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    So I took my wife out to a club, and I thought it was odd that as the ladies started to make their way towards our table (presume for a dance or chit-chat), they would spot the wifey, and make a beeline in the other direction! It wasn't like my wife was shooting nasty looks or anything, but was just wondering if this is common?

    p.s. pretty sure I wasn't scaring anyone away (I showered and even put on some purdy clothes!)

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    I'm like that. Couples are very iffy so I avoid them. So many women are uncomfortable being there that I just don't even bother with them unless there are no better options or they really seem to like me.

    Here are the problems, from this dancer's POV:
    Couples don't want to spend double for the price of a dance, so they are less likely to buy dances, especially in multiples.
    Men don't want to go on their own (for a dance) because they don't want to risk pissing off the girl.
    Women don't want to go on their own because they are uncomfortable with dancers.
    Those women that are comfortable seem to be especially grabby.
    A lot of those couples are swingers looking to pick up a dancer for a threesome or they are trying to spice up their sex life by getting turned on by the stage show.


    It's just not worth it most of the time.

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    I'm like that. Couples are very iffy so I avoid them. So many women are uncomfortable being there that I just don't even bother with them unless there are no better options or they really seem to like me.

    Here are the problems, from this dancer's POV:
    Couples don't want to spend double for the price of a dance, so they are less likely to buy dances, especially in multiples.
    Men don't want to go on their own (for a dance) because they don't want to risk pissing off the girl.
    Women don't want to go on their own because they are uncomfortable with dancers.
    Those women that are comfortable seem to be especially grabby.
    A lot of those couples are swingers looking to pick up a dancer for a threesome or they are trying to spice up their sex life by getting turned on by the stage show.


    It's just not worth it most of the time.
    Good information on a subject I hadn't heard much about.

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    I agree with Emily. I never dance for a couple or a girl unless they stop me in my tracks and ask me. Women at the stripclub can be very rude and catty. I don't like dancing for the women who are doing it for their date and are visibly uncomfortable. I don't like dancing for the man when their woman is watching. I danced for one guy who's girl is the one that called me over to the table and paid for the dance. She became very rude after she saw how much her man liked me. I think the women can be more rude and insulting than the men! There have only been three girls that I liked dancing for. One had never had a dance and was curious. We went to our own area where none of her friends were. She was very respectful. The other two were gorgeous dancers from out of town. They were sexy, respectful, and the dance was just for them, not for everybody to watch and make a big ordeal. Plus, dancers will spend more money!

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    i like to approach the women... if they seem comfortable... i give them more attention usually than the man... it takes a lot of guts to accompany your man to the strip club...(i know i was there once myself before i was a stripper)... and a dancer approached me and sold me a lapdance and i loved being part of the fun!!! ;)

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    I always talk to couples.I have danced for more girls than I can remember.None of the other girls at my club will approach them.
    Mosts times I just stop by to say hi,and make sure the girls are comfortable.
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    Yup Emily hit right on the nail. I dont approach couples. When I see them I'd just walk by and smile. I once came up to a guy that I had danced for him for his bachelor party. I came up just to say hi and wanted to introduce myself to his wife, before I could introduce myself she was a real rude to me and I decided to back off and left.

    I do give girls dances only if they ask for it. I dont like givnig dances to girls who would only please their boyfriends/husbands. I could see the look on their faces. Couple of times after I finish giving dances for either couple they would ask me to go home with them. I of course refused and excused myself out.



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    I agree with heidi. Yes some women can be major assholes in the club but seriously how many men can be assholes themselves. A lot! I always approach couples. I feel uneasy about it sometimes but hey it is twenty dollars. The points emily made are also true but usually all the girls have the same view and ignore the couples who sit and sit and wait for a dancer to approch them. Usually I at least get to dance for the women and her man! That is an easy fourty bucks. In fact when all the girls were bitching about how much the floor sucked I had just made a hunderd bucks off of one couple. Yes you will run into defensive women but who cares. I run into guys acting like jerks all the time but I just deal with it the same way. Just smile, say "ok have a good time", and walk away!!!

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    My wife loves to go with me but when she does the dancers do not come to our table. It really makes for a sucky night when she thinks she is running off all the dancers. I think if the female partner is there she must be into it a little. So don't be affraid to come to our table.
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    It took me an entire year to even learn how to be comfortable with doing a dance for a woman. A lot of women who go to clubs are actually more likely to insult a dancer by asking if her if she wants to go home with them. A stripclub is not a swingers club or a brothel. I have learned how to deal with women as customers in strip clubs; but I really don't like it when women come to what is supposed to be a gentlemens club. It makes it very tough for us to make any real money. I don't think that women should be allowed at all. There are special clubs for that sort of thing. Yes it is possible to make an extra couple of bucks; but I always think "if wifey weren't here I'd probably be able to get this guy into VIP and make much more than $20". I, like most dancers, only approach couples as a last resort because they rarely buy more than one dance. When I do approach couples I always pay way more attention to the female so that they don't get upset.

