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    Well, here goes, I am in the mood to gush. I know that many of us girls have had more than a few horrid experiences with other dancers. They steal our clothes, break into our lockers, spread rumors and hatred, roll their eyes when we are on stage, and all sorts of wicked other things. But this message is for two types. One, the type of girl who comes to a club, talks to nobody, trusts nobody, likes nobody, and basically acts like all the other girls are her enemy. Second, this is for the girls who are new, and are scared of the 8-10 girls who have been there for a long time and seem to exclude everyone else from their little club. I write this because I am one of the girls in that little club. At my club, the back row of lockers is called Stony Row. I will let you draw your own conclusions as to how we got that name. ; ) There are eight of us. Our lockers, inside and out, are covered with pictures, stickers, poetry, movie quotes, song lyrics and just about anything else we can tape up. At first glance, it just looks like a huge collage of junk, but if you look closely, you will see our children, our families, our pets, our deepest thoughts, the things that keep us going, the memories that make us laugh, and our hearts bared for all to see. Most of all, you would see that each one of us appears on all the other lockers. We support each other, look out for each other, and love each other. We have been through divorces, miscarriages, domestic abuse, illness, deaths, and all other tragedies and personal struggles imaginable. We are a family of women with strong bonds, and I am eternally grateful for each of them. Our Stony Row is our safe haven, our sorority, and our home. When I am 70, I will remember every tear that was shed, every hand that was held, and every roll of laughter, and I will be grateful for the bonds with these women that I call family. To the girls who say they are at work to make money and not friends, I hope you find someone to lean on when you need it, because you are missing out on one of the best things about being a dancer. To the girls who are new and nervous around the veterans, be friendly, we won't bite unless you truly do deserve it. We are not a bunch of snobs that look down on everyone else. If you try to get to know us, we are a beautiful collection of wild and wonderful girls with big hearts. Make those bonds with someone, cause honey you're gonna need it. Ok, enough rambling. Winter, if you read this, thanks for letting me know about this board, and even though you are not a full-fledged member of The Row, you are welcome back for a toke and a smile anytime! Love, Gia

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    That sounds just like my club. There's a small group of us that stick together and heve been through thick and thin. We've gotten the nickname The Stilletto Mafia. Sounds completely negative but we are a family!

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    I am that girl who goes to work to make money, not friends. However, i say hello and good-bye to all i meet. I come across as rude, yes. And i admit this. I would never attack or hurt another dancers feelings.

    But, i responce to your message i have seen far to many friends turned enemies quickly. My policy was to keep your job just that a job. I have many friends who dance, and friends who don't. My support system lies within my family and friends outside the clubs i worked. I felt it better that way. No drama if you don't get involved. It has worked for me for many years.


    I work the same way at the hospital, i do my job. Thats what i get paid for. I am nice to others, but drive to work not hang out at work. Don't let this come across the wrong way, everyone has their own ways of dealing with people. If i worked your club i would come across as a snob, but thats not what i am, i just want to do my job, step on no ones toes, and go home!

    Whatever works for you hun..Fantastic! keep it going. I chose another path, that not once put me in the face of drama, and i have worked many many years as a dancer. (only one, my car got al scratched.)

    I kept out of gossip, and built a reputation as a "serious dancer," that is what i was "tagged" and that was fine. No one messed with me, because i had nothing to say about anyone. They knew this.

    Other dancers were competetion. And i admit i wanted the attention, and worked my ass off to get it, and earned alot of respect with who matters...The customers!

    Dancers come and go. But customers keep coming back!

    I don't dislike anyone dancer i worked with, i just kept to myself. (exclude the "extras," they deserved the managemnets attention when on my shift.)

    Pamela PS who does not toke

    PS sorry phone kept rirnging between this posting.

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    I agree with Pamela. I'm there to work. I'll be civil to the other girls, but I won't go out of my way to be friends. Did that in the past and learned the hard way, it's hard to keep an honest friendship. Girls I totally trusted and thought to have bonded with turned right around and stabbed me in the back. Jealousy will get the best of them. It's a shame really. Maybe I come across snobby or what not, but hey, if that's what it takes to stay away from the bullshit, so be it. As far as dancers hanging in there together, I love this site. We all seem to get along fabulously! Other than that, my husband, friends and family outside of work are there for me to lean on when I need it. You ladies too. You're there for me when I need it. And we really can't get jealous of each other on here either, can we!
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    I'm with Megan and Pamela. I go to work to make money. I have family and friends to lean on, not to mention SW.

    At my old club I was friendly with everyone and had a few really close friends. It was a small club, 20-25 girls on a busy night. Some nights it was too easy to talk with my friends rather than hustle.

    I have since moved out of state and lost contact with these girls. Some of the girls I have not tried to contact nor have they tried to contact me. One girl I tried to contact and talked to for awhile. She had gotten married and didn't seem very happy. She got another call while she was talking to me and told me she would call me back and never did.

    I would rather spend my time hustling than making friends that I will have no contact with in a few years. Plus I work in Vegas. The clubs here have 200+ girls in night. A lot of them are traveling. Some of the girls I have met here I never see again because they are traveling or off to a new club. It is hard to make friends here. I smile at everyone I walk by and make small talk with some girls, but I will not go out of my way to make friends. Outside of work I don't have the time to invest in any friendships either. I feel I don't have much in common with a lot of these girls. A lot of dancers are in the drug and party scene. I'm done with that and don't want to be around it. I find I have much more in common with the girls on SW.

