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    As some of you know, I just started planning my wedding...so I have been spending an ungodly amount of time on www.theknot.com Let me tell you, brides HATE strippers!! I just got into a posting match with a beotch who is talking about strippers are whores and blah blah blah. can I not escape this anywhere?

    What started it was a woman asking...if your fiance did any of the following at his bachelor party..would you leave him?

    1. WATCHED
    2. LICKED WIP CREAM OFF OF VARIOUS PRIVATE PARTS
    3. LAP DANCE
    4. HER RUBBING BOOBS ON FI
    . ANY SEXUAL ACTS WHAT SO EVER.

    (her exact post) I said, no, I am in love with him...I wouldn't just leave him!

    Another girl said "hell yeah i would leave him. i would never marry a man that i could not trust. stupid stripper whores O:" (her exact post)

    I jump in and say...hmmm...yeah, and what about the man? Loving hubby?? Yep, it is always the girls fault eh?!

    Sorry girls, had to vent! This is why I do not get along with like 99% of the dumbass females I meet!

    Don't hate, just accept it.

    Okay, I'm done....Goodnight!

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    well, most women are afraid of losing control of their men we're jealous, what can we do?
    i think that if a bachelor party gets out of hand enough for you to leave the guy, then he wasn't ready to get married to you to begin with!
    lots of people hate strippers, they're just ignorant. there's nothing you can do though, it's hard to educate intolerance.
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    That is funny because I do a lot of bachelor parties over the summer and I don't even think to myself how this guy is going to be getting married soon, I just think of how I am going to get my money and embarrass the hell outta the groom so his buddies will tip me more. I admit that I wouldn't be thrilled about my guy getting a lap dance from some stripper at his bachelor party but I certainly wouldn't leave him over it. It sounds like those women need to lighten up a bit!

    At one party I did this past summer, the girl who used to be my party partner wrote on the grooms ass with magic marker (she didn't write her name, she just wrote something stupid, like a smiley face and the word WOW or something). The bride was the best man's cousin and when she saw the writing she flipped out and yelled at her cousin "What the hell did you let them to do him." Ooops!

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    Women are in general very intolerant of thier men being around dancers, especially outside the Club. We provide dancers for alot of bachelor parties and the only problems we ever have is if the bachlorette party shows up. I still have fingernail scars from stepping in front of a charging "Bride".

    The best bachelor party prank I ever saw was the group of farm boys who wanted the dancer to let them know when the groom got .....excited during the lap dance. I figured they were just going to make fun of him or at worst, take a picture but it was much funnnier. When the dancer "noticed" out loud that "somebody was having a good time", 4 of the BIG farm boys moved in and de-pants (and de-boxered) the groom, spread eagled him and soaked his erect crotch with John Deere green spray paint. (Seems this is a family tradition) Anyone who has used implement paint knows that it is tuff stuff and the only way to get it ALL off is paint thinner (think nail polish remover). It was hilarious.

    Congrats Miss B and have a good wedding.
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    Honestly, I don't know how I'd feel about the person I am about to spend the rest of my life with celebrating that by having sex or having sexual act done to him or her by another person. And I cannot even begin to explain how non sexually possessive I am, so just trust me, I am not sexually possessive. So it makes perfect sense to me that you would be angry, especially if you put a high value on fidelity (which, let's be honest, most people do - at least on the other person's fidelity).

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    I don't know maybe i watched too many "Jenny Jones" shows. Bachelor party's going bad kinda thing. I can't say i would want my man having another strip for him. Probably because i am a stripper. Anyway, today it seems alot of my friends don't do the bachelor thing. Not sure why. But damn the Girls are!!!! Either way i am up for it, i would not blast him for going. I don't think. Pamela ??? I would have to agree with Jenny on that one.

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    One thing I notice, and I have pretty good insight because our family owns a bridal shop. But, some of these girls, and they are girls, get all excited (which is a relativley mild word) for the wedding it self. They become obsessed that every little thing is perfect, yet, they seem like they could care less who the man is standing at the altar. And then these girls wonder why the guys doesn't show up, or goes off with another girl.

