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    Ok I'm curious - I read a brief discussion about this somewhere else:

    Girls and guys - how do you feel about women customers in female strip clubs? How about couples vs groups of lesbians? I work in a club where both come in, and everyone seems basically ok with it, but one thing I notice is most dancers seem to ignore them - both couples and lesbian groups. I frequently capitalize on that, and alot of the women complain that all the other girls ignored them the whole night.

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    Default Shouldn't really be an issue...

    ...Given whoever or whatever the sex, (or sexual preference for that matter), as long as they are there for the purpose of being entertained, and pay for the 'services' provided.

    Some dancers may, and do have issues, or prejudices against certain types of patrons, but everyone who walks in to the club with the purpose of watching, etc. IS a customer, possibly YOUR customer and should be seen as such.

    Those who ignore them are the ones missing out on possible $$$.

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    Sort of a topic close to my heart. Girl Friday and I go to clubs and have experience with this.

    Of course it depends on the club and the girls. For the most part, here in California, we don't have much trouble, but there are always girls who do ignore us. Well, I wouldn't say ignore, more like avoid.

    I have chatted with dancers after they've danced or hung out with us and most say they don't know the situation between us. They don't know whether I've dragged her in or whether she's there to enjoy herself too. After dancing, I can't think of one time a dancer hasn't said how fun it was dancing for her or the both of us.

    I think ladies should be a bit more bold when it comes to female customers. The worse that can happen is she says no, the best is she buys a few dances. Also, if you've got a female at the tip rail, show her love. Guys love it!

    It is different dancing for a guy and a girl...skilled dancers know how. There seems to be two approaches when approaching female customers. One is girlie, they come up and act like they want to be her friend and talk about shoes, makeup, etc. The second is more how dancers approach guys, sexy, seductive, etc.

    For all of the ladies who've danced for her, only two stick out in my mind. One got quite physical, while the other provided more of a sensual experience. She enjoyed both (after the first one she talked about it all the whole way home), but she prefered the second.

    Also, our friends know we go to clubs and more and more, other couples have approached us about going along with us. So don't discount the ladies...remember I pack double the money when I come with her .

    OH! and sometimes she likes to watch me get laps. Most dancers I've talked to haven't done this before, guys have watched but not the girls. I would say if you've danced for either member of the couple before and now one wants to watch, dance as usual, don't hold back, they know what to expect. And remember to keep both involved. Look at the other person every now and again while you're dancing for one of them.

    I'll ask GF to stop by and tell her side, but it's finals week so we'll have to see.

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    In my experience, female customers tend to tip more courteously than most male ones so I'm glad to see them. I've not worked in a club that wasn't female customer-friendly. Male/female couples I don't approach very often because more often than not it's been a pick-up attempt. No thanks. That's not a generalization, just personal experience. But if they stage tip and ask for a dance while I collecting, no problem. No problem saying hello/having a good time/etc, if I'm circulating, but I don't try to sell them. And the thing about dancing for one while the other one watches doesn't fly with me. Two people watching=two people paying. $20 becomes $40 or one of them stays in his/her seat.

    Groups of girls I'll approach really readily because they tend to be the ones having (or at least appear to be having) the most fun in the place. Very appreciative and engaged, rarely hide out in the corners, there to see and be seen. Maybe that's an LA thing, or it could be just because we get an eclectic crowd.

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    It never hurts to ask a girl/couple if they'd like a dance. And don't ignore the girls tipping at the stage, show them some attention they are there to have a good time just like the guys.
    If you would like to approach a couple but you are unsure of their reaction, just approach the girl, go up to her and start talking to her, make her feel like you are more interested in her than in her b.f or getting a dance... if they say they aren't ready, try to flirt with her through out their stay at the club (cute little smiles, say hello, be girlie with her, make her feel special somehow)... by doing this the g.f. will be more open to the idea of getting a dance from you.
    I personally prefer a dancer to show me attention first, then move on to my b.f. (stage tipping and laps)

    Almost everytime a dancer shows me attention on the stage my b.f. buys at least 2 dances from her.
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    Personally, I love female customers. I always offer them dances, and really enjoy it.

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    It doesn't bother me a bit to dance for the women, whether they are there as part of a couple, or as a lesbian or whatever.

    Not only that, BUT there is one other benefit to dancing for the chicks! The single guys in there, especially the young ones, will always watch when you dance for a woman, and if they like the whole lesbian undertone, then they start tipping like crazy. Just something I noticed fairly quickly!

