During your high school days didn't it seem that the cockiest, most sexist guy/ girl was always going with the cheerleader/ football hero and marrying first? :-/




During your high school days didn't it seem that the cockiest, most sexist guy/ girl was always going with the cheerleader/ football hero and marrying first? :-/




Just a guess, but you have serious esteem issues stemming from your youth, don't you?During your high school days didn't it seem that the cockiest, most sexist guy/ girl was always going with the cheerleader/ football hero and marrying first? :-/
Uh..... not particularly. My impression was that they were the ones to break up first.During your high school days didn't it seem that the cockiest, most sexist guy/ girl was always going with the cheerleader/ football hero and marrying first? :-/





You guys are too young to really have seen what usually happens to these types. Just wait till your 15 or 20 year high school reunion. The football hero will usually have turned into Al Bundy or be bald with a pot belly and a blue collar job. The head cheerleader will usually have hips too wide for standard doorways. From what I have seen, it is the "nerds" and "late bloomers", who were usually considered 2nd class citizens in high school, who will knock your socks off at the reunions!





I secretly liked a few nerds in my high school [halo]


I secretly was a nerd in High School.
High school! Gosh i do miss it, i came to the states early and found i liked it! my 'best' gf was the cheerleading captain, i followed close in her foot steps. we only made it to 3 games before we were thrown off, because we missed alot of practice.
She turned out beautiful, has been in adds for Glamour, high fashion.
Then got married to a doctor, and is raising a family.
Me...well i turned out ok i guess, but not fat with pimples. Lol
I loved reading. Math....forget it.
Not everyone turns out the way we think. Thats good to know.
I was so a nerd in high school, except for my senior year....and I was a cheerleader! Us nerds are the ones that blossom and the "popular" crowd end up (from what I've seen and know) to be drug users, have kids too young, etc.
It's better to be looked over, than overlooked.



LOL I can't wait until my high school reunion, it should be very amusing to watch. At least I still somewhat physically resemble the person I was in high school.





I was dismayed by constant attempts to label me a nerd, and would find it quite amusing to run into some of those guys that used to give me so much shit, "with a pot belly and a blue collar job". I wouldn't necessarily hurt them, I would just love to see the expression on their faces.
I was about the most extreme example of a "late bloomer" that you can imagine, but fortunately had enough self-esteem to ride out the storm of abuse intact, if a bit pissed-off. I got over it as soon as I left the state of Maine. I never have had much respect for organized sports, though, as a result.
You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Free your mind, and your ass will follow.
George Clinton
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Absolutely! I'm 12 years out of high school and though I haven't seen them myself, my grandma keeps me posted on most of the folks I graduated with. She knows most of their families. All the ones who got married before or shortly after graduation are divorced and some are married and divorced again. All the most popular and goodie goodie folks are way screwed up in one way or another now. I and the nerds everyone else made fun of are the only ones who've been anywhere and accomplished anything to speak of. And I'd venture a bet that I'll have ALL the most interesting stories (even those not related to stripping) at the big reunion in 3 years!You guys are too young to really have seen what usually happens to these types. Just wait till your 15 or 20 year high school reunion. The football hero will usually have turned into Al Bundy or be bald with a pot belly and a blue collar job. The head cheerleader will usually have hips too wide for standard doorways. From what I have seen, it is the "nerds" and "late bloomers", who were usually considered 2nd class citizens in high school, who will knock your socks off at the reunions!
It always works that way. The most popular ones in HS never end up resembling anything close to whatever it was that made them so popular as teenagers.
If we only knew how things would turn out later on...
Sounds like "Jenny Jones" TV. Not ALL turn out that way. I was very popular in high school, it was my attitude. Hung wit the 'best' crowd.
The sad part for me is alot of the people i hung with got killed racing cars. One gf was beat to death when her ex bf was out on an Easter Furlough. Yea a few, got fat, had 9-5 jobs, bald, 7 kids.
But i think some people (at least i did), start early getting compliments, become popular, and want to hang on to it, because it becomes a lifestyle, wanting to look good!!
Thats how it worked in my life and some of my gf's and popular guys from school. They look great! Have great jobs, some are married, some not (i think). I can't speak for all though, some moved and we don't know where they are.





I was the girl in the corner with a book in high school. And I still am, I just happen to be a beautiful, sexy, and successful book-aholic. :-)
Lena