    So MissBehavin, I think you got chatting to one of these brides, who doesn't care who they guy is, as long as she looks good in the dress and everything goes according to HEr


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    I know lots of girls who hate strippers. Even a good friend of mine, who knows I dance, hates them. ('cept me of course) ???
    She says, "I dont want my bf to be at a club with a skank putting her shit on his face"
    Sometimes girls get too jealous, and I can be guilt of that as well. Its weird. I wouldnt want my bf to visit a club without me. Maybe cause I know what some of the girls are capable of, but it doesnt mean that all of us are the same.

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    Its not that. Well, yeah it is that b/c many women misunderstand what actually goes on. Women are insecure and feel in competition with other women. I'll tell u about what me and my girls call the "LAP" the Look And Pull. U are in a mall, nice restaurant, or somewhere where walking past people is necessary, like the grocery store even.
    Some girl walking toward u is with a guy. She looks u up and down, then unconsciously or even consciously pulls the guy closer or reaches out to make physical contact with him in some way to communicate 2 u that he is taken. My friends and i laugh about it, but it happens evryday in evry city evrywhere.
    Some girl looks attractive or is dressed sexy or jus damn pretty, and that inferiority/insecurity complex hits another girl and she does it. Just look around the next time u go out in public. When i'm with ole boy if a girl in a little skirt walks, he's checkin her out but will also be looking at the skirt or checkin out her shoes or purse cause i'm a fashion hawk and its rubbed off on him.
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    Hmmm...I know that my man loves me, and I know that he will always look at other beautiful women, as so will I check out the hottie men...I have zero problem with that, as long as he doesn't cross that line between real and pretending.

    Plus, I have only ever met one other man who was so understanding about the jobs I have....my ex, who is now my best friend.

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    It kills me the way the blame always falls upon the stripper - but its THE MEN who should get the backlash. Mind you there are some NASTY strippers out there but no man worth my time would ever let this shit go down...let me explain...

    I was a topless waitress yrs ago for stags, and the stuff I saw HORRIFIED me! One particular horror story comes to mind the Grooms licking strippers pussies, groom was to eat the pearls out of the girls puss and then once he got hold of them was to stand up with the pearls still gripped in his teeth and walk backwards away - I swear that hog had an apartment for rent in her pussy cause there must have been twenty feet plus of pearls that were tugged out by the groom! Another stag they brought in a hooker that pretended to be a dancer, and gave the groom a blowjob in front of the whole room (uh, can I offer you a mento? ugh!) THEN put a condom on him (ok what ever either one of you might have -you both now GOT- being they already have bodily fluids swapped - double UGH!) Then she straddled him and giddy upped all the way home! The entire room cheered and clapped this included brother in laws to be and the father of the bride, I was just sick about it and frightened by this mob I made some shitty as excuse that I need to get my other shoes from my car and then I BOOKED ( we always take our pay at the beginning of the gig so I didnt lose any jack) Mind you not all strippers do gigs in this manner, but all I could think of is what of the MEN? Oh god.
    Just a question here, do any of you know how your own man would behave at one of these functions? Or your dad or brothers? I have 100% faith in mine, but damn all the stags I have seen makes me wonder about who the hell these men belong to? Who raised these men? Who taught them values or life skills, I couldnt believe that whole room clapped and cheered, this happened a number of years ago but that memory will haunt me for life.
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    I consider the bachelor party to be a ritual, a place where guys are supposed to let it all hang out as a way to prepare for the committment of marriage. In no way would I ever hold the actions of a man on this one night against him or judge him as a potential life mate because of it.

    I get a lot wilder at parties than I do at the club, because I feel a little safer being in a smaller crowd. Some bachelors have tried to cross the line, but the vast majority of them blush like crazy and just sit back and enjoy the show - it's my opinion that the party's more for the entertainment of his friends than the bachelor himself.

