Results 1 to 5 of 5

Thread: Girlfriend experience

  1. #1
    God/dess
    Joined
    Nov 2019
    Posts
    2,760
    Thanks
    10,954
    Thanked 8,488 Times in 2,512 Posts

    Default Girlfriend experience

    How do I eloquently let my regulars know they arenít spending enough to have a GFE. I give my phone number and sometimes chit chat with them OTC (non sexual) and sit and cuddle inside the club before and after dances. we usually do dances or VIP. but itís to the point they are only talking and not spending money when they see me at work, or not enough.

    Do i cut them off without explanation or tell them why Iím not longer talking to them as much?

    i could say, ďI like talking to you, but I need you to show me you value our time together.Ē Or be more direct ďIf youíre not spending money on me than I can no longer talk to you?Ē Or the more passive aggressive way of only talking to them when I see them at work, and say Iíve just been busy BS when I ignore non work related texts. I thought about just gradually giving them less time and attention unless the money gets better. The classic well Iím having fun talking to you, but my manager gets mad if he doesnít see me selling dances, so from now on I canít sit and talk as much.

    Iíve been too giving, and now I need to set a boundary with my time and energy, so they donít keep taking advantage.
    Focus more on what you want than on what you donít want

  2. #2
    God/dess indiegirl's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2012
    Posts
    4,023
    Thanks
    2,911
    Thanked 10,291 Times in 3,287 Posts
    My Mood
    Relaxed

    Default Re: Girlfriend experience

    Quote Originally Posted by moneybags View Post
    How do I eloquently let my regulars know they aren’t spending enough to have a GFE. I give my phone number and sometimes chit chat with them OTC (non sexual) and sit and cuddle inside the club before and after dances. we usually do dances or VIP. but it’s to the point they are only talking and not spending money when they see me at work, or not enough.

    Do i cut them off without explanation or tell them why I’m not longer talking to them as much?

    i could say, “I like talking to you, but I need you to show me you value our time together.” Or be more direct “If you’re not spending money on me than I can no longer talk to you?” Or the more passive aggressive way of only talking to them when I see them at work, and say I’ve just been busy BS when I ignore non work related texts. I thought about just gradually giving them less time and attention unless the money gets better. The classic well I’m having fun talking to you, but my manager gets mad if he doesn’t see me selling dances, so from now on I can’t sit and talk as much.

    I’ve been too giving, and now I need to set a boundary with my time and energy, so they don’t keep taking advantage.
    "I've got bills due and have to work now." tends to go well. This is your main source of income and your time isn't free. It's kind of like letting them know "well, I need to make money" in a polite way and it's up to them to offer to do dances.



  3. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to indiegirl For This Useful Post:


  4. #3
    God/dess
    Joined
    Nov 2019
    Posts
    2,760
    Thanks
    10,954
    Thanked 8,488 Times in 2,512 Posts

    Default Re: Girlfriend experience

    Quote Originally Posted by indiegirl View Post
    "I've got bills due and have to work now." tends to go well. This is your main source of income and your time isn't free. It's kind of like letting them know "well, I need to make money" in a polite way and it's up to them to offer to do dances.
    i talk to my therapist. She said I could offer $1000 a month for OTC contact dinner dates, texts, and emotional support.

    It’s just been so programmed that women should do all emotional labor for free that they expect it.

    They’re taking advantage of my kindness. I’ve been setting a lot of boundaries inside and outside of work with my time and energy. I’m very generous with my time and energy, but there comes a point you can’t be because we all have bills to pay

    In fact that’s exactly where I’ll say. Thanks
    Last edited by moneybags; 05-01-2022 at 01:40 PM. Reason: U
    Focus more on what you want than on what you donít want

  5. The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to moneybags For This Useful Post:


  6. #4
    Veteran Member StellaRose's Avatar
    Joined
    Apr 2017
    Posts
    555
    Thanks
    1,603
    Thanked 1,098 Times in 424 Posts

    Default Re: Girlfriend experience

    I just indulge the customers like that. (I don’t talk on the phone tho, I text) I’ve noticed it’s a lot easier to wanna dance the rando customers who tip my stage like that. Do a few dances, offer my number to the customer I met from stage. Try to encourage them to be a regular. Then go back to the other regular I was originally sitting with.

    Sure a lot of them don’t like the behavior of me walking off on them. If they confront me on that, then just smile and tell them that I like them, but I need more help if they want my exclusive attention. Also, they can also scope out and visit whichever other dancer is in the room. I don’t say it all at once like that, or that bluntly. But the point comes across I think.

  7. #5
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Mar 2015
    Posts
    539
    Thanks
    1,028
    Thanked 1,196 Times in 392 Posts

    Default Re: Girlfriend experience

    when i used to work in the club and had regulars that would start spending less, in a cute and friendly manner, i'd say "no money, no honey!" i had some regulars that i'd go to football games with, out to dinner with, i'd always use that line so they knew the treat for me was not the event or chat, it was the money! it's a nice feeling when they pull out their wallet and start giving you money and ask if it's enough and you're like, no, i see more in there, i'll have that too or i can go, thanks! the event/chat/time is the treat for them and they have to pay for that. i was working in the clubs from 98-08...it's been a while, however i think the line would still work.




  8. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to ggminx For This Useful Post:


Similar Threads

  1. The Girlfriend Experience
    By Lola_Bunny in forum Other Work
    Replies: 15
    Last Post: 05-26-2012, 04:11 AM
  2. 'Webcam Girls: The Girlfriend Experience' TV Documentary
    By nmsonline in forum Industry Insight
    Replies: 44
    Last Post: 04-03-2012, 10:13 AM
  3. Girlfriend Experience
    By AdventureBaby in forum Stripping (was Stripping General)
    Replies: 7
    Last Post: 05-17-2010, 01:36 PM
  4. girlfriend experience phrase in escorting
    By atlmorgan in forum Other Work
    Replies: 13
    Last Post: 10-09-2008, 04:32 PM
  5. Virtual sexwork and the girlfriend experience
    By lgrant98001 in forum Other Work
    Replies: 5
    Last Post: 10-29-2007, 07:56 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •