This may be long and not very well organized, but I would like some input about how I should handle unpleasant changes in my club.
I have worked at this club for over 3 years. I waitressed for about a year and have been dancing for over 2 years. Occasionally some of our rules have gotten more lax. For instance, when I started dancing, we were not allowed to spread our legs, even on the couches. But slowly, this has changed and it has not bothered me. I am comfortable spreading and when some girls started doing it, I did too.
Some rules have remained pretty consistent though. Mainly, the customers cannot touch us and we are not allowed to grind. Within the last couple of months though, suddenly, there has been a surge of "against the rules" behavior going on and nothing is being done about it. So it has become clear that these things are acceptable, and I am not comfortable with it. But I can no longer say to the customers, "no, it is against the rules", when he can easily look around and see other girls letting customers touch or whatever.
Also a couple of months ago, our VIP room prices changed. It used to be $100 to use the room and $50 of that went towards a bar tab. So you got $50 worth of drinks and you stayed up there until the $50 was used and then you could renew it or be done. (VIP is right by the couch dance area, open door, translucent curtains.) Now VIP price has gone up to $250 an hour. No drink tab. It has been used a lot less since then. I think there is also a correlation between increase on mileage on the couches and the increase in VIP price. I think that customers expect more in the VIP room now. And I think that things that were previously done in VIP by some dancers are now being done out in the open on the regular couches. Yet, no rules are being enforced.
The type of things I am taking about- well, there is simply a lot of dancers letting customers touch their back, hips, legs, or kiss or lick them. Some dancers are letting customers touch breasts or between their legs. One dancer very openly lets customers lick her between her legs. Blatant grinding- whole song (or more) grind sessions. One dancer wears a flared short skirt while she does her couch dances and lets customers put their hands up under the skirt.
When I first saw the oral sex going on, I wrote our owner a letter explaining that I was worried about being sexually assulted. If someone got a dance from the girl who allowed that and then I danced for him and he leaned forward and licked me when I was in a vulnerable position, I would feel assulted. He did not respond to me.
Some of the girls complained to the housemom, so I did too. She wrote a memo saying that if customers touch you, you will be sent home. Within the hour, it was clear that it would not be enforced.
So I don't really know what to do. I wrote my opinion about this on SCL, but now other dancers are calling me old and bitter. And saying that I dance dirty too. I have gotten a lot more intimate in my couch dances than I used to, but I still don't grind or let customers touch me.
There are 2 other clubs here, but they are both higher mileage than mine. I may be old, but I'm not bitter (yet) and I'm not ready to quit yet. I love dancing. I just wish I had a safe environment to do it in like I used to. Any suggestions?



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