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    What should I know about doing private parties? I have an opportunity to go with a girl to dance at a bachelor party. This girl isn't a friend, per se, she's more of a friend of a friend, so my level of trust has yet to be tested with her, and the things she tells me I want to double check through other sources...

    She assures me of our safety, she brings a bouncer from the club she works in for protection. She claims we’ll make about 300 dollars an hour plus tips. She also told me that she does toy parties—for extra money--and went on to explain she basically takes dildos and other sex toys and uses them in front of the guys. Is this common for a bachelor party? I’m not sure how I feel about doing something like that. Dancing is one thing...but sex toys...I don’t know. Is it just a matter of inserting a dildo, or is it more intense than that? Does anyone here have any experience with that? How do guys react? Do they get that much more wild with the appearance of a dildo? She also said some guys want girl-girl shows. Now, I'm afraid to ask--but what does that entail?!? What kinds of games are safe but still go over well with the crowd? Anyone who has advice please help!

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    I do parties, for a good whip-round we shag each other with a strap on and use a double-ender on each other. It's normal. It's not like lapdancing. Be afraid.
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    Guy's perspective:

    I went to a bachelor party a couple months ago where the girls did this. They actually let us use the toys on them; and to be honest, it wasn't all that fun. Basically the girls laid down on a mat, and the guys took turns (like 30 seconds a piece) using a dildo or a vibrator; and more than anything, it was embarassing for us guys because you'd be down there, and 20 of your guy friends would be yelling and making fun of you. Not sexual or arousing at all. That being said, I think we had a pretty respectful set of guys, and I could see this activity getting out of hand with the wrong bunch.

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    i would want no part of that. Talk about degrading. One thing is having a pretty sexy entertainer dancing for a group but toys especially the double ender makes me think of Requirem for a dream. I'll NEVER forget that scene.

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    I work for a company where i go to bachelor partys. Yes this is very common.

    When its just one girl she has the bachelor do it. Its like 2 songs, 2 1/2 minutes each. The price depends on the amount of guys and stuff.

    Then the 2 girls have a bunch of toys. Double headers, strap ons, one that goes on to the guys forhead or chin (ive seen that toy being used both ways)

    Its a lot of extra money, but just think if its something you want to do.

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    First, how much you gotta pay your girl friend?
    How much for the bouncer? He is not gonna be there just for fun and games, he wants money too.
    Don't know about toys. Depending on who does the using, the consequences could be very physically damaging.

    Just my thoughts.

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    It's pretty much optional; I used to do parties with another girl where we did a lot of toy stuff (only with each other; it certainly wasn't an interactive part of the show) but on my own I didn't use them, and I didn't exactly have guys screaming for me to whip out a dildo. I don't think you should do it if it doesn't sound like fun to you. There's a ton of other things you can do that are fun without being really explicit, and to be honest, I think a lot of guys get uncomfortable with the explicit stuff. At a party it's not necessarily a lot of really experienced, hardened sex industry customers. It's just a bunch of guys who feel obligated to hire a stripper since that's part of the tradition for a bachelor party. A few games at the expense of the bachelor and lapdances all around usually suffice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jellob1976
    They actually let us use the toys on them; and to be honest, it wasn't all that fun.
    That would excite the hell out of me.
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    i've done private parties for 5+yrs and never did toy shows. I actually sat in on a couple of shows after i had been done doing a clean single show and noticed that the girls doing toy shows walked away with less in tips then i did. I guess its hit or miss, depends on the guys in the party.

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    sounds like a nasty bachlor party. I think it would be more fun to have a good dancer that could do lap dances and a stage/floor show. Its more classy and tranditinal.

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    Are the majority of all bachelor parties like that? With the toys?

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    i don't think it's so much about ethics as it is about comfort level and the quality of the show. if you're not comfortable with it, you shouldn't do it. you'll feel bad about yourself, and it won't make for a good show. besides, as has been said before, guys can be shy, too- they just feel like they're obligated not to be. i think many of the bachelor party men aren't all that comfortable with hardcore action..... and if they were looking for that, specifically, they'd probably be looking for women from other parts of the sex industry. many dancers are dancers because they want to dance, as apposed to the many other possible activites under the broad umbrella of "sex work". are you hiring yourselves as "dancers" or as "escorts"? that's an important distinction, so you get the customers who are wanting the services you will offer, rather than something more.
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    [QUOTE=Page] I could easily keep a crowd entertained for an hour or more by doing things that were a little risque, but not downright nasty.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Page
    I could easily keep a crowd entertained for an hour or more by doing things that were a little risque, but not downright nasty.
    I run a stripper agency in Connecticut () and toy shows are mandatory, I hit dancers with fines if they forget their vibrators. Bachelor party goers expect to see more; What would be the point of hiring dancers for a bachelor party if they got the same show they've seen at the club. No matter how thrilling, lapdances will eventually get old, especially with bigger crowds with guests who are impatiently waiting for the dancers attention.

    Personally, I find toy shows more entertaining then girl/girl shows and they generate dancers a lot of money (especially the interactive ones). We break our hour shows down into 2 halfs, wild lapdances then toy shows. Audiences can't wait until dancers break out the vibrators, double-sided dildo, strap-ons and crowds save there bigger bills for these type of shows; if the price is right, It's common for dancers to sterlize (run hot water over) Corona bottles or Red Bull cans and use it as there toy. If you have a good crowd they won't respond with just dollars for that type of entertainment

    I am very interested in reading how Page entertains guests without toys!


