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    One time while traveling home from a strip club I was followed. When I realized it I drove straight to the police station and the guy drove off. I was terrified and it kinda made me re think my profession. Do any girls have any experiences they want to share. What they do to protect themsleves. The bouncers wait until all the cars drive off until letting the girls go to there cars. I don't know when the costumer started following me.
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    I've had things like this happen as an art model, a dj, a barista... I don't think it is the profession so much as being in a place where you would come in contact with the public. All you can do is be cautious, especially being a woman alone.

    I personally never take my car to work (has an apartment parking sticker and a persoanlized license plate) but take a cab each night with a driver that is, well, over cautious. I never tell people what part of town I live in or any other info that can help someone lurk. All in all, a person just needs to use their instincts and common sense.
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    I live in gated apartments, and I do the following: when I key in my number, I drive in just far enough to let the gate close behind me--even if there is a car behind me. If it is a neighbor, they get pissed because they can't sneak in without going through the motions, but I don't care. Safety is most important, and if the car behind me is a stranger, they can't sneak in that way.

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    I worked with a female bartender who made the mistake of telling a cashier at a local 7-11 where she worked. After that, he came in every day to the bar after that and spent hours there. She repeatedly fended off his advances, at first polite, then more forceful. He accused her of being to snobbish, because she was "just a bartender". It came to a head when I kicked his ass out for bothering her (management back me up on this one for once). He slashed the tires on my car that night, and followed her home after we were done. He accosted her, to which she had the wherewithal to mace him. That didn’t stop him, but her kick to his head did. All the time she said he was saying "I just want to talk.. I just want to talk". He ended up in jail for a while, but got more of a "rehab" program because he had no history of this or a police record. She, however, quit a week later, which I understood completely, but it sucked because she was a friend, and a good bartender as well.

    If you are a women dealing with the general public, this threat is always out there. It’s one of the worst aspects of our society and culture, but it’s reality. We have to do all we can to combat it.. and think of safety and caution first for you folks.

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    There is alway's the imminent possibility that you an be stalked or persuaded by a person. In the club's it seem's to be more of an issue since this same person could have spent time with you in a more then normal intimate way. It's an issue for women everywhere regurdless of there occupation. We at my club are in fear of this all the time and there is no real way to be protected from it. If you do the smart thing's I've heard in this thread like take a cab or live in a gated community you are considerably safer .... but ..... if followed, the pursuer now has a closer relationship with you because he know's about where you live and he can if obsessive enough use that as a starting point. It's a scary world out there and it never hurt's to protect yourself the best you can.

    A "should be" common known fact is that cell phone's are the world's next best protection tool. By law a cell phone MUST whether it's in service or not I repeat MUST allow and transmit a 911 call. Not only that but the new twist is that if you dial 911 in some place's, soon to be all place's, It will transmit to a GPS and give the police your exact location to speed there response. So carry a dead cell phone and keep one at the house on a charger just for the hell of it. Dead cell phone's are becoming if not already a dime a dozen but a good investment none the less.

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    Holy crap. Those stories scared the hell out of me. especially yours Tigerlilly. That would make one scary movie.

    Sorry it to happened to you. Some gus are pretty freaking Psycho.

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    Yeah, some pretty scary things have happened to me too. My safety tips are:

    1. ALWAYS carry a cell phone.
    2. When driving home from work, check behind you every time you turn or get on/off the freeway. If the same car is behind you for two or three turns, don't go home.
    3. Know where the police stations around you are.
    4. Always have a full tank of gas when you're leaving work.
    5. Don't let customers think that they have any kind of a relationship with you outside of work.
    6. I think every stripper (every woman, really) and everyone involved in the business, should read Gavin de Beckers book The Gift Of Fear. This book will tell you how to avoid these situations, what to do when you can't avoid them, and make you a lot more comfortable dealing with stuff like this.