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    If there is a woman at the tip rail I will always say "Ladies First" and dance in front of her first. If she seems comfortable with it I'll often center my whole set around her - the guys like it.

    I have a few couples that come in to see me, and they have all tried to get me to go home with them eventually. But most of them take no's well.

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    OK... nasty-ass opinion time.....

    In my HUMBLE opinion, female patrons are LOUSY tippers. Sometimes a GUY will buy a lapdance for his date as a joke, and that's that. However, (again...humble opinion) the REAL money on any given night from a handful of customers who get repeat, repeat, repeat dances. If you work a female customer, you spend time talking to her, then a dance, then MORE time with you and her giggling about what it's like working there, etc. etc. etc., while one of the OTHER girls is across the room sitting in some guys lap for the 5th song in a row lifting a $20 out of his shirt pocket every time the DJ changes tracks..... get the picture?


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    Love them!!! I have met many lesbian or bi-sexual women while dancing. They tip great and always want to see ya again!
    Now i have had a table full of ladies at times, and they make jokes and laugh at the dancers. Guys and ladies together. The guy usually gets a lap dance i have noticed, while i see the lady looking on.
    Usually a woman who wants me to dance for her is one who looks much different than i. Go figure.
    Love the ladies...but in groups i can do without if they are poking fun at us.
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    My husband and I go to clubs together, and I have noticed that girls do not approach us as much as they do others who do not tip as well. This surprises me since I am a dancer, I always say "Thanks!" to anyone that tips me on stage. And it's really weird because most of the girls are always telling me how beautiful my hubby is or telling him that they think I am attractive. I have been in the spot where girls get mad when you dance at their table for their guy but I make a point of tipping girls.

    Any thoughts..... ???


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    i have a guy friend that i go partying with ...we usually end up at a club if were not already there...and we usually get dances together...my friend and i had a fav....her name was taylor and she was an exceptionally beautiful girl...we'd usually get around 6 or 7 dances but she's spend 4 or 5 dances paying attention to just me..i had to keep telling her to go to my friend sitting next to me...she used to make me drool she was soo pretty...but as far as girl customers in the club, i'd like to go and talk to them but i'm ususally too busy..and i don't work nights which is when probably a lot of them come in
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    How dancers feel has always intrigued me. I love beautiful women. I love real performances. When I go into a club, I tip generously, and I will buy dances for whomever I am with...just not for myself. In Akron 90% of the clubs...you are told not to approach couples because they never spend money. Whatever. All I know is that I walked into Dreamers with $500 in my pocket. I was out to have a damn good time. I was with an older man (50s) and not ONE dancer approached us in the 45 minutes we were there. We bought drinks, we put money on the table, I asked a waitress to send a girl over, and that is when she said that the management didn't like couples. So, I got up, with my money in my hand (fat roll) and counted it out nice and slow as I was walking out the door.

    Then we went across the street and spent not only that $500 but another $200.

    So sorry Dreamers.

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    For the most part, I like the women. They are usually nicer to deal with if you make the slightest effort. I get alot of couples too, because when they sit at my stage I always pay attention to the woman, much more than the man. When the guy has a tip for me, I give all the attention to the woman with him, and they love it. They almost always ask a bouncer to send me for dances or VIP before I even get off stage, and I continue to give the most attention to the lady. The guys are happy to watch, and the couples almost always come back to see me. Every time I dance for a couple, either the guy tells me to keep going or the woman asks him to buy her another dance, and how can he refuse? Of course, they almost always get around to asking me to come home with them, but usually after a few visits, and the 'single' men do the same thing, so I figure I can deal with that from a couple just as easily as I can with a guy.

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    I have danced for women and couples before and enjoy it. It is a nice change from hairy men , and they usually have a ton of questions. I don't appreciate it though when they assume they can break no touching rules without asking just because they are female.

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    I always sit for a min or two with couples - it's not like hustling guys for a dance, b/c women want some sort of acknowledgement and comfort-level. We have a lot of couples who go to the champagne lounge and I've also done that a few times -
    We also get a lot of bachelorette parties, and I've found the girls always to be great in groups.

    I've also found women to be very generous! 2 out of 5 times, roughly, the women either are also dancers, or have danced before and understand the importance of tipping. I get this one girl who comes in periodically and makes me a skirt of dollars and tips roughly 30-40 singles on stage - to the point where I'm starting to slip all over the place and they're falling onto customer's heads! Generally, they may not tip per dance, but then again not many male customers do that, either, nowadays. We get a lot of women - last night we must have had at least 20 women all night.