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    Quote Originally Posted by ctstriptease1
    , It's common for dancers to sterlize (run hot water over) Corona bottles or Red Bull cans and use it as there toy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ctstriptease1
    sterlize (run hot water over) Corona bottles or Red Bull cans and use it as there toy....


    That is not steralization.

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    I wouldnt do it. If I wanted guys to pay to watch me have sex with myself, I'd make a porn or three. It's make me more money.
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    No way!! I went to nursing school and had to learn about sterilization, of course. Not even the dishwasher would clean those toys off, and not even boiling it in hot water.

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    You know i don't understand why a toy show would be something expected at bacholer parties from a dancer. When i think of a bacholor i think you will be getting many types of men men that are married men that don't fruequent strip clubs and things mixed with ones who do. I think classy dancer is best you don't want to go to over the top at an event that is for close family and freinds. Strippers are tradtional but i don't think all bachlor parties want a rauncy porn show. But thats my opione i would not be comfortable with a toy show.

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    Quote Originally Posted by krchab99
    Strippers are tradtional but i don't think all bachlor parties want a rauncy porn show. But thats my opione i would not be comfortable with a toy show.
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    Toy shows & girl/girl shows are the part of the difference between working parties and working clubs. Party goers pay more for parties so they expect more than they would normally see at the club; they want a show, and they want the shows to be interactive (touching boobs, ass smacking, etc.,) and with lots of variety (strap-ons, double ended dildos, whipped cream shows, banana shows, etc.,)

    It's a standard for 99% of the parties we've worked, I've never seen a crowd get upset that a dancer used a toy, and I've never seen a dancer make less than a dancer who didn't do one ...

    P.S. That Corona bottle and Red Bull can trick is really a common thing, I got a black dancer that can hold beer bottles with her ass cheeks!


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    Quote Originally Posted by ctstriptease1
    I've never seen a crowd get upset that a dancer used a toy, and I've never seen a dancer make less than a dancer who didn't do one ...
    So if that is the case, why is it mandatory for your dancers to use the toys @ parties?







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    ctstriptease1 I guess thats normal in your area? *gives odd look* Glad I dont live there.

    Ive heard there are plenty of things to do than toys at parties..such as types of games. I mean youre there for an hour and Im guessing at least with someone else so there is things to do besides toys.

    IMO, I think in some areas with a group of rowdy guys bringing out toys may start get the alcohol flooded brains of the guy thinking how far you will go?
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    Quote Originally Posted by ctstriptease1
    Corona bottles or Red Bull cans and use it as there toy. If you have a good crowd they won't respond with just dollars for that type of entertainment

    I am very interested in reading how Page entertains guests without toys!
    Maybe it's just the area I'm in (Denver) but when I was working for an agency these things were definately the exception to the rule. Most of the girls didn't do toys.

    Maybe guys in Denver are just cheap, but I know I made as much doing a non-toy party as the nasty girls did with toys. In fact, I had a party that I did with another girl who went on and on about what she didn't do (being touched, etc.), and what she did was toys. I told her fine, that I would do my thing without them, and she could do whatever she wanted. After the party she was crying on the way home. Seems she made $80 and I walked away with over $200. The comment I kept hearing was that the guys just wanted to have fun and be entertained, and that I was sweet and classy, and she was overwhelming.

    I'm curious to know what kind of money these girls are making in your area who are doing these things. I easily averaged $300 a party (for an hour) not having to resort to disgusting behavior.

    What kind of dancer do you send to a birthday party for a guy in his 50s? They can't possibly be expecting a toy show, and an hour of lapdances gets really boring quick. Dancers encounter all kinds of people and situations at private shows and it's important to have a variety of things to keep everyone happy and entertained.

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    Kate, your question is interesting, see in pratical if you use dildos infront of guys, no matter they may get wild and you may suffer some problems, so its always better to take care, I am also a guy if some stripper use dildos I will definately get wild and insist her to do more in pratical with me.

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    One of my friends went to a bachelor party at which the girls used toys and allowed the guys to fuck her with the dildo as well. He said it was great.

    That being said, I would be horrified to find that this was expected of me. Especially letting some guy shove a dildo into me. I can see guys getting really carried away and expecting the girl to let them shove "other things" into her as well. And me, I guess I'm sort of a prude, but I'd NEVER be comfortable letting someone other than my fiancee do something like that to me. And if I ever found that my fiancee was screwing some chick with a dildo at his bachelor party I'd probably rip his head off. Lap dance, OK, but they way I figure it, I don't let guys touch me at work, I certainly don't let them insert things into me, so unless he wants me to start doing it at work I wouldn't want him to do these things to a dancer.

    Whew. That was a big mess of rambling.

    Think of it this way-if you wouldn't be comfortable with your sig other doing it with someone, you probably shouldn't let someone do it to you. If you're single, well then I dunno, I'm gonna sound like a prude again, but think about it-the bachelor at least has a s/o and I'm fairly sure she wouldn't be OK with him dildo fucking someone.

    AGH I'm torn-I know girls should do whatever they're comfortable with to make money and if they're comfortable using toys then great, but jeez, if I ever knew my fiancee used a toy on a girl (even at a bachelor or b-day party) I'd be out for blood.

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