did a customer ever turn you down or say something really bad/humiliating about your look or dance?
if so...how did you handle it? If it would ever happen to me i'm sure i would be angcious to run of stage crying..... and NEVER dance again....![]()
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did a customer ever turn you down or say something really bad/humiliating about your look or dance?
if so...how did you handle it? If it would ever happen to me i'm sure i would be angcious to run of stage crying..... and NEVER dance again....![]()
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Customers will be customers, you just can't please everybody some people will think youre hot some will not... but you can't let someone's comments or rejection affect u just take it as constructive criticizm and move on!
And remember don't bother comparing yourself to other people beacuse there will always be a greater and lesser person than yourself.



Noa,
All sales people eventually get turned down for a sale, no matter how talented you are or how fine your product is. And let me tell you girl your product is so fine.
But it will happen some day and when it does you remember this story and just laugh it off.
It hurts when the "product" being rejected is something as personal as your talent and beauty. I am homely as sin but I am a fine guitarist and played lots of gigs for lots of years.
One night I was playing a small restaurant lounge. The only table in the place filled was a huge table of people from a wedding party. The guy paying the tab was "Dad" a loud obnoxious guy. The owner came over and told me quietly, "Uh I hate to say it but that guy has requested that you stop playing for a while so they can talk". I looked at the nervous owner and started laughing and just said, "Finally, a request I can fill!"
I took a paid half hour break and played for the next people who came in. I had that job for the rest of the summer by the way.
So when it happens just remember that story and laugh it off and also remember that I am one of your biggest fans. Smile kid.![]()
Anyone with a memory should be very humble.


what a story marx! LOL
thnx for the compliments once again!!!! You're making me love you boy! haha LOL
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That is a funny story. I can appreciate it, as I have been an artist for years as my "real" profession, and while it beats hell out of stocking groceries, many of the drawings I have worked on to pay the rent were less than inspiring, to say the least--and appreciated by my clients little more than your effort was by the asshole who asked you not to play, xmarx52. But I never got lucky enough to be paid NOT to draw, LOL!
I have seen it more times than I care to think about, yet it has never failed to amaze me.
Some fat bald f**k will sit there like Kid Rock, surveying his own private harem, imperiously selecting or rejecting dancers according to his stringent criteria--and openly telling them exactly why they aren't good enough for his precious lap dance money--20 big bucks!!. Or worse yet, I will have to console a beautiful, sexy girl who has just been told she is worthless because her "tits are too small", or some such drivel...
These are generally the same guys who start with the groping within the first five seconds of the song in VIP.
Well, it is so often a very harsh business, even in some of the nicest clubs. There is something about a stripclub that turns ordinary, reasonably well-behaved guys into arrogant jerks, and jerks into colossal a**holes. I noticed this, much to my dismay, within two or three weeks of starting out.
You just have to either be thick-skinned, or learn to be, or it will cause you to be taken into their warped, delusional little fantasy world.
The better you feel about yourself, the easier it is. It might help to take up some stress-relieving form of exercise. After I hit my bag I can look at my manager, his jaw twitching from all the cocaine he has done, screaming at me for not playing more "happy, upbeat pop music", smile pleasantly--then figure out a way to slip in a little Rob Zombie for the next girl on rotation.
Some people do better with meditation, yoga, or some similar discipline that makes them calm, confident, and serene, even in the face of such arrogant and rude behavior.
It takes a very strong spirit to last more than six months in this business, and even the strong will quail at some of the shit that has to be put up with.
Don't let these swine drag you down to their level...
You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
George Clinton
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Yes. It happens quite often. Came to a guy for a dance once and he says
"Fuck you. I heard you don't even suck dick! You think you are too good to suck my cocK?"
Yes I am. But I am not above cutting it off.
Yep, a good 50% of the time we get turned down. We are insulted at least 10% of the time. But we chose this industry and we have to be big girls about it and think up the one line zingers in our headz.
Screw 'em.
not literally
Juliette de Sade
The Texas Pin-up Stripteuse!
Generally the guys that throw out the insults are the ones who can't even afford a 20 dollar lap dance and they feel ashamed. They are losers and they know it. The other types of guys that love to throw out the insults are the "pimp wanna be's" and cops looking to make a bust. When a guy insults me I always know that he fits into one of those three categories. If you keep your eye on guys like that you will notice that they don't buy any dances from anyone. The best thing that you can do is be glad to find out sooner than later that the guys is a broke loser so that you don't waste you time on some dirtbag misogynist. What I do is simply walk away with big smile on my face and immediately approach one guy after another til I make a sale-- and I keep one of my favorite sayings in mind--- "Only a fool would argue with a fool."
Most people prefer to believe their leaders are just and fair even in the face of evidence to the contrary, because once a citizen acknowledges that the government under which they live is lying and corrupt, the citizen has to choose what he or she will do about it. - M Rivero
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Hi there..long time lurker,first time posting..I'm sure all of us have had some guy try to make himself the"big man" and try to reduce a girl to tears..What you have to do is learn to turn their insults around on them..but do it like a lady..just think to yourself that you are still better than them..
Yeah I 've been turned down couple of times. There are times when I leave group of guys are talking about me and laughing about it. It really pisses me off but I dont let it get to me and I move on to the next person who think Im worth their time and dances. Just keep your head up and ignore assholes. We can't always please EVERYONE but there will always be someone there who u can please.
Hershey




