'm getting a little workout, etc.
    Exactly this! Every job involves being nicer and more courteous to customers than you'd likely be without pay - whether it's an internal customer / coworker in a vanilla job, a client for a business you own, or a dude in a strip club. Maybe try just thinking of them as needy children, for example. Or just Zen your way through it, as TFK suggested. The goal is to make money, and these dudes have money, so your only focus is using any strategies you've got up your sleeve to get them to pay up. It's like a game, right? Forget about your bills while you're at work, and try to just take yourself back to a time when you didn't need the money, and you just enjoyed making whatever you made.

    You'll have good nights and bad nights, but anything is better than the big fat nothing we make when we sit at home and talk ourselves out of working.

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    Quote Originally Posted by trustfundkiller View Post
    Once you start seeing the money flow in again, you'll feel better. I see girls banking everyday, even with the world in this state. Oh, and I try to focus on having fun too. I actually like doing my hair, makeup, getting dolled up, feeling like I'm getting a little workout, etc.
    This is the one thing I miss about dancing. Getting dolled up and getting a workout. And yes, meditating about money flowing my way. This is good advice. Hope you have a prosperous return!
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    And I'm over here like "fuck you, pay me". No non sense, sorry.

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    Default Re: HavenÂ’t danced in over five years, but kinda have to do it again for money reaso

    Thank you so much baby loves. I’ll be re-checking clubs this week and see how much they’ve changed. I do know Exposé (yes, I’m still in south Central Texas) closed down and is now called “Red Rose. I went to XTC as a customer in 2019 with all my girl friends for a bachelorette party (which was THE FUCKING BOMB...in a good way). Club was like 98% Hispanic in most aspects (dancers, music, atmosphere, customers and employees). Lots of curvy, thick girls (yay), which is good...because even when I was skinny, I was what is now colloquially known as “slim-thick”. Like I said above, I’m several sizes smaller than the last time I danced, so my chances of doing better are somewhat better this time. Then again, I’m a bit older (downside) even tho my face hasn’t taken a toll regarding wrinkles.

    Thanks so much for your feedback, words and support. I bought new shoes too lol.





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