You all are killing me.
I live in NC and have been dancing here and other places close for 11 years. I am not in the best shape of my life now, but not bad after having my first and only child. When I first started dancing you were expected to be the Dollhouse style of girl with your hair & nails, tan, nice long dresses, pumps, etc. The classy thing. When I go back to work at Christie's (yes the chain here in podunk NC)I am now one of the classiest girl there (that's not a pump up, just a testament to how far the biz has fallen). If I could walk out of there with even $150 a night I would be very very happy. This is what it is in small to medium town America now. You big city girls need to recognize. Really.
I have a college education and can talk to almost anyone; I know when to sit down and when to leave; when to drink and when to stay sober, when to play Van Halen and when to play Jay-Z. I can feel the crowd. I know my business. I know when to ignore the girls, how to make them feel welcome, how to not piss off my DJ, how to respect my manager without cowtowing, how to make friends instantly with my waitress, how to get my guy to tip her.I know my shit. I can hang with the best,or I'll give it my damndest (especially when I get my boobs in Sept.!)
I dare you to walk in to my club (if you are older than 25) and go up against these stupid, vapid, classless & tasteless no-talent 18-22 year olds (no offense to you girls of that age here; most of you get it). They can't dance. They can't do their hair worth a shit. They can't talk. They can't walk unless they have on those stupid clunky ugly heels they bought at payless with 15 straps on them. They can't move on stage; they have NO rythym and can't concieve of stage presence. And they DON'T have boob jobs.
They'll straddle a guy on the floor and let him suck her tits in the back room; they'll give him a hand job in the vip. If she's older & has her tits done, she'll smother him and sit on his dick for 30 min. straight while making arrangements to meet him outside the club. And that's being nice.
(At least, this was how it was awhile ago; when I went in last week I made my $80 off an older man who had to go home at 11; and I must be too old for the young guys at 31. I think they are trying to clean it up; but it's slow).
The girl who I trained 4 years ago is now having some $250-$300 nights about 4 times a month because HER REGULARS are there-the night before I went in, she made $50.
You really offend me by saying that I don't try, or that I don't pay attention to myself or my self esteem. My education is good; my mother was a PHD in English and my dad a math professor; I was brought up on Thoreau and Whitman. I know I look decent and have always room for improvement; I never ever walk into work without my tan,nails, hair, jewelry, clean dresses, shoes clean, pedicure.I have professional ballet training from age 5 to 15; I was in a DCI taught by an Alvin Ailey graduate and a state championship flag corps winterguard. In other words, I know how to move. How dare you??? You have no idea!! You also have no idea what it does to me to hear you diss me so; for I do take it a little personally. I take my work seriously and try to do my best since this has become my passion and profession.
I agree with (I believe it was either) Tina or Melonie who said the older ususal guys aren't coming in. They aren't at all; or if they do it is few and early. You have to be lucky to catch them and they luckier to be able to make them a regular, since they have so much to choose from.
I am glad and in all honesty envious that some of you are making what you really should for your work! My attitude comes from the fact that I have fallen a little in love with the biz and hate to see the way it has become these last few years. I long for the days when I was the girl the night girls would not lower themselves to speak to That meant that those girls were the most beautiful girls in the state and they were at my club. They were images to be lived up to,and all the other girls strived to be them. The bar was higher, and I tried to reach it, and have become a better entertainer for it. They knew how to put on a SHOW. Damn I miss that.
I'm sorry, this just got me really riled up. Come walk in my old-fashioned 5-inch pumps (which are the only thing I can bear to wear on stage still) for awhile and see how you do.
It IS the ECONOMY dammit!!!
>rant off
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