How many of you have met someone and dated them outside of the strip club?
Is it a really bad idea?
What problems can come from giving out your real name / number?
How many of you have met someone and dated them outside of the strip club?
Is it a really bad idea?
What problems can come from giving out your real name / number?
It is like evrything else in life--just make good decisions, and don't do it just bc he's cute, for God's sake. I have dated several guys, but we know what it's about going in---I have never dated a married guy, and I have never dated anyone I had not spent a LOT of time with in my club. I won't make stereotypical remarks like, "over 30 only" or stuff like that.
If you like them, YOU get HIS number--do not give out yours--PLEASE!!!
my story.
a new bouncer started at the club i was working at for a while.long story short we are married with children!
he was wonderful never got jealous and knew what my job entailed.i don't thik i would ever date a customer,a guy having to go to a strip bar to pay to see boobs is gross to me!
interesting opinion....I thought seeing boobs was the whole point of going to strip clubs??? Silly me....a guy having to go to a strip bar to pay to see boobs is gross to me!
Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.
I've never dated someone I'd met in the club. However, the biggest problem I've seen with girls that have is he comes in and the girls sits with him for hours, then he leaves and her shift is over. You can't make money sitting with your boyfriend.
Never give out your home phone number. Anyone can get online and get your real name and address from it.
Dancing is wonderful training for girls, it's the first way you learn to guess what a man is going to do before he does it. ~Christopher Morley, Kitty Foyle
I just think this makes for problems at times.
Alot have, and stayed together! Alot have and failed...lost job, name calling..etc.
Just made for bad working practices.
Pamela
i have an on-off thingy with a guy i met at work about eight months ago. we really like each other, but neither one of us wants to be attached right now, so . . . . you know how that goes.
i'm not sure what it was that caused to me to break my own personal hard and fast rule about never seeing customers outside of work, but i just really liked him. we had a lot in common (which is rare as i'm kinda odd), and even the other dancers were commenting on how much he reminded them of me, lol. i wound up taking his number and calling him the next day.
it's a total crapshoot, just like meeting a guy anywhere else, i think. he can be cool, or he can be a total ass.
i'm a vegetarian because i hate plants.
The guy has a girlfriend. (moral dilemma)
Now that he knows me(has access to my friends) and knows where I work is switching clubs nessesary...before he tells someone that I know and they come see me? SHOULD'VE THOUGHT OF THIS BEFORE
Love, Blaze


It never works. Dancers pretend that dating is possilbe to get guys coming back and buying dances. Once he becomes a RIL, the dating possibilites vanish.
This is such a huge UNTRUE generalization. Strippers are human too. Sometimes we lie. Sometimes we're honest. Sometimes we are attracted to the men we meet, inside and outside the club.It never works. Dancers pretend that dating is possilbe to get guys coming back and buying dances. Once he becomes a RIL, the dating possibilites vanish.
And I kind of get the comment about paying to see boobs is gross. I think she meant it was a turn-off.
Amber , you have restored my faith in humanity LOL I was hoping that at least one of the ladies who post here would take exception to the comment posted. I may be old but Im sure as hell not gross. Granted, some of us spend too much money at clubs...chalk it up to a love for beautiful naked women
A guy paying to see boobs is gross to you??
If you find it that bad, why do it?
Luv,
AmberMaybe we should stay home like good little boys. Bottom line is, without the bucks we clubbers spend on a regular basis, the unemployment line would be a hell of a lot longer. 'Nuff said.
Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.



I bet if there was a way to interview 100 strippers from all over the country 90-95 of them would tell you they would never date a customer because a guy who has to pay to see girls is not an attractive prospect-that would be my guess as to how the dancers feel
Amber , you have restored my faith in humanity LOL I was hoping that at least one of the ladies who post here would take exception to the comment posted. I may be old but Im sure as hell not gross. Granted, some of us spend too much money at clubs...chalk it up to a love for beautiful naked womenMaybe we should stay home like good little boys. Bottom line is, without the bucks we clubbers spend on a regular basis, the unemployment line would be a hell of a lot longer. 'Nuff said.
guess who's back? back again
Who said anything about being a prospect??? My point is that the money I spend, along with the dollars contributed by thousands of other clubbers, enables a very nice lifestyle for many dancers. To be called "gross" for spending money is an insult and shows zero knowledge of what makes business work.I bet if there was a way to interview 100 strippers from all over the country 90-95 of them would tell you they would never date a customer because a guy who has to pay to see girls is not an attractive prospect-that would be my guess as to how the dancers feel
Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.
Miss George thank you for your post...I apologize for my irate comments to the board but I just get ticked when I see that the money us clubbers spend goes unappreciated and is viewed as something perverse. 99% of us that visit clubs CHOOSE to do so. We dont HAVE to. Big difference.I've met plenty of great, attractive, datable guys at work, though most of the time I only meet them when I'm already in a relationship so I don't usually go out with them. The thing is, not all guys go to strip clubs because they "have to pay to see girls." There are many who are there for a friend's bachelor party, or stopped in because they're in a town where they know no one and are bored, or countless other reasons.
Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.
I don't often post here, except light-hearted stuff. but I couldn't resist this one.my story.
a new bouncer started at the club i was working at for a while.long story short we are married with children!
he was wonderful never got jealous and knew what my job entailed.i don't thik i would ever date a customer,a guy having to go to a strip bar to pay to see boobs is gross to me!
The number of reasons that guys go to strip clubs is voluminous and not just BOOBS. Often, it comes down to, you're not seeing what you want elsewhere. A girl without a personality won't last more than a dance or two with me.
P.S. many bouncers and club-owner's relatives are there for the exact same reasons, they just happen to be lucky to be paid for it or related to it and they like being around it.
P.S.S. I'm happy to support girls that appreciate my support.
-Sad-
Blonde jokes are two lines long so that men can understand them.