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    i reccomend The Gift of Fear as well. it's an excellent book with advice about trusting your intuition that can be extended beyond the scenarios covered there - even into other facets of your life.
    i was followed without my knowledge this past spring (there aren't any give away turns on the fairly busy road i take to and from work) and i actually didn't know the guy was following me till i got out of my car and he walked around the fence from the bar parking lot next door. luckily i was on my cell with my boyfriend at the time (who wasn't at home - but at a friends house about 15 mi away). i just got back into the car and locked the door and drove off (headed for said friend's house). apparently i must have backed over the guy's foot at the same time because when the cops got to my house (my friend called 911 while i was on my way down to their place) they found him passed out drunk in his truck in the bar parking lot next door. i guess he had tried to leave but couldn't drive his truck with broken toes. the security cameras outside the bar had everything on tape and the guy is now in deep shit.
    i guess what this is trying t say is: it's really helpful to have somewhere besides home that you can go. i know this isn't always possible when you're on the road, but at home i have what i call a "safe friend" who i can call at any hour of the night and they will meet me anywhere and i can always stay at their house. it's just nice to know that i don't have to go to home to an empty house if something happens.

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    I am careful about who I give my number to (never customers), my club does NOT have my number and neither do many of the dancers, I just take theirs down.
    I've been stalked by a "well-meaning" guy. A dancer gave him my number and he WOULD NOT stop calling. And he knew where I lived, but never showed up, thank goodness. It ended when he got kicked out of his house by the boy friend of the girl who gave him my number. It didn't get bad, other than calling my from pay phones all the time, but you never know, right?
    I have my own cab drivers for the clubs that I work in. If these drivers can't take me at my allotted time I will either go in later and pay the fine, or just concider it a sign and stay home.
    I live in a secure building with cameras and have two awesome dogs that DO NOT like unexpected visitors.
    We DO need to be careful and there is no reason not to be a little paranoid of the guys in the parking lot. Our bouncers hang out in the lot and make sure that no one follows a dancer out. They will call us on our cells. It is a well lit lot and the dancers don't usually leave until ALL the customers are gone, and we kick them out QUICK. So if there is still a customer out there he better have a good reason.
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    The Gift of Fear is a great book. Being scared and paranoid is the best way to avoid trouble.

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    I am always terrified by costumers! Did you see the outfits they had on for The Fifth Element. Made me shiver and gave me nightmares for a week!

    But like people have written - this isn't just a dancer problem... and it isn't just a female problem either.

    Sometimes I wonder if it has more to do with how we are so disconnected from each other in this society - that some people have a strong social need that our society can no longer fulfill and just won't take no for an answer.

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    I've discovered that the personalities that stalker types have cannot be helped by any amount of kindness or reasonable talking.
    I've mentioned before that my cousin worked at a bank with a rule about female tellers reporting "inappropriate" interest from male customers. Apparently bank employees get stalked frequently- a guy left a rose and 12 page letter for her. I read it. The sad part is that it wasn't violent or menacing, but he went on and on about HIMSELF for 12 pages. He had projected a fantasy onto her and he barely knew her.
    So it can happen to anyone. I am aware of men under-reporting stalking from females for various reasons. Which is a whole other discussion.

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    I picked up a stalker wehn I worked at Radio Shack. He got my car keys and house keys once (my own stupid mistake) and actaully attemped to break into my apartment. Very scarey.


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    ok,well here is also a word of caution,BEWARE of co dancers!!! If you dont have a locker get one,If you have a house mom tip her well to watch your keys. A bad ass dancer took another girls keys,made copys,then had her friends use her house when she was at buisness. Ripped her house to pieces!

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    Me too I had a stalker when I worked as a cashier at Canadian Tire lol ( canadian tire is like home depot or something similar ) he would hide in the alley and spy on me and bring me chocolate. He was like 50 and I was like 17-18. I taught it was creepy. He even asked me for my phone number one day I said no and after he never came back.

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    And also when I was a bartender I had a guy come in and he really didn't fit with the hip and young crowd and he was bugging me so I told my manager and he told him never to come back.

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    The last time I had someone follow me from work I pulled into the closest gas station and pulled my gun on them while I was on the phone with 911.

    I don't play around with anyone, lol.

    It ended up being a very drunk chick who though I was her buddies she was following, but if it hadn't have been I still would have been prepared.

    I always keep the back tank with at least 1/2 a tank of gas, my cell, and my gun in the truck at all times. Not to mention the jumper cables, a gallon of water, flashlight, blanket, a couple of nutrition bars, small toolbox, and extra fluids for the truck.

    Dad always said it's better to be prepared.

    I reccommend that a woman in this line of work, as well as any night time job, buy a gun and know how to use it properly. But that's just me.
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    Is this just my eyes, or does this thread say Dangerous "COSTUMERS"?

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    That is what I was confused about^ HUH?

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