    I could care less what my fella would do at a party - I acknowledge that my views are different from many, but I wouldn't be upset in the least (and to be completely honest, if he got a blowjob from a hooker I wouldn't be upset. I said my views were different, I understand many feel differently, in advance, let's agree to disagree).

    Anyhow, probably the same percentage of brides hate the thought of strippers at their man's bachelor party as wives hate their husbands going to strip clubs.

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    Wow. That bachelor party was a bit wild. Colette, I give you "props" for having that attitude. Many guys would consider you to be the perfect girlfriend =) But I'd kill my bf if he crossed the line.
    I think that for those who do NOT want their men to cross the line, and if they do, that it can ruin a relationship. I wish it didnt have to go that way, but if mine did it, I could never forgive him.

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    I myself believe if your man got a blowjob from some nasty bitch at a bachelor party he doesnt have much going for him in the first place, I would never let some stange male dancer lick my box at my stagette either, LETS AGEE TO DISAGREE says it all. I was brought up completely different, and I hope you and your man got all your shots if you feel swapping sex with complete strangers is ok in your world. Thank you Mom dads, thats al I gotta say about THAT, (UGH).
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    I think it's a good thing that most women never know what actually went on at the "Bachelor Party". In some cases "Ignorance is bliss".

    The Bachelor party is the traditional "Final Fling" before the commitment of marraige. It's the Drunken Orgy that (supposedly) a man is giving up to be to be forever AFTER faithful to the woman he loves. For many men. Marraige is the point of commitment in a relationship. For many women that point of commitment is after the third date (the "going steady" factor).

    Honestly, a man is more likely to be "unfaithful" at the golf course or the office as he is at the bachelor party or at the strip club. The singles bars are full of girls that will "put out" to just about any guy that pays attention to them and buys them a few drinks. It's a very interesting double standard.

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    Honestly, a man is more likely to be "unfaithful" at the golf course or the office as he is at the bachelor party or at the strip club. The singles bars are full of girls that will "put out" to just about any guy that pays attention to them and buys them a few drinks. It's a very interesting double standard.
    This is actually a good point - so many men 'keep their noses clean' at bachelor parties; for one because there's always the fear it getting back to the bride-to-be. I know of one situation where the girl manipulated the groom's best man (by getting him drunk and stoned) to tell her all that went on at the bachelor party - and it was a fiasco - the wedding was postponed for 3 weeks until the fire abated a bit.


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    I have always found bachelor/bachelorette parties to be one of the more pathetic rituals in the whole marriage ordeal. Just as most marriages seem ill-advised and all the crap that goes with them trite--I could have been a wedding DJ a long time ago but turned my friend down instantly, not really wanting to get granny out there doing the funky chicken or whatever.

    Of course as a DJ I do them, it's part of the job--but I hate the whole routine of embarassing the groom and ask his buddies if that's what they really want before I do, against my will--what job is perfect, eh...

    I prefer to just make sure the girls give him a hell of a show, and pick the best looking, sexiest dancers to do it for him. One thing I always insist on is that they take his belt and tie his hands behind his back to the pole, the audience loves this. I cannot stand having the guy take his turn dancing for the girls (come on!) and will avoid this except if it is insisted on.

    Personally, I would want nothing to do with any bachelor party for myself, unless it was my future wife doing the dancing for me! It is absurd, in this day and age, after having spent your years of youth and growing, dating, and all that---to finally find a woman you want to spend your life with, and then have to go through this farcical ritual the night before. If you love the woman and you're a man, you don't need any "last fling" or a reminder of what you can never have again, because you don't want it, that's the whole point of marriage! A good one, anyways.

    But really the person who said it is really for the FRIENDS of the groom is correct--half the time the groom is so drunk he hardly knows what is going on! And these are the guys who sometimes want their friend to be humiliated as much as possible! One aspect of manly friendship I could never really get into. It's just a silly and atavistic ritual, and if we can make some money from it--ya gotta do what ya gotta do sometimes.

