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    Default Re: Is stripping submissive or dominant?

    I would say dominant, dancers use their looks and hustling skills to extract $$$ from customers wallets... That seems very dominant to me. This is often a good mutual transaction though and you could say that a dancer is often "submiissive" to the customers demands in certain clubs.

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    Default Re: Is stripping submissive or dominant?

    Quote Originally Posted by calliope7
    I've worked in domination before. It definitely all comes down to power and the more you think about it power has so many different meanings and ways of being interpretted. There is no clear line that draws who is dominant vs. submissive. The inclusion of a money exchange and the acting out of a fantasy itself make the whole situation even more complicated.
    This is very true.

    Two guys could be seated right next to one another tipping a gal on stage and both could find enjoyment in that experience based on completely opposite interpretations of what interacting with the dancer meant. The guy who thinks he's dominant might think that he made the stage dancer bend to his will to get his money. The other customer might think he succumbed to the dancer's will by handing his money over. The dancer may simply be thinking that "hey I got both of them to tip me".

    But needless to say, as long as the interaction is a commercial one, its really less about any legit domination/submission as it is about supply and demand. Some guys demand apples, others demand oranges. Dancers focused on making money know its best to supply both.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena
    It is what you make it.

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    Bingo.

    Power exchange is fluid. When I started dancing, I felt very submissive. I badly needed the money, and felt like the way to get it was to be as sweet and inoffensive as possible. Basically, I was acting out what most girls are taught -- that being "nice" and pleasing others is the way to accomplish your ends. I felt like customers were doing me a favor every time they got a dance. As I get older, I'm getting more and more dominant/assertive in everything, including dancing. The things I say and do to get dances haven't drastically changed, but the approach is completely different. Now, dancing for men and taking their money feels like an assertion of power.
    Obviously, a smart dancer tailors her dance to the customer, and might be more dominant or more submissive. But I myself have developed a definate preference for subs. When I was more submissive, I got a lot of customers who wanted to express dominance by pushing for more than I wanted to give them, whether it was extras, my phone number, OTC meetings, cheating me out of money, and so on. Very few of these guys seeks me out anymore. Now, I dance for a lot of guys who are drawn to strong women. Many of my regulars have jobs where they have a lot of responsibility; their idea of relaxing is to turn control over to someone else for a while. They tend to like to sit back and be passive during dances (i.e. no groping) and WANT to spend money. A lot of these guys don't know they're dabbling with d/s, they just know it feels good.

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    Default Re: Is stripping submissive or dominant?

    Looks like both dancers and customers can feel that they are in control -- even at the same time.

    The power a dancer really has is to please the customer, rather than make him do something.

    I pay money both to the IRS and to a taxi driver, but only the IRS can make me pay. Dancers are somewhere inbetween. I want their service, so I pay for it. But the really good ones get a customer excited enough that there is a bit of compulsion.

    And the ones who do that coolly and professionally -- feeling like it is only a job:

    Quote Originally Posted by Emily
    I think it's neither. It's just a job. In any job you'll working for someone (submissive) and doing a service they want and are hopefully grateful (dominant).
    are the scariest.

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    Default Re: Is stripping submissive or dominant?

    I'm a sub sexually and usually fairly dominant, though even-tempered at the same time, in my life out from behind closed doors. At work, I loved the stage and often felt like I owned it, but when there were few people there, I felt absolutely no power at all...same with dances...so it is fluid and situational when at work therefore, in a global sense, dancing is both and neither at the same time <at least for me> throughout the course of any given night.
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    Default Re: Is stripping submissive or dominant?

    It depends on a lot of things, the dancer's persona not least of them.

    I've recently gone through an overhaul of my persona. I started off doing naive/innocent/making big eyes and being deferent, and after a bit of drama I decided that if I was going to piss people off acting like THAT, I might as well act more natural and stop taking shit from people. So my persona is more dominant and a little bitchy now, and it actually seems to be working pretty well.

    Why? I have theories. But they don't really matter. I'm making a bit more money and having a lot more fun.

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