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    Default Would it work against me if I pretend to be married or have kids?

    I am returning to stripping after several years. I am thinking of doing day shift, which is more common for moms and college students.

    I am almost 30 now, but don't have kids nor married.

    Would it make me seem more "normal" and even more "relatable" if I pretended to have kids in school or something? Make up a whole story about my kids, and have one more thing I can talk about and be relatable to the customers (who are likely to be retired, older, or just coming in during work hours for a break)? Pretend I am a wholesome, hard working single mother while her kids are in school.

    Or what about pretending to be married? IDK if that would help or hurt me, and with what sort of customers.


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    Default Re: Would it work against me if I pretend to be married or have kids?

    Just say "I'm engaged" and go from there.

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    Default Re: Would it work against me if I pretend to be married or have kids?

    No. Because then they’d try to get you to a) leave your “husband” for them, b) assume incorrectly “why isn’t her man taking care of her adequately so she doesn’t have to work here?!?”, then default back to a), or think “well I’m not giving any money to her so she can just give to her pimp/husband

    I tell the unsavory ones who try to take me home that I have 4 kids so they can back tf off. Most men are repulsed at the thought of having to actually take care of a kid let alone multiple kids.

    Most likely I would tell them I’m single or I am bisexual/have a lesbian lover
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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    No. Because then they’d try to get you to a) leave your “husband” for them, b) assume incorrectly “why isn’t her man taking care of her adequately so she doesn’t have to work here?!?”, then default back to a), or think “well I’m not giving any money to her so she can just give to her pimp/husband

    I tell the unsavory ones who try to take me home that I have 4 kids so they can back tf off. Most men are repulsed at the thought of having to actually take care of a kid let alone multiple kids.

    Most likely I would tell them I’m single or I am bisexual/have a lesbian lover
    Good point, the captain save-a-ho's and the ones who think your male partner is just a leech or a pimp.

    I remember some strippers years ago sharing pictures of their kids with their customers (and I dont think the customers were regulars either). I don't remember if it was a good hustle or not.

    Saying I am bisexual sounds like something guys would be into.


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    People know I’m married and it hasn’t hurt my money
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    Default Re: Would it work against me if I pretend to be married or have kids?

    I say no. Most men would rather chase after a single woman who has no obligation, other than education, than one in a committed relationship/marriage or a single mother. Especially a young woman with no children.

    When I was in a long-term relationship in my early-20's, I lied to customers that I'm single in order for them to "chase after" me. Meaning repeat customers, aka regulars. A lot of them wise up quickly and vanish, others lasted for a couple of weeks or months and few stayed for the long haul.

    Early on, I've told customers, who showed high interest in me, that I had a boyfriend and then lost interest very quickly. Lesson learned for me. Personally, I just think some men go to strip clubs in hoping to bag themselves a "baddie."
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    Default Re: Would it work against me if I pretend to be married or have kids?

    Honestly you are still so young, ive returned to dancing at the age of 37. This time last year in was getting up early to sit a desk in an office all day. We dont really have day shifts in the UK so i had to get used to the whole working nights again in a party atmosphere with the flashing uv lights and loud music where the bass from the speakers rattles my teeth.
    As for pretending to be married with children, Im of the belief that most men walk in to the club, see me stood there in my tiny stripper outfit and judge me an unattached dirty slut that they have the potential to have sex with.
    That isnt true in the slightest, and sex isnt really my thing, this is a job to me. I'm still the same women whether im in a smart dress in the office or dancing around a pole with a group of girls all in g-strings but it can help to keep the fantasy alive.
    Good luck

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    Default Re: Would it work against me if I pretend to be married or have kids?

    Whatever you decide, just keep in mind, any time you come up with a story, you'll have extra work to do to keep it consistent, especially if you get dayshift regulars. Sometimes its best to just "be yourself" (to a reasonable extent) and appeal to dayshift customers by telling them that you just don't enjoy the party atmosphere of nights anymore or whatever your reason. There are plenty of older customers who will connect with that.
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    Default Re: Would it work against me if I pretend to be married or have kids?

    I don't do that.

    In clubs I'm always single with stories that it's " been awhile " haha !

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    Default Re: Would it work against me if I pretend to be married or have kids?

    Thanks everyone, I'll stick with the single story.

    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Sunset View Post
    Whatever you decide, just keep in mind, any time you come up with a story, you'll have extra work to do to keep it consistent, especially if you get dayshift regulars. Sometimes its best to just "be yourself" (to a reasonable extent) and appeal to dayshift customers by telling them that you just don't enjoy the party atmosphere of nights anymore or whatever your reason. There are plenty of older customers who will connect with that.
    That's a good non-bullshit reason, not enjoying the party atmosphere anymore.


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    Default Re: Would it work against me if I pretend to be married or have kids?

    I'm always "single" in the strip club. We're selling hope and fantasy. But I also try to steer the conversation away from personal details about relationships and family.

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    Quote Originally Posted by trustfundkiller View Post
    I'm always "single" in the strip club. We're selling hope and fantasy. But I also try to steer the conversation away from personal details about relationships and family.
    That's what I thought. But then some guys are dicks about it like trying to call you out instead of just going along with the fantasy. "Why are you still single" like lol wtf how do you respond to that? Why did you ask if you're not just gonna accept that I am single and fantasize about it?


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    Don't waste time of those guys. Sell that hope and fantasy to guys with has high interest in you.

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