Even the hotest girls have this happen to them,I have had like hershey said guys laugh when you walk away,I have had a guy say no I dont like blondes,no I like big boobs(which I now have)and when I was in vegas there was about 500 guys in the club and I was going table to table and getting tons of dances and you know those ass holes that stand and are in your way, its like take a seat noone knows your here,well I was working the room and these 2 guys standind I hear the one go I want this one really loud and when I turned around ,also very loud he goes oh,no I dont,I just ignored him,those are the types that stand and critique every girl who walks by.I once also use to dance w/ this one customer on ocasion,and I was standing next to him at the bar one night and he goes why do you line your lips like that, you look like a clown,and Iam thinking you have bright orange hair buddy,I think its you who looks more like a clown.


djeeeeze men can be such ASSES!!!! GRRRRRRRRRRRR
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The thing to remember is that every man comes into a club looking to fulfill a fantasy. Within that fantasy, each customer has a different idea of what is sexy or beautiful. While one gentleman could think you are the most undesirable woman he's ever met, the next could think you are the most sexiest woman to grace the planet. We all get turned down, but the way I figure, as long as my bills are still getting paid, then who cares what this guy thinks of me.... Hey, its not like I'll remember his name in 5 minutes anyways!


Ofcourse you can't be evey man's fantasy...one likes this, and the other likes that...butthe way some men can put you down is just NASTY!!!! I don't think that's nescescary....have some damn respect.The thing to remember is that every man comes into a club looking to fulfill a fantasy. Within that fantasy, each customer has a different idea of what is sexy or beautiful.![]()
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Ofcourse you can't be evey man's fantasy...
But you can be mine.
[oogle]
You, and Noa, and Pamela, and Juliette and Mel, and Indica, and DenverD, and ... and ... and ... and all the rest of you.![]()
Anyone with a memory should be very humble.




I hate when I go to a table of guys and introduce myself, ask them how things are going. A few will automatically say, "No, thanks, not right now." I'm like, dude, I just asked how you were doing.
I'm very petite with natural C cups and one asshole was trying to make his woman feel better, he looked at me and said yeah, your cute, but your tits are too small. Son of a bitch
I've been dancing a few months and I have already heard and seen a lot of that bullshit.....





Just tell him he's cute, too, but his dick is too small...
You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
George Clinton
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I hate when I go to a table of guys and introduce myself, ask them how things are going. A few will automatically say, "No, thanks, not right now." I'm like, dude, I just asked how you were doing.
I'm very petite with natural C cups and one asshole was trying to make his woman feel better, he looked at me and said yeah, your cute, but your tits are too small. Son of a bitch
I've been dancing a few months and I have already heard and seen a lot of that bullshit.....
Well from your description of yourself he is nuts.
I know what you mean though. I work in retail and people come in and I say "Hi how are you today?". And they say, "No thanks I'm just looking" What am I chopped liver? How are you and I get no thanks?
By the way, How are you today?![]()
Anyone with a memory should be very humble.


