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    Hello Ladies,

    I need some support from you girls. I am new to the industry and will be starting for the VERY first time Saturday. I have butterflies like crazy. How did some of you get through the first few times? Any help on clothing, make up or anything else that would help, would be great.

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    Just curious, where are you located?


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    In a little state called Connecticut.

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    I remember how nervous I was too. Thankfully a girl there was ncie to me. My second day though, I was talking to a customer at the tip rail WHILE a girl was dancing, not having any idea that was rude and can get your butt kicked. Another girl was pretty nasty to me about it. Not the girl dancing though, she was the one who had been nice. My best advice is to observe. Who cares if you don't make $ the first day. Being on stage is nerve racking and took me about 2 weeks to get over. Watch how the other girls move and if you see a simple trick try to copy it.
    It's better to be looked over, than overlooked.

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    My best advice is to observe. Who cares if you don't make $ the first day
    This is good advice especially if you're brand spanking new. The tip rail rule varies though. I worked at a club where we did it all the time without any ill feelings. Definately ask the mgr. or the girls about that one.


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    Thanks for the advice(SG). I did visit the club a few times and got along w/ one girl very well. I'm trying to get a feel for the atmosphere. But as far as being on stage it's gonna take awhile.

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    Good luck!!! Saturday can be a tough night to start, in some clubs. You DON'T get the "businessman from out of town with an expense account" customer. What you DO get are the frat boys, the guys who can't get dates, etc... Maybe SOME girls have different opinions, but I've always preferred week nights for making money in a club. Personal opinion, and skewed a bit by where I worked (Phoenix, which has LOTS of traveling business types.)

    Carry extra thongs, extra makeup, extra everything. Be SURE to have a spare pair of shoes. Have a safe place where you can lock up your money.

    Remember that it's a darker room, so subtle shades of makeup don't work. On the OTHER hand, I'm personally not into the clown makeup look. Get it?

    Stay away from a VIVID scent. Soap and water are very attractive.

    One thing a LOT of girls have a real prob with is simply TALKING with guys while standing there naked. Practice as much as you can. I'm serious. Even if a guy doesn't want a lap-dance at first, at least chat with him so that you get comfie flirting with guys. While it's a business, the guys are paying you to flirt with them. Get used to that.

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    Have confidence while on stage

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    A friend of mine once gave me this little bit of advice.
    "the sexiest woman in the world is one that has confidence in herself as a person. If you are comfortable with yourself and your body it shows."

    Good luck
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    Apologies for breaking in on this one, being a guy. My 1.5 cents goes to eye contact.

    -Sad-
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    Thanks for the advice(SG). I did visit the club a few times and got along w/ one girl very well. I'm trying to get a feel for the atmosphere. But as far as being on stage it's gonna take awhile.

    Be careful who you trust! I'm not sure why this girl was reaching out to you, but you never know what's up. Even if she's sincere, she might not even be someone you want as your mentor.

    Watch the girls that make money. Watch what they do. Chances are they aren't making friends with the new dancers....got a more important reason to be at work.

    ONE BIG THING: don't drink to calm your nerves. So many strippers become alcoholics because the job is easier when you're f-ed up. it is. It's a bad thing to rely on. Get the courage from within. Besides, who needs the extra calories?

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    Thanks for all the advice. Here it is Tuesday and I got thru Saturday (barely). I was so nervous. It was soooo slow (4th of July weekend I guess).

    I am very confident but never walked around topless before. I'm 4' 10" 92lbs and guys love it, but this is so new to me. I can only work on weekends because I have a day job. So I'll be returning Friday to give it another try. And to see if the $ is right in this place. I still get butterflies thinking about returning.

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    There is a nice club located outside of Fairfield- which if you're from Conn. you know is full of filthy rich people
    it's is called Elan's here is the website:


    It is a low to no contact topless club.

    Best wishes to you !

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    Thanks Tigerlilly,

    It looks more upscale than where I'm starting. I will consider elans once I am more comfortable.

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    Always becareful of giving too much personal information. Don't talk bad about other dancers---customers enjoy a positive entertainer with a friendly personality.

    Start out with basic clothing and build from there. Don't buy expensive costumes until you are comfortable wearing them. Find your own style gradually.

    Try to be pleasant to the other dancers but don't get too chummy too quickly. You need to be very careful.