I've met and dated a few men I have met while working. I think you can use good judgment anywhere including strip clubs for picking out someone you would like to spend more time with.
I enjoy the fact that men want to look at my body and appreciate my unique beauty.
Oh, I don't think that men who look at women's boobs are gross either.![]()
About the "looking at boobs is gross" comment: I'm a woman and I like to look at boobs. I just think they are sexy. Perhaps when I get some (SeptemberYEAH!!) maybe they will lose their thrill for me. Nah! Oh, and I'm heterosexual, I just think boobs are one of God's (and Man's) greatest creations.
I dont think she means she actually considers looking at boobs gross I think she just means the entire stripclub transaction.
Such as If her man were to pay a dancer to look at a strange womans breasts and or genitalia.
Thats my take on it. Course I could be wrong but thats how it read to me.
LIVE LONG & PROSPER!
Leigh Landon
Never explain yourself to anyone, because the person who likes you doesn't need it and the person that dislikes you won't believe it.




I have a theory in life that I have formulated through all my various experiences. 90% of all Humanity is Assholes in one way or another. If you happen upon one of those in the 10 percentile who is truly a non-Asshole, you try to keep them in your life somehow - no matter if this person is black, white, Asian, Croatian, Martian, gay, straight, Baddish, Jainist, Baroque etc etc etc... you get the idea.
From unsolicited stories and comments I hear from both people I know and trust in the industry (because I actually listen), and what I hear from men who think just because I am of the male gender I think like them, far too many customers who go to SC do invariably do something that marks them for a total asshole. Its no wonder that dancers put up that proverbial "Firewall" (as coined by Susan; it’s a phrase I like) between the guys who come into their club and their lives. That’s not to say that all guys are like that, and they have to be like that to everyone, but enough exist that it’s only natural to have their Shields Up while they are there. However, if some customer truly seems like a decent sort (one of the 10 percent), it isn’t, in my opinion, wrong for the dancer to explore that possibility that he isn’t all that bad, regardless of her usual personal policies.
The gist is that it takes an out of the ordinary person to catch any woman's eye. I believe that, because of the environment they work in and the number of assholes that they deal with each week, one has to be even more out of the ordinary to catch a dancer's eye. That’s just reality. Just because one guy caught a dancer’s interest doesn't mean that she goes out with customers as a rule, which seems to be what a majority of the people want to think.
That all being said, I have always contended that breaching that "Firewall" has to be entirely and wholly up to the dancer's discretion.
PJ
(Disclaimer: This is all only my opinions and my own judgments. It’s not meant to be Canon Law)
Yes you are exactly correct. Someone who goes every weekend to a strip bar and pays strangers to see there boobs and snatches is not a quality I look for in a man. Even if i was not a dancer I would run the other way if I found this was a potential mates favorite past time.I dont think she means she actually considers looking at boobs gross I think she just means the entire stripclub transaction.
Such as If her man were to pay a dancer to look at a strange womans breasts and or genitalia.
Thats my take on it. Course I could be wrong but thats how it read to me.
Yes of course I am glad some men are pervs and pay money to look at my goods! And I started dancing for money while I went to school and also because i love to flaunt it. But that does not mean I think the customers are wonderful.
Finding a mate for me takes a lot more than a one-time meeting. So the only potential mates in a strip bar would be regulars and I think they are weird SORRY mo and I am allowed to have one.
The guys who go to bars for a one-time fling for fun or biz are not potential mates since i could not get to know them.
Oh and my dh who was a bouncer did not work in a bar to see boobs for free! He has actually never been to a strip bar. And his job had him working outside club doors so no gawking was going on! He was in his first years of medical school and needed money so he took the job.
He is now an md so I no longer dance for money just for fun now and then.
Sorry if I did not address everything I was away and came back to so many harsh posts I could not get to them all individually!
yep, its a fact all club regulars are undesirable pervs...who would want to date a regular?
"So I was sitting in my cubicle today, and I realized, ever since I started working, every single day of my life has been worse than the day before it. So that means that every single day that you see me, that's on the worst day of my life."
X:
What a horribly overgeneralized and biggoted statement! That's the same attitude that supports MOST of the public saying that all dancers are perverts and sluts!!! *fuming* I am truly sorry if some of you have never been treated "right" by regulars, but believe me, the ones who treat you right make up in scores for the assholes you can spot and easily escape.
I believe I detect a hint of tongue in cheek here LOLyep, its a fact all club regulars are undesirable pervs...who would want to date a regular?
Alexxxis is right...her opinion is of equal value to anyone else who posts here. Several of us jumped on her comments but only because we strongly disagree with them. Nuttin personal intended for sure.
Its cool that hubby is an MD which removes the necessity for working faced by most of the women posters here. I know I wouldnt have the iron will and determination to get through the grueling years of med school. Hell, I'm weak...and if I worked at a strip club I would definitely check out the boobies
Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.

I'm a little confused. And after all the discussion here I can hardly believe the confusion, but anway...
When I'm out on the street or in a restaurant or just about anywhere for that matter, I see nearly every guy checking out the boobs and ass of most girls who walk by. So would alexxxis be upset by that? Does she think none of those guys would like to see those boobs and asses bare? Aren't most guys attracted to the female form? Is it sick to be attracted to her form, or is it just sick to go somewhere where it can be seen? What about if he went to the beach and looked at girls in bikinis-is that sick too? I can't figure it out alexxxis, but it was nice of you to explain how your MD had never looked at a boob before and that's why you respect him. And by the way, I met my girl in a strip club and we're going to get married when she gets her degree in December. A law degree.
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