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    ALrightly, well I've taken everyone's advice and took a week off work... I figured this bouncer would get the hint and leave me alone... NO WAY! I just got a message that he called the other day... how many phone calls do I have to blow off for him to get the point?! I don't want to make things awkward by straight up telling him I don't want to see him. I want to HINT at it so he can save face and not get butt hurt about it and will leave me alone! I'm friends with the club's tax attorney and (he promised not to do anything about it but he's really pissed that I'm getting bugged like this) he talked to the owner saying, "if one of your employees was sexually harrassing one of the girls, what would you do?" and the owner was like "he'd be GONE!! Who is it who is it who is it!?!?!" But the guy wouldn't say who. Now, I don't consider myself sexually harrassed because if i got in his face and said "fuck off" I'm pretty damn sure he would! So... any ideas on SHAKING this guy?! I really thought avoiding him would work but my time off is over tomorrow and I'm going back and I know it's gonna be the same thing... "so, we're hanging out tonigt right? WHy not, why not? Blow your friends off. How bought tomorrow? How bought this?"
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    The easiest way to blow a guy off without an F-you is the good old line, "Me and my boyfriend got back together." Shrug your shoulders and just mention your 'boyfriend' every time he tries to bug. Don't be too friendly with him after that, always be 'busy' or in a hurry to get somewhere else and eventually he'll get the hint.

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    i agree with mariah. tell him that and surly he will leave you alone. does he just bother you at work or is it at home and cell phone too? just curious. ???

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    Default Re: Really Need Some Advise Here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Bella,
    I realize you don't want to make waves, but your safety & happiness is very important.

    talk to management, maybe you & he can be scheduled at different times. that will keep his eye off you and maybe he'll go elsewhere.

    tell him your seeing someone, that's not into the club scene, so that's why "he" doesn't pick you up.

    If that doesn't help go to the owner.

    Good Luck
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    yes i agree with the others i think you should tell him you are seeing someone and whenever he trys to get your attention let it be known that you are busy and therefore have no time for him
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    I totally agree with everyone else, tell him that you are taken and that's that. But if he doesn't leave you alone at that point then you definately need to go to management. You have to look out for yourself. Good luck.
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    Yes, he bugs me at work to. He's always trying to find me, drag me over to his post (he's the door guy), and badger me into going out with him that night. The DJ knows and always trys to call me over to his booth whenever he sees the door guy trying to talk to me. So, I'll hide up there. THen, this guy is on the walkie talkies telling the DJ to send me back down to him. He'll even just walk up to the DJ booth. Whenever someone comes in and gets a bunch of dances from me, he'll get pissed and tell me he wants to punch the guy... I ask him why and he insists that it's not because he's dancing with me but because the guys a jerk. I'm like, uh yea, they kinda all are. I mean, sheesh. It would be impossible for me to schdule myself around him because he used to work mon-thurs but now he works EVERY day! I don't know how that happened? That's good though, I'm gonna tell him I got back together with my bf. I'll keep you guys posted. The only prob is, I don't want to piss off the other bouncers that are friends with him. There isn't another club Id rather be at.
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    The way I handle these guys is to straight up tell them to leave me alone. I don't try to play nice because THEY'RE not playing nice. There's only so much being nice you can do with this type, because they NEVER get the hint. I don't get mean or bitchy, but I tell them in a straight and no-bullshit manner that they need to leave me alone and let me do my job. After that I don't talk to them at all, just breeze on by. They always come up apologizing later.

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    Why are some guys so f'en dense?!
    I'm with Bridgette on this. I don't think telling him you're back with your bf will make a difference. It just might make him more persistant especially if you're not getting picked up and dropped off by a guy. Then you'll have to deal with the I'm better than him bs.
    You have to just pull him aside an explain the hard fact that there's not going to be anything between you ever. Do it in a nice way and explain how uncomfortable it is for you to come to work. Just make sure you do it where you'll have some back-up if necessary. If that doesn't work, it sounds like you would be totally covered by management.
    Good luck!

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    Ok it's fine for him to bother you, and you lose money. But you don't want to hurt his feelings by saying "leave me the hell alone!" I don't get it. Bella..Tell him to get lost. End the problem now! The longer this goes on the harder on YOU this may get.

    Pamela

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    I AM TOTALY RIGHT WITH PAMELA.
    Bella, be honest, tell him you don't want any contact anymore! really girl because if you don't do it now then he wil never stop. change your number also.
    arrgg this stupid men, why men are sometimes so puff slow from understandings!

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    Give me his address, Me and "Cousin Vinny" will make him an offer he can't refuse.......

    Just Kidding, I think the ladies here have given you the best advise, Just be careful how you go about it, alot of these bouncers think that you need to give in to them. Best of luck. Keep us posted, I don't want to have to get upset

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    i agree with some of the others here, just flat out tell him, if he still doesn't take the hint go to management. you deserve a good work enviornment, you are probably asked out by enough customers anyway so you don't need employee's to get into the act also

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    Trust me the boyfriend thing NEVER works, I've been there, done that, and am still using that excuse and it still doesn't work. Just be straight up with him but be nice about it, but make sure your clear about your point. The only other thing I could think of is tell him your ex ruined you for all men and your only going to date women from now on! lol

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    The only other thing I could think of is tell him your ex ruined you for all men and your only going to date women from now on! lol
    Uh uh - the into women excuse doesn't work either, that just turns them on more, or they flat don't believe it. Better just tell him to bug off.

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    A lot of guys are pretty dense when it comes to figuring out where they're not wanted. Just be up front and honest and tell him you're not interested. Be nice. If he still doesn't get it, try being as blunt as possible about it. Failing that, get the manager to kick him in the ass. You shouldn't have to worry about problems with your co-workers as well as the customers.

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    I told him yesterday that I hated men passionatly and never wanted to see another one as long as i lived. I'm pretty damn sure he got the hint If not, the bf tactic thank you guys SO MUCH
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