I have had men on two occasions come to me and ask for dances, several at that, and then say somthing to me that was rude, or a put down. And they were things that had to do nothing with my dancing, it was based on looks, weight or whatever. One of them made the mistake of doing it in the patio area where there were at least 5 other guys, and the minute he finished his sentence, 3 of them jumped down his throat telling him how blind he was and that he was an asshole.
Then they took me away a bought a few table dances telling me I didnt need to be in the company of a man like that. I felt way better![]()




Noa, if you can't take it then you are in the wrong business. Everyone has the right to their own opinion. I'd be fooling myself if I thought I would receive everyones' approval each time I stepped onto that stage. To say they can't express anything negative about you is to deny them their rights to free speech. Strippers are known for their resilience to criticism. If you haven't noticed from these articles, that is what they put up with every day.
You are supposed to be above the criticism. You should have the confidence to weather the adverse prejudice against you. When I was starting I was discriminated against. Minor delay but never stopped me. Now I am fairly well respected. Basicly because I don't give a crap about those who can't appreciate what I'm trying to do.
There was this one dude sitting by himself for the longest time, not spending any money on any of the girls who would sit with him. It was pretty slow and I hadn't made much money, so I figured I had nothing to lose by going over and asking. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, right? Not in this case. After about 30 seconds he started bitching about how my city was not nearly as good as Vegas and how he couldn't believe we made money since we didn't dance nude. That was enough complaining from him, so I quickly asked if he would like a lapdance.
He said: "Why have liver when I can have steak?"
I wished him a good weekend and promptly got up. That comment bothered me at the time, but now I laugh. Assholes will be assholes. One of the perks of stripping is that I can get up at any point and LEAVE.
I had a customer come in, he must have been about a 300 pounder. Could barely squeeze into the seats. Next thing you know, he starts critiquing all the girls. "Her breasts aren't proportionally big enough for her body. That ones legs aren't toned enough...." On and on, like no one was good enough for him. I didn't dare ask what he thought of me. But I didn't get offended, I still sold him a dance and went on my merry way. I figure it's just ugly guy revenge. They know that in any other setting, NONE of the girls, not even the plainest one in the bunch would give them the time of day. It's a small way for them to try to feel better about themselves. They get to dish out a little taste of the rejection they get everyday. I know better than to let it get to me.



Or in the case of his poor wife...
He said: "Why have liver when I can have steak?"
I wished him a good weekend and promptly got up. That comment bothered me at the time, but now I laugh. Assholes will be assholes. One of the perks of stripping is that I can get up at any point and LEAVE.
"Why have filet Mignon when you can have a nice big plate of jackass?"
What a jerk!
Anyone with a memory should be very humble.




yes its better to be stoic and brush off the criticism, but remember that they are all human beings, and even the most hardy of folks can't maintain that level of indifference all the time.Noa, if you can't take it then you are in the wrong business. Everyone has the right to their own opinion. I'd be fooling myself if I thought I would receive everyones' approval each time I stepped onto that stage. To say they can't express anything negative about you is to deny them their rights to free speech. Strippers are known for their resilience to criticism. If you haven't noticed from these articles, that is what they put up with every day.
You are supposed to be above the criticism. You should have the confidence to weather the adverse prejudice against you. When I was starting I was discriminated against. Minor delay but never stopped me. Now I am fairly well respected. Basicly because I don't give a crap about those who can't appreciate what I'm trying to do.
Hurtful things can send an immidiate emotional reaction, that given a little time and support from friends (especially other dancers, who have been there) can subside and be put into perspective (i.e. "He is truly a fucktard - its not me, its him"). I would have nothing but sympathy for someone who got upset over that - we can't all be emotional walls. if this constantly keeps happening, though, and a thicker skin isn't developed, then at that point it may be appropriate to suggest another line of work.


Noa, if you can't take it then you are in the wrong business. Everyone has the right to their own opinion. I'd be fooling myself if I thought I would receive everyones' approval each time I stepped onto that stage. To say they can't express anything negative about you is to deny them their rights to free speech. Strippers are known for their resilience to criticism. If you haven't noticed from these articles, that is what they put up with every day.
You are supposed to be above the criticism. You should have the confidence to weather the adverse prejudice against you. When I was starting I was discriminated against. Minor delay but never stopped me. Now I am fairly well respected. Basicly because I don't give a crap about those who can't appreciate what I'm trying to do.
I do agree with you completely... i think you have to have a strong personality to be in this buisiness...but also i still do believe that some things men doe or say just are too much.... it still sucks... but I know there's nothing u can do about it... maybe give them a good kick between the nuts when the leave(never mind that last line)
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Back when I was in high school, there were a couple cute girls who said very cruel things to me. Still a painful memory, although it doesn't matter anymore. I've left it behind. However, some people don't leave past injuries behind. They carry the injuries with them and inflict them on others as a way to bring everyone else to their level.
Can't really do anything about them. Just remember, if you let them control how you feel, you're letting the assholes win. And we don't want that, do we?
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