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    I am having a problem with a particular girl at work. I usually get along with everybody, as I am friendly and outgoing and try to avoid conflict. Even the girls I don't really care for, I still have a civil, working relationship with. First of all, up here in Canada, there are lap dances in the VIP. If girls are doing extras and are discreet about it,,,fine. This girl is fully "in your face" about extras. Even out on the floor! [grr] During a table dance at the guys' tables she lets them grab her breasts, lets them spread her cheeks apart (ugh!!! [shameful] ) and does some really raunchy stuff. I have told the management several times and they are doing NOTHING about it!! This girl is also fully addicted to crack, always high and drunk at work, outright rude to all the girls (even the ones she's never met before!) and walks around like she owns the place. Even customers have complained to me how bitchy she is with them! She's the size of a large man and looks like she may have been one before, so I am in no physical position to say anything to her, and she is the type who wouldn't care anyway. I don't fight, never have, and am not going to get myself into that situation by confronting her alone or anything. This club is usually a pretyy nice, clean bar, all the girls get along (which is really rare and the main reason I love the place) but I cannot work while she is making a scene and calling me a "fuckin' prude" while I am onstage! I am not the only girl this is affecting, but management doesn't seem to care. There aren't alot of bars close to me that are this clean, so I don't really want to switch clubs. Any advice on how to deal with this? I have letting a crack addicted bargain basement wannabe hooker ruin my night. I don't want her to have that power but it drives me mad that she is single handedly "ruining" this great little bar!

    WHEW! [frustrated]

    I am sure some of you have dealt with this crap alot,,,,so puhleeeease let me know how you managed!

    Thanks,
    Kennedy
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    Hi Kennedy,

    Smile and ignore her, maybe laugh at her just a little bit when she's not looking. Let the classy customers know that you are *the* classy dancer. Don't say anything about her, and if they do ask you about her or try to get you to talk about her say something like "yes, it's unfortunate, isn't it?" and change the topic. You will be worth a million dollars.

    Lena



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    I have had to deal with girls like that from time to time. Don't concentrate on what SHE is doing, concentrate on what YOU are doing! Girls like that don't last long at clubs, give her enough rope, and she will hang herself
    **Live Long And Prosper**

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    There always has to be an ass. Well best policy..walk around and do your job like you own the place. Never a word to her or anyone about her. She does not exist.
    You are not arrogant, just confident! When one see's they can't get to you, unfortunate to others, but they move on to pick on them.

    You have to have this look about you. And show it, do it, live it inside the club. Smile at everyone who matters.
    Stay out of her way.
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    I'd add to Pamela's advice--smile at EVERYONE, whether they matter or not, because you never know who may fit into which category. : )'g--at everybody!

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    You already got some excellent advice . It's always good to have a small quiet place inside your head that no one can violate . It helps a lot if you can save enough money to pay the grocery bill and rent for a month or two , this will help in owning the most worthwhile posseision in the world , yourself .

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    yup - I gotta agree here, theres such a balance on fine lines of behaviour, if you respond in any way that deems attention - she's got you. And often bullies LOVE this crap.
    What bullies and troublemakers DONT like is those that have the ability to rise above and supercede the bullies pathetic antics.

    Yes, she's a dirty girl, they are everywhere....let her be a pig...it only reflects on her. And those that want dances from such? Hell let em have her. In fact I would treat her like she has an infectious disease, oh wait she very well may have LOL! What I mean is avoid any contact, however slight it may be.
    Never make eye contact - or mutter under your breath or in any way show acknowledgement.
    If enough of you treat her as though she isnt even there, she will increase her negative antics for the need for responce or reaction - and was mentioned here, she will eventually hang herself...

    She may pull something that a manager simply cannot ignore or glaze over.

    And she WILL too, wait n see.

    Hold Tight Kennedy, you will persevere!

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    When a person makes a fool of themself ,step aside and let them do so. If they speak or act rude, laugh at them.
    The trashy will always attract their own crowd. Leave them alone and stick with the classy ones.


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    Introduce your toe to his...I mean her, testicles. Then run away.

    Tyler.

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    Maybe have a customer (or 10) complain to management. If the customer takes away his money, management will listen.

    Another thought, you and the other girls who are bothered by her behavior, should just not schedule on the days she is working. I know that not all clubs allow this, but what can anyone do if everyone has "legit" reasons for not being able to work, ie; no babysitter, has to study/go to class, has to go to "real job", etc.


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