    And I also agree - giving (and getting) dances to girls always generates more business. Two of the other girls and I have one customer that comes in and three of us usually sit with him and he pays for us (the dancers) to dance for each other ... it always makes quite a stir, (we can get away with it - we work there!),generates great business, and I'm in hog-heaven.

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    I swear even though emotions would run rampant I would love to open an all female strip club with men as the guests(mmm gotta think more on how that would work) I love to dance for woman and I love woman even though I have been with the same man 11 years now. I noticed the same thing in my club and not only did they not give the customer the time of day but a few dancers also did not seem to like the fact that I loved it so much(oh please excuse me for loving my work for a second)

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    Female customers that are actually tipping/doing dances/there to have a good time-are great! I have a lot of fun and enjoy dancing for them (sometimes they've even improved my entire night!)

    That said, my club gets a large amount of female "customers" (I use the term loosely) We get large groups, sometimes co-ed, sometimes all females. They do not tip, they do not smile unless it's to say something catty about a dancer, one group of ladies actually worked on picking up guys all night! So in most instances, I dread seeing such a group come in. I'm leary of them, but will keep an eye one them-it's simple, if they can make it up to stage one time.. just once for any of the girls, or tip when the tip bucket comes around-I will approach them, if however they do not, and are pretty much talking to each other rather than paying attention to their surroundings-I avoid them like the plague they are.

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    The more the merrier. Straight, bi-curious, bi, lesbian, they are all welcome in my opinion. In some clubs, women customers are not allowed in without a male escort. This seems prejudicial to me.

    That is, indeed, discriminatory. Most provinces and states have laws that prohibit most businesses to discriminate on the basis of sex.

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    Girls, lesbians, or a female half of a couple - I put them into two groups: (1)people who go in there just like everyone else, to have a little fun and not be the center of attention (2)people who go to have everyone looking at them <I've seen a girl half a couple jump on stage and do an impromptu stripease before the bouncer pulled her off>. Either way, I don't care. Guys are the same way. To me, watching how the crowd reacts to the girls is the most interesting part of going. Watching the dances or getting a dance is only 20% of the fun.

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    I pretty much figure they are 1. Friends of one of the employees. 2. There for an audition. 3. Lesbians. Except for the last case they seem pretty much out of place as I don't believe they are very good tippers.

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    I love it when women and couples come into the club.
    It is usually that the woman is curious and the man wants to show her that its ok to look at beautiful women. I have had awsome nights money wise with them both. As well as made a female friend or 2 out of it.
    Usually the man wants to watch his girl interact with you. And is in no hurry to leave the booth.

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    I never had a really good experience with couples, it was often just plain uncomfortable. And the swingers were the absolute worst but for different reasons.
    There would be women who would come in from time to time with male work colleagues, they were usually pretty cool, and I'd try to make them feel welcome and at ease.
    Other dancers though were just a pleasure to have in the club as long as they'd respect the fact they weren't working- and most did.
    Occasionally we'd get a few lesbians in the club and the experiences I had with them were no different than male customers- some were great tippers and fun to chat with and dance for... others were cheap or grabby.

    I think the reason women ( in couples) get ignored alot is because they often appear to be uncomfortable themselves. Often if I danced for the man, I'd worry I was going to upset the woman- and I was a airdancer no less.... I would even try to keep the conversation with the man to a min. a focus on the wife..... I guess I just didn't want to disrespect her, or make her feel unattractive or whatever .... I know people say they wouldn't be there if they didn't want to, but I saw all too many that looked like they didn't want to be there, and further more didn't want their men there either.

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    Gosh I love to entertain women as well. Most times I entertaint them is only when they ask for me or tell me to come over after getting off the stage.

    Im kinda shy around women and there are times when I've approached the couples and asking for a dance. The woman woudl get an attidude or get pissed off if he pays more than one dance. At that point that's when I stopped approaching couples. I've noticed many couples there where dancers would ignore them or chat a little if they know them.

    I dont mind giving dances for women and I think it's sexier that way lol. But it isn't good when they get an attitude or uncomfortable. I try my best to make them comfortable as possible.

    One nite last week a woman had tipped me 100 bucks when Im on stage and Im like damn! and when I got off that couple had sent a waitress for me while I was changing in dressing room. I came over and gave them a couple of dances. we had a good/fun nite that nite.

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