I originally thought a little disparaging about this topic, because it seemed like Dreamer tossed it out of left field (hence my first post, which I could delete, but I would rather leave). For that, Dreamer, please accept my apologies. I have really been musing on this topic for a while, so that’s this post is so long winded.
I went to a Catholic High School in Southern New Jersey for three of my four years. Since it was a private school, one's family needed a certain amount of money to attend, thus a majority of the students were of the "ultra-jock" and "head cheerleader" types whose parents were doctors, lawyers, financiers, investors etc. The desire to look the best, have the best clothes, and be the most popular was rampant. There were many "Haves".
I was a "Have Not". I was tall, lanky, and not very attractive. I didn't even have a girlfriend until I was at the end of my Junior year. My parents didn't have nearly as much as the parents of the other students, mostly because they were working hard to merely provide food, clothing and shelter for 9 kids (I am the 4th of the 9). I never got that IROC on my 17th Birthday, I didn't have that extensive stereo system in my room, I didn't have the big mansion (how we paid for the school is a whole 'nuther issue). Did I resent them in High School?
Hell yeah I did.
I didn't resent them for what they had; I resented them for trying to make me feel inferior because of what I didn't have. High school sucked big time. I know, though, that for a lot of these hero types in my school, High School was their nadir. Few ever were able to maintain that sort of popularity and success in later life, which I think came from their dependence of the superficialities of life, and their lack of developing substance within their character.
Looking back, the troubles of being unpopular in high school allowed me to see the follies of the life around me. I developed a very realistic, pragmatic nature about me. I also learned to hold honor and integrity very highly, and to work hard to keep them as part of my character, no matter what happens in life. I think I got far more out of my high school experiences than those hero guys who always got the cheerleader. Of those I know a lot of them have failed in several marriages, have had serious drug problems, and failed business ventures (because the need to succeed didn’t prepare them to pick themselves up when they are down). They are still trying to capture their High School glory, and downing themselves when they still can’t gain it again.
Me? I’ve have a failed marriage too, so it’s not like I am better than them. However, if given the opportunity, I wouldn't change a thing in High School. What I was then helped me to be the man I am now. I kinda like the guy who I have developed into. I think being a unpopular, skinny long haired geek in school was a key component to my present task of trying to be a person of value. I don't think I would personally have appreciated that if I didn’t go through what I did.
Plus, I'm not so geeky looking anymore LOL.
"What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
Dreamer, yeah - for the most part the hero types always got the cheerleaders. But, in the end, that didn't really matter.
PJ




Prester, not a self-esteem issue . Simply an observation. I wondered if other people experienced it as well.
I didn't have my first girlfriend until I was 22. Ended disasterously same as my eventual marriage.
My hypothesis is that we all grow up pursuing the superficial qualities of our peers. Likely so , many ended disasterously. Looking back on it, it makes me feel glad I did not pursue the route they took. I simply think that most people during the high school period are too immature to pursue a lasting relationship.
Yeah, those guys were rotten but in the end they paid for it.
Thanks to everyone else for their input.
jus thought this would be a funny story to go along with the topic
In highschool I was def not in the "in " crowd which for the most part consisted of the rich, and exteremly fashionable people. I was more of the art/dance/theater dept group which consisted of the punks,freaks, hippys, ect. Oh yeah I was also on the color gaurd for the highschool band too ( yeah for the band geeks)....I spun rifle and flags.
I was never tortured in highschool really except when I dated a couple of "nerds". Some of the kids loved to laugh at me for that. And this one kid who always use to joke on my bubble butt.(which now is very acceptable if you know what I mean).. I kinda just did my own thing with a smaller outsider group I guess.....but we were invisible to the "in" crowd.
Anyways..About a year ago I ran into this guy at the club I was working at that went to high school with me...one of the "In " crowd.... Apparently he remembered me....tried to tell me that since highschool he had a secret crush on me and had though about coming up to me on campus at the college then proceeded to say everything he thought would get me to go home with him.... I didn't & It felt so good...but at the same time was kinda weird. This was one of the guys that was thought to go on and do great things...turns out he had dropped out hat semester, kept offering me coke and other drugs which I don't touch....basically kinda a loser now.... It feels good to know I've done better but it's always sad to see people wasting their lives away.
i love my christopher
I secretly liked a few nerds in my high school [halo]
lol.. that makes 2 of us..





Yeah Dreamer, it always seemed like that to me too. I was definitely a nerd in high school (yes, I was in the chess club). I still haven't recovered from my experiences, and probably never will. So while today I have 2 degrees (w/ perfect GPAs) and hopefully a good job soon, I've often wondered how my life would be different if I hadn't had my self-esteem destroyed in my teen years. Maybe I could've ended up with the self-confidence needed to get a girlfriend. :-/
SuperStripper & Shan, where were you two when I was in high school? :o
Same here.I've often wondered how my life would be different if I hadn't had my self-esteem destroyed in my teen years.
At some point, I had to start acting like I had self-esteem even though I didn't. It helped tremendously. I got better at socializing, at public speaking, being assertive. However, my high school insecurities, which I carry to this day, are helpful baggage, I think, in not letting me get too egotistic about things. The downside is that I need more affirmation than I should to feel good about myself.
Oh, the joys of self-analysis.
As for high school, it's mostly a "fuck it" attitude for me. I've never been to a reunion, don't care to, and I have not kept in touch with one person after I left. Maybe my high school was different, though - the "cool" jocks in my class were actually pretty nice guys, treated me just fine, were good students, and I've heard of several who are doing quite well in life. It was other bully-type guys and the "cool" girls in high school that gave me the problems.


I was a nerd in elementary school, an angsty nerd in high school, and a proud nerd in college now. Not having many friends during those periods made me pretty self-sufficient. I'm pretty strongly a loner, but when I do actually get around people I can be outgoing, talkative (okay, obnoxiously so) and charismatic. It took me a long time to get there, though- all through high school I pretty much snarled at anyone trying to get close to me.
"Just 'cause she dances go-go, that don't make her a 'ho, no.....called up my Mama, said 'I'm in love with this stripper yo.'"
-Wyclef Jean





I was definitely a nerd in high school. I was about 20 pounds overweight and I got straight A's almost every semester. Despite being overweight, I still managed to make the pom pon squad because I was a good dancer. I felt out of place because the rest of the girls on the squad were pretty and skinny. In high school, no one would've predicted I would be an exotic dancer in the future. During college I started watching what I ate and working out and I lost 20 pounds within 2 years. I recently went to my 5 year high school reunion and a lot has changed since then. Many of the people who were popular in high school are now overweight and unattractive, are not married, and have 2 or 3 kids. Many of the people who were nerds in high school are now much more attractive and have good looking boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands and wives and good jobs.
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