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    -Just to reiterate what has been said, observe as much as you can, from the girls to the clientelle to how the managers treat the dancers.
    -Smile while onstage. I've gotten many, many, many customers to ask for ld's from me simply because I look like I enjoy what I'm doing.
    -Hook 'em in with your eyes. Men want to feel special, feel like you're interested in them (hahahahaha, which can be so far from the truth). Don't be afraid to look at your audience, that way you can also gauge reaction with particular moves.
    - Don't drink too much, especially when you're first starting out. You'll smell like alcohol, and that's not attractive. Also, you may trip while walking around in 6in heels, and that's reeeeally unattractive.

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    hey Mya,
    I agree with susan. Make sure you have extra EVERYTHING. Being nervous is ok. When I first started, I had the support of my sister (she worked there) so it was pretty cool to already know some of the dancers there. It helped me through my first night. Surprisingly, a couple of good friends dropped in to see how I was doing. They tipped me well, and the other men followed suit. You would be surprised how much other men want you when they see one all over you.

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    At first I did feel thankful that one girl was kind....But after getting some advice from my fellow members....I'm a little bit more cautious. I was so nervous that, her friendship calmed me down. Now I'm more to think why would she open to me so fast. I need to keep in mind that I am here to make money not friends. Nor enemies. But it is a job and I need to keep it professionally.


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    my best advise is practice every night in fromt of a mirror ...you know what looks sexy. Get costumes that flatter your best features. And be confident!!

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    Think about sex. While on stage, use your body and your face to interact with your customers. Eye contact and a smile does wonders. Swanky, coy faces work too. But always eye contact.

    Don't slap yourself on the ass. It looks a little silly, and most guys in there are not really spank fetishists.

    Be the wicked, sexual side of yourself while you are there. check your scent to see if you can detect your sensuality in it. Don't wear so much body spray that you mask it.

    Do what you are comfortable with. REALLY comfortable. This ensures that you enjoy your customers company too. Even if they are big spenders, you can't look at them like business transactions or associates. Smart men can tell real smiles from fake ones. And smart guys are the ones with $$.

    Don't let yourself get trampled by the older more experienced dancers. Beware of girls who try too hard to take you under their wing- sometimes they will try to scam you.

    Make time for yourself. Love yourself for your job. Make plans for your future NOW and use dancing as a tool to get you there. Stay away from coke, crack, heroine, ketamine, meth.....they will ruin your chances. Pot has that potential too.

    Drink water. And breathe. I wouldn't smoke in front of customers. Do it in the back and have gum waiting. Fantasy Chix don't smoke when they are bored.

    Any more? I bet I can think of stuff later. Good luck and break a leg. But be careful not to twist your ankle.

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    Well, coming from a mans point of view... 1st personality definetly goes a long way, i dont like the dancers that mope around all night pissy because of there personal live's... work is work, leave ur personal biz at home. 2nd confidence is a must, a guy can tell when a girl lacks it. you are entertainers, pretty much like being a salesperson in some aspects... when i go to a strip club here in vegas, i do not like to be jumped by a mob of dancers right when i walk through the door lol.. i wanna get a drink, sit down, get comfortable, then if i am approached, and the girl has an all around A+ goin on (smile, nice body, personality,etc) then i will whip out my money bags lol f
    You may not like me, you may not love me,but you will always remember me.....

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    haha very true... but i think some girls just dont have that natural rythem..
    You may not like me, you may not love me,but you will always remember me.....

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    I've been watching the girls to try to get the hang and some ideas. These girls just move around and flash. No dancing what so ever. Aren't they suppose to be entertainers and dance a little? Do guys really just want to see the goods and don't care about the dancing skills? ???

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    actually i think they should dance ya, im not gonna go into a club with lazy girls, and if i do go in... im not staying to long. i do look at the goods, but what tops it all of for me is the dancing skill, i love a woman that can shake it.
    You may not like me, you may not love me,but you will always remember me.....

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    Well the first thing I can say is always keep a smile on your face and hold your head high.I remember the first time I began I was very scared, I found that me being comfortable with myself helped alot. Second thing is that there's always some girl who's going to hate you, even if they don't know you,they just are scared that now that you there it might mean less money for them,because guys are always willing to try new girls. three it's ok to have some girls to chill with ,but remember in this game everyone who smiles at you are not your friends in this business,remember money with always separate you from them,because that's the reason your really there. True or False another drug dealer wouldn't smile a wave at the drug dealer across the street ,while he's taken his costumer right.!!!!! I wish you the best of luck.

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