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    My boyfriend and I have been together more than 3 years. In our first year I know he had a subscription to friends.com But I seen him looking over match.com profiles in his email. I'm sure he doesn't cheat on me, but why does he look at these? I recall one time in our first year together he volunteered that he liked to go to sites that post profiles of people to see who was posting. Mainly to see what type of people post or to see if anyone he knows is there. Also that you could see what type of entertainment people are looking for in the city. He's also a research type person, very intelligent. Does anyone think this is a legitimate reason? If so, does he have to post his personal info w/pic and purchase a subscription to see any profiles? I looked around on the site, but didn't go past the part where they wanted legitimate credit card info. I know they offered 7 days free, but I don't see the point of giving my credit card info. now. I know it's a way for them to try and hook me in for payment, but I wonder, is there another way to browse the site without all the headache?

    Am I over analyzing the situation with him looking at profiles?

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    fluffy- my boyfriend does the same thing, i dont know why he says he just likes to look, its kind of makes me wonder if he is still looking to see who else is out there

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    This isn't does not seem off right off the bat. Many people, including myself are interested in studying the behaviours and mannerisms of other people. It's very common. And in that context quite legitimate.

    But on the flipside, how are the other aspects of your relationship? Is he understanding, loving, and attentive? He volunteered this information. I don't think he would have if he had something to hide.

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    This if funny. I've been dating this guy, being the nosey bitch that I am, I read some of his e mail's in and out boxes. There were a few from girls he met at one of those sites. He wrote BS like 'I like blah blah blah... like to meet new people blah blah blah...'

    Well the dates were before we were going out; but I just think it's fucking weird. I can't call him on it though because then he'd know I read his mail and I know that's it's wrong of me to do so.

    Now this is the thing that pisses me off, and I have said something about it. His wallpaper is of this chick sitting at her computer desk, fully clothed and she's not that hot! I think she's one of the internet hoes; but he won't take it off. He says he just likes the pic! WTF?

    In the end, you can't make him change his actions, all you can do is learn about him and use that knowledge to base your decision on whether or not you want to continue being with him.

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    I sometimes like to browse those dating sites. I don't ever meet people or for that matter even email or chat. I just like looking and reading what people write. I read both men and women. I'm sure I can't be the only one who does that. I've also been known to browse those when I was in a relationship, but only when I was unhappy in the relationship and getting ready to leave it - I guess it's sort of my way of showing myself how much more is out there. Of course that's just me.

    But I'm with the other girls who say you need to consider what else may be making you uncomfortable about this. Does he do something suspicious? Are you overly suspicious? Are there other things going on in the relationship - even very small things - that make you wonder? If you have no other reason to believe he is cheating or looking for your replacement, I'd say forget it.

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    The part that would upset me is these sites are designed to meet people. And to research others on the web, there are very good sites people put up about there lives, and others all over the place.

    I would not consider a matchmaker site a place i would want to see my bf going. Especially if he was looking in our area.

    Thats just me. To many other good sites to read about people. Not one where you might be tempted to actually meet a person. (my opinion)

    Kinda like the guy who buys sex magazines and says he only reads the stories.

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    Hey, thanks for the opinions. I just logged into my email and something was there from match.com even though I never finished with the credit card info. I was still able to play around and look at personals without giving info. about myself. Funny thing, one of the first people I seen was a male friend of mine. I read his personal info. which I already knew the stuff he listed, but I didn't know how old he was. Anyway, I lost track of time and found I wasted a whole hour just playing around and looking to see the other people. I guess it's like Bridgette with her view, I had fun just looking, with not intention to email. As Pamela said though, these sites are designed for match purposes, which is what made me feel uncomfortable. I just thought it was odd because my boyfriend doesn't really do anything suspicious. But, interestingly, I found myself wanting to look in my city at people that posted. I just thought it was fun to see if there was a familiar face, and finding out the age of my friend, since I had never asked him. So, knowing that even my best friend pointed out one time that I over analyze sometimes, and I know I do, I think I'll just forget it.

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    Hey Naomi, send me a pic of you and I will put it on MY computer, that will teach him a thing or two. LOL

    How can any of you girls be insecure when you are so freaking gorgeous? Any man who does not love you and stay loyal to you is A. Crazy and B. not worth having anyway. You are all walking dreams.

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    It may be nothing. I frequently watch "elimidate, blind date, even survivor" to get insights into the courtship rituals. Try my hand at predicting the outcome. Don't do very well ordinarily.
    Otherwise, I find them very entertaining as I get to view how everyone else's relationship attempts fall short.



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