    Of course the private parties are a different matter, some especially. That really was a horror story, Leigh, I have never had to deal with actual sex in these parties--they were only in the club--and the FATHER of the BRIDE, too! That poor girl is in for a rough life!

    MissBehavin do not take my disdain for marriage personally, I'm sure you are exceptional, and you have great taste in music!!LOL. Congratulations, and best of luck to you!

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    In my opinion. A bachelor party is just something you do to go out and bs with your friends the night before you are married. My hubby and I had wanted to do a
    co-ed bachelor/bachelorette party, well, in all honesty, because we love being together. Unfortunately in the midst of our wedding plans came a beautiful baby boy waiting to be born, so that was called off. Most people don't approve of a 7 1/2 mos pregnant women hangs out a a strip club. He went anyway, and I trusted him. I knew that regardless of what happened he was coming home to me.

    I think that most women hate strippers and bachelor parties because of their insecurities within themselves. They are afraid that their fiance is going to see something in the strippers (self-esteem, fun loving, "outgoingness" I think that's a word, lol) that they themselves do not posess and that their man is going to be attracted by that. I myself know that I don't have anything to worry about. It is the way that some women are taught to be. Unfortunately.

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    Djoser, I agree with many of your points and concepts, nice to know that one can come forward and confirm not all men are of the persuasion as previously mentioned that men will cheat anywhere anytime ie. the golfcourse (oh good grief) thanks for stepping up to the plate and confirming my stand that NOT all men are pigs, I simply do not agree to this, period. Maybe I have been lucky with the men in my life, but there it is. Thank you.
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    Well, I WAS a bride earlier this year, and I DON'T hate strippers!!!

    LOL... if I had $100 for every "night before the wedding" bachelor party that came thru a club where I was working....

    No...wait... I DO have $100 for every bachelor party....sorry....

    Guess THAT has something to do with it, right? The $100 under my thong is $100 that's NOT invested in some bride's earrings....


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    :-/ don't have a clue where the last post went, however I must say you can't assume the commiment factor of a man, i've been living with mine for 5yrs and have a 15month old-we're currently not married however we may as well be so when we do i would definitly consider him to be faithful at all costs. now as far as ignorance is bliss, honey i come from a small town and do admit i don't know a damn thing about strippers and stripping(which is why i'm here i would love to perform a private party for my bf) what goes on in private parties except stories, which are just that. ignorance feeds my imagination. so could someone experienced help me in both areas PLEASE. if it helps i know he loves school girl style skirts. thanks

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    sometimes when we hate, it is because we either fear we cannot BE it, or we ARE it.....

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    What about strippers who become brides? A bachelor or bachelorette party traditionally celebrates the persons last day of "freedom". Actually it marks the day the person commits to responsibility.
    If the person still goes through with the marriage it should reinforce the assurance that that person has passed their trials and is still willing to go through with it. As for me ,the wilder the better as long as I don't violate any of my vows beforehand. If you pass the acid test it is only an indication of the stability of the people in the union.

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    I didn't know if I should stick my 1.5 cents here.

    If I ever got married again, going to a strip club or my own bachelor party would be anti-climactic and kind of hilarious! Would I have one of my former ATFs dance for me?

    Bowling would be better...lol

    Actually I take it back it might be kind of fun. Strip bowling.

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    First let me say that I've been doing bachelor parties for about 7 years. Knowing that, it is astonishing to me that I've only danced for maybe 5 bachelors who did not want to touch me. Those 5 gentlemen will probably stay married.

    Some guys think of the bachelor party as the "last time". If they need a "last time" so close to their wedding, they are not ready to be married.

    An alarming amount, probably 15-20%, even want "extras"--which I do not offer. If these men will do it before, they most certainly will do it afterwards. Sadly, lots of dancers do extras. A few years ago I was at a party with another girl who was engaging in oral sex with the guys. I walked out. In some cities (like Vegas) this is the norm for private bachelor parties.

    I make bank from parties. They are fun to do. But...I wouldn't marry a guy who wanted a party.

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