    Please realize that I am not trying to be rude when I ask this question to men who may be reading this.

    Food for thought - Would you go with your wife to Chip n' Dales Male Review and ask one of the male strippers for a lap dance?
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    dighost I understand your dilemma. When hubby and I frequent clubs, most of the dancers avoid our table as well. Before I went to a strip club I understood this issue with dancers and couples, therefore I was prepared and was insulted. I always appear to be enjoying myself and smile and even pay compliments to the dancers. I feel a bond while at the club and the girls are always very friendly and I think most can sense this. May I also mention I get very offended by the thought of these girls being judged for what they do to support themselves. The women that are catty and rude are insecure and threatened...that is their problem (no wonder their husbands/bfriends go to strip clubs to be surrounded by confident women!!).

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    I have found the dancers that do approach me or our table are extremely confident. I end of talking with them and paying more attention to them then my hubby! I know the dancer does not think she will make much money from me, but I always buy dances. I am a paying customer and look forward to spending our money at the clubs.




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    In the last couple of years, for some reason, women have showed interest in me as a dancer. I always wait for them to approach me first. If they seem shy, I butter them up w/ compliments. If they are older and not too attractive, I tell them how hot they are. I have had a couple go overboard and want to hug me and kiss me ???

    I guess you wouldn't call "man-handleing". Would it be "woman-handleing?"

    I did have a big woman take me for a private dance and this bitch bit my breast!!!! Someone from management told me this person was a transvestite :o

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    Usually you can tell by the look on the woman's face if she is comfortable or not. I've encountered women in the stripclub with their guy friends that talk trash during their whole duration of the visit. Bitches! Usually they aren't nearly as attractive as the girls. If you weren't a confident woman, wouldn't you feel threatened by beautiful half-naked girls walking around? Too bad, so sad, don't come to the club f you are insecure. I have approached these tables, some good, some bad. One time I had this girl walk up to me and get her boyfriend a lapdance for his b-day, it was so sweet! I brought him back to the table and thanked the girl. The whole table was really nice.

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    i can tell you most times i've been to strip clubs i'm either with a boyfriend or another female friend and when i have the cash i drop it more than most guys do. i like to go to vip and treat me and my guy friends to all the laps and drinks they want and that includes a significant other if i am with one. i guess i'm the exception rather than the rule but what this says is don't assume too much when you see a girl. last time i went out i was with my uncle who looks like he could be my bf and i bought him $100 of laps before we even went into the vip. and when i'm with a girl friend the guys like to see us getting dances from girls and we are totally into it and no weirdness whatsoever. that one you pass over could make your night!
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    I am also unsure of how or if to approach couples, so I did some undercover work by going to a strip club with my boyfriend and seeing how other ladies handled it (which was quite a good time! ). So my boyfriend and I were sitting at a table and all of a sudden this one dancer just jumped onto my boyfriend's lap! I was like, damn, this girl has BALLS! We got a couple dances from her, and it was fun, but if I wasn't a dancer myself I would have been pretty pissed at some girl just jumping onto my boyfriends lap, so I made a mental note to NOT take this approach at my club. The second girl we ended up getting dances from just came up to us and kneeled in between us and talked for a few songs, we got several dances from her but she was pretty chatty and talked more than she danced. Oh well. However, out of almost 100 girls those were the only two who approached us. I will still approach men before I approach couples, but I won't rule couples out.

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    I approach couples but I save my big smile for the woman. I ask HER if she'd like a dance. The key is to make the woman feel comfortable and not piss her off by only paying attention to hubby.

    And when I see women in the audience (me on stage) looking at me shitty (you know the one's who's man dragged them in there) arms crossed, scowls on their face or even looks of disgust, well those girls get it from me baaaaaad. I will stay in the same spot holding eye contact with their man, showing it ALL while briefly making eye contact with miss bitch to blow her a kiss.


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    LOL, Sapphire - I do the same thing on stage. I can never understand how come these cranky bitches end up sitting in front row with their guys. At first it bugged me and I would avoid them, but now I have so much fun with it [devil]

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    I really enjoy reading these!

    I've never danced for a woman because they are not so common where and when I've worked. But on the few occasions I've seen them in the club, they tip me bloody well! It's mainly during my stage performances where the club has a tipping rail. Maybe they are paying me to entertain them from afar and keep the hell away from their partners!!!
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    I can never understand how come these cranky bitches end up sitting in front row with their guys. At first it bugged me and I would avoid them, but now I have so much fun with it [devil]
    yeah, it's definately a form of evil entertainment! [devil] [devil] [devil] [angelfly]


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    I will only come up to a couple if a girl looks comfortable and looks good! That was I will actually enjoy my dance. My line is usually simple "Hi, do you guys want to try a "couple dance"?" In my club it's the same price in VIP room or lap dances for a 1 guy or a couple so it makes it a little easier.

