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    I know this might sound werid but ever since I have started dancing a year ago my boyfriend has been having this very intense fantsy of my job and of me having sex with another man while he watches. He says that my job is a big turn on to him thinking that other men get turned on by me dancing for them. This isnt a big problem that this is a fantsy of his but latley it seems to be consuming ever time we want to get intimate! When I get home form work alot of the times he wants me to tell him all about the guys reactions during my dances while he has sex with me, masturbates, whaterver. and alot of the times I really dont feel horney after work I feel exuasted!! This wouldnt be bad if it was every once in a while but it seems like every time we have sex he has to hear about it and it just is getting annoying!!! He knows how I feel but he says his fantsy is never going to go away. Alot of times he asks me to have sex with some guy in reality and it kind of scares me. It is find being a fantsy but I am not comfortable taking it to the next level into reality! He doesnt say he will leave me if I dont or any ultimatums like that but he is very persistint with it! I think I am protecting our relationship by not taking it that far. What should I do? How can I calm down his fantsy? It is not like he is gay or anything I think he just gets excited by me inticing lust in other men. He has absoulty no intrest in a threesome with another girl all he talks about when he is horny is watching me do stuff to another man! Has anyone eles boyfriend been this way? How do you handle it?

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    yeah my hubby gets the same kick.. go figure

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    Default Re: My boyfriend is turned on by my job!

    Possibility #1 - this is simply a variant of the "trophy wife" syndrome! It's an ego boost for him to know that you, as his "trophy", can turn on any other guy you choose to, but ultimately come back to him at the end of the night.

    Possibility #2 - this is the 'feeling out' stage to see how receptive you are to taking the business one step farther into porn or escorting.

    Possibility #3 - this is a prelude to getting you involved in 'swinging'.

    Possibility #4 - the guy simply has voyeuristic tendencies!

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    If your job turns him on lucky you!!! But if this 'fantasy' is his only way of getting turned on now, that may be an issue the two of you need to talk about.
    Pamela

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    Years ago I lived with a woman who danced. I always thought she was very sexy, and loved the idea that men were being turned on by her. But hta's as far as it went. She was faithful to me while we lived together, as I was to her. I never got turned on thinking about her actually having sex with another guy - if she did it would have ended our relationship. We are still very close, very good friends.


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