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    i keep to myself( thought i will say hi) make my money and go this way ...i stay clear of gossip...nothing worse than a dressing room full of strippers gossiping about each other
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    I went to an all-girls, private high school & was in a sorority for 3 years & now I work at a strip club so I guess I can say I know how girls are... I love girls (not in That way) and hate them at the same time.

    Personally, I am there to work, but since I am a nice, friendly person, I am nice to pretty much everyone & b/c of this, I am well-liked and I guess you could say "popular." I'm not one to sit by myself suring the slow times, but rather sit with the group & chat over drinks or cigarrettes. I have friends within the club but I don't hang out with them outside of work unless we decide to grab a bite to eat after work. I don't plan to keep in touch with any of the other dancers when I quit & move back to CA in 6 months, so that says a lot.

    But like Kobi said, since I work at a fairly small club (about 12-20 girls on weeknites) it is easier to make friends than it would be working at a large club, so maybe thats why it's like this for me...

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    I'm just there to work, and I'm pretty good at staying out of crazy girl drama, but I do wind up trying to help some girls and getting sucked in too much. I'm too nice :-( But then if I didn't try to help at least some of them I wouldn't like myself very much.

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    It seems like when I let another dancer get comfortable in my zone, she's the one bitch I gotta watch for. Cause she's the one to stab you in the back... [flaming] Like the old saying "Keep your friends close and your enemies even closer..." I'm all about me and my money...
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    I would love to get along with all the dancers and chat, even have a solid support system. However, when girls get desperate and greedy, watch your back. Some will cut your throat off for money. Jealousy runs rampant in strip clubs, I see this and I'm a newbie. I have one buddy at my job and I really like her. She is 27, 6 years older than me and mature. I feel most comfortable around her b/c she watches out for me! She'll let me know when she has food, one night I had on the wrong t-bars and she gave me her brand new, in case of emergency pair. Some girls could care less about anyone other than themselves. I understand both points of view on having support systems and keeping to yourself, and I think keeping to yourself might be better, but as a newbie I can say there will be times when you need a "stripper friend."

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    Oh and I had a black girl at the club recently tell me that I should try to look out for all the black girls, meaning help them out, forget about the white girls. First of all, most of the black girls at my club will talk shit about you and then smile in your face. Why should I help them and separate myself from the other girls b/c there is so few black girls and we need to stick together. Whatever, the girl that I hang with is half Puertorican/Mexican and was way more welcoming to me than any of the black girls. Stuff like that will make a girl stay away from the rest of the dancers.

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    I gotta say I really like TheMuse's post

    I think the bonding that can occur (like she is talking about) is a real bonus. I guess it would be more simple to just be a loner but I'm glad I wasn't like that, I would have missed out on alot of love,joy and support.

    Welcome Muse. I was really warmed reading your post.

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    I had a club like that. I usually keep to myself, but after having worked at that club for months I suppose everyone just decided I was an "old-timer".

    We had good times. So much so, in fact, that when business went to shit it took me two months to decide to leave the good times and my girls behind to find a club that would pay the bills.
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    Thanks to everyone for their insight. I did, of course, mean for the post to be a warm celebration of female bonding and not a judgement of anyone's choices. I am far too off the beaten path to be judgemental of anyone! ; ) And I do agree with sevral of you girls who have said that some friends will turn on you. I have seen greed come between good friends. The way I like to think of it is that for every time a girl stabs me in the back and gets money that would have been mine, there will be another time that a friend will clue me on to a table with money when she finds it first. Stripper's Karma, I suppose!

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    Hey there girl, finally read your post! For the most part work is for making money and i would normally side with Pamela on this generalized statement of make money not friends...BUT...our club is very unique(worked there 2 years prior to my return) and for such a large, upscale club we have very beautiful down to earth gals that i will defend and stick by, just as i hope they do for me. Some individuals do not have the luxury of family, and may have moved excetera...so friends at work are their support! I feel honored to be assosicated with a club where this can happen...it creates a friendly environment for those visiting as well as the guys that come in regularly, it is like you can feel a sense of "love" , you can feel something beyond the facade of the normal hustle. I love my club, and i am sure anyone visiting or stopping in to work will love it too! Thank you 'themuse'...i am glad that someone took into account my input,(about this site)...see what i mean, my clubs gals deserve a big ol' round of applause!

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    One other thing...in pondering this take on work...office workers oftentimes go out for drinks together, throw parties, socialize with one another, why should we be any different? I personally had difficulty in relating to my fellow office mates(when working in this environment) but find much solace and comrodery in my fellow dancers. For the most part, these gals are more open, accepting and understanding of alternative lifestyles, different people and humanity than any other general group. For someone like me(and others as well) who has had difficulty in making female friends in the "normal" world, this club environment is a sanity saver for me...i need to talk with women, to share and talk girly stuff with...so thanks to all those ladys who make this possible for me and others like me!

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    I enjoy talking with the girls, but I don't hang around the ones who always diss the other girls. I'm not mean to them, I smile, say hello, help them if they're hurring to get ready, but thats as far as that goes. No deep conversation, just non contrversial, like with costomers.
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