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    Here's my problem... My husband has told me that I look very mean and snobby and preoccupied or generally like I have a pipe shoved up my ass (LOL) when I go with him to the strip club. But I do love women! I'm a stripper myself and whenever I dance I always make sure to visit the women even if they are with a man to see if they'd like a dance. Now how do I look more appeasing when I'm a customer so that dancers will approach me? I always approach women no matter what. Usually they get happy when I get close.

    Did you ever think that women look unhappy to be there because no dancer will approach them and offer them a dance? Or they could be upset because their man is missing out on the fun too, since you won't approach with them being there?

    Also, would it help if my husband didn't put his arm around me or show that he loves me? Does this deter you from approaching our table? Its very hard for us to watch that gorgeous woman walk around to every table but ours. My husband could be eyeing her all night long and just waiting patiently to spend money on her. It always ends up that we have to go track down a dancer ourselves if we want a private dance or any attention at all.

    So please women, don't count out the couples in the club. They have money to spend too!

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    i have no problem approaching couples for a dance or chit chat.
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    There are usually three types ofwomen in the strip club and the first part of my job is to identify your type b/4 I go over. Actually, identifying your type will let me know whether or not to approach you at all. There is room for variation as with anything but they do tend to be as follows:

    1. I'm here b/c I want to be as part of a couple/group and just wanna have fun hanging at the club.
    2. I'm here at the request of my partner/group. I am shy and do not know what to expect but am open to receiving a dance and/or having a good time after you get me outta my shell. A couple of beers and a little watching the scene will have me hanging out and partying with the best of them.
    3. He/They made me come. I don't wanna be here so I'm going to be bitchy and rude my entire visit and seek solace in alcohol and end up drunk loud and rude. If you come over I'll ask u rude questions or loudly comment about you or any other dancer as you walk nearby or come into my line of sight.

    That generally sums it up. People in group one can be gay/straight/bi, other dancers or anyone but are the most fun to dance for. Group two takes work but the time you invest is more than worth the money they spend. Once the woman in group two is comfortable you've likely got yourself someone who'll spend money every time she comes in and you are there. Group three is easy to spot b/c her dirty looks are apparent across the room. Her mate or members of her group may pull you over but your best bet is to speak and keep going. Keep contact with this group minimal unless you have a sure dance from another person at this table. If not, this bitch is gonna make you wanna slap her the more her liquid courage quotient goes up.
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    my first two or three times going I was worried that I was either going to offend the dancers (by somehow seeming to make my guy friends unavailable to them) or that they would push me out (by taking them to VIP while I sat there alone. Several dancers came to ask if we were having a good time but that was it. Only one girl (out of all the times we went) was ballsy enough to ask ME if she could dance for my friend (and you bet your ass I sent him off with her). Then when I came back for the amateur contests, I tipped them and talked with them and they opened up a lot. I guess most dancers are wary of girls in the club cuz they never know what reaction they'll get. But once they knew I appreciated and respected (and was even jealous) of what they did, they LOVED having me there--I would help them get dances/tips by tiping them and whatever else I could do.

    Let me give props to *Diamond* from my club--she was sitting with a guy and I came to sit at the table next to her, by myself. She stoped talking to him and talked to me instead. She asked if I was here for the amateur night again (she had been there last time too) and was very encouraging, saying it would be great if I worked there. Then, sly girl that she is, she asked me if I "knew how to give a lap dance". Not realizing her intentions, I said that I had thought about coming in on another night with my bf and getting a dance but I thought that some dancers might not want to do that cuz it might be weird. I didn't realize that that was even a hustle until quite a while later--smooth girl!!!!! I felt so bad--I didn't mean to diss her (by saying "OTHER dancers might think...") or anything, I seriously didn't catch on! I guess she didn't mind asking because she knows I'm interested in dancing and I always try my hardest to tip the girls. Too bad I'm broke!! But I promised myself that if I ever have the money to get a dance, I'll go to her first!

    So the lesson is...don't always be afraid to approach women/couples. Some women are bitches, yes, but sometimes others just need to know that you are friendly and actually want their attention. Try to show the women that you are not threatened by them and that they have no need to be threatened by you!
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    Wow, what an interesting thread...

    I am as heterosexual as they come, but would *much* rather watch a women dance than watch a man. No desire at all to watch a male stripper. But I do love beautiful women. I don't think that is so weird or unusual.

    I live in a city that is very open to many kinds of sexuality. bi, gay, hetero, poly. To me, the idea of a club for men specifically to watch women is very old fashioned.

    Different regions have different moralities. In some ways Vegas/Nevada is *very* conservative and old-fashioned. Or at least it was 10 years ago. The "sin city" reputation seems to be built off a 1950's morality.

    Last club I went to with my ex, he was visiting from CA, there were other couples... he commented that he thought it was cool that men could bring women into the club, that he'd not seen that before. And I found it entertaining to watch the interaction between the men and women and dancers. One woman was at the rack with her boyfriend, a dancer grabbed her and flirted with her very aggressively. Yeah, the girl was a bit taken aback... but she *was* at the rack, and the men LOVED it (I enjoyed it, too). & the dancer left the stage with armfuls of bills. whee!

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