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    I have heard all these stories about how dancers try to keep their profession a secret and word gets around and they get "found out".

    Has this happened to anyone? I personally prefer to tell people myself and not let them hear it from a third party.

    Do your parents know what you do? When they found out how did the react?

    Im going through a situation like this now...any stories would be comforting. lol.


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    I told my parents two weeks after I started. They were upset but I wasn't living at home and frankly it's my life so I do what I think is best and if anyone has a problem it's THEIR problem. I suffer my own consequences and try not to hurt others. But boy did my parents have a COW at first! "Don't you have any morals?!"...."How can you do such a thing?!"...."Doesn't your conscience eat at you?!"...."You're degrading yourself!" blah blah blah. Of course I didn't stop and after some time they saw I wasn't getting in trouble, didn't turn into a junkie, and was able to pay my bills and live better and even put myself through college, so they've gotten more ok with it. They'd still prefer I do something else, but they can't say much since I have proven all their catastrophic predictions wrong

    I tell pretty much everyone what I do - it certainly is no secret. I don't really care who knows because they can either accept me or not. As for my future, I don't plan on having any normal jobs so that isn't really an issue. If my plans don't work out and I have to get a 'normal' job I have no problem moving to a different area where people don't know me and I can fudge a resume easily - I have sources for references and I degree to help get me in the door.

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    My parents know, I told them about a month after I started dancing. My mom was furious, but I don't know for sure if she was mad because I was going to be able to pay for college, or because I was stripping. She's never really made it clear which was worse, college or stripping.

    As for friends, I never made my job a secret. Now that I'm out of college and retired from stripping, I don't make a big deal about it at my new job, but if anyone asks, I freely admit to having been a stripper. My current boyfriend knows and he's very cool with it! Of course, he gets those full service lap dances that most guys only fantasize about.

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    My situation's much like Bridgette's - my parents were not happy, but none of the things they were afraid would happen to me did. And of course, my father's reaction was much, much worse than my mom's. She jokes about the job every once in a while now, even!
    I couldn't lie - it would be more stressful to me to maintain the lie than it would be to deal with the consequences of telling the truth. I don't think there's a good way to break the news, so be prepared for the worst and you might be pleasantly surprised. And be sure to tell them that you respect them too much to lie to them.

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    I let my parents know b4 I took the step. It was met with a lot of dissappointment, not anger. I understood teir dissappointment, and I told them so. But, I also made a deal with them. I sked them to give me a year, and if I wasn't happy with it--or in their eyes if I wasn't the same person (i.e., couldn't see my own problems) then I would hang it up. We both agreed the experience was not as bad as we thought it might have turned out to be. I believe the respectI showed them before making the move was an important fact for a parent--even though I was an adult (legally) at the time. I don't think it hurt when I paid off half of my student loans in that one year, either!

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