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    This is a board for us strippers, and i have a question for the customers. I have an important question that i would like to read with any answers you would like to share.
    Upon entering a club what catches your eye about a certain dancer?
    I mean the very first glance/look/stare...what is it that attracts you to a particular woman? Even before she opens her mouth to speak to you. That "FIRST" impression. And what will make you go back to her again? Thanks guys? Pamela

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    For me its her face and brunettes. She doesn't need to be a super model face. The girl next door look usually gets to me first.

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    Honestly, her smile and the way she walks. Depressed looking and clumsy dancers tell a story that I don't want to hear.

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    I don't get attracted in the first glance. It's my experience that stunners don't always back it up with personality. Sometimes, but you can't count on it. So I don't get caught up in a first glance.

    Also, when I first enter the club, I have to get acclimated to the sights and sounds and layout.

    Eye contact, smiling, humor, ability to listen, and having her brain drive her mouth. That's what I like. Secondary considerations then come into play with the dancer's physical attributes and my own preferences.

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    When I walk into a club, if the gil seems to be enjoying herself....she could be faking it, but,if she looks like she wants to be there, and is having fun, that is the first that attracts me. Nothing worse then seeing a dancer on stage looking board,, and absolutely doing nothing on stage......especially when its the 1st dancer you see!
    Its also what keeps me going back. I have a few regulars, they all know me, know a little about me. etc.....

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    If she appears to be more woman than "dancer".

    If that makes sense to you.

    "The elastic retreat rings the close of play as the last wave uncovers the newfangled way."

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    I guess that was what I was trying to say.

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    Actually, that's what everyone is always trying to say.

    IMO, the question "How do I be a dancer?" should never be asked.

    Anyways, that's enough psychobabble from me today.

    "The elastic retreat rings the close of play as the last wave uncovers the newfangled way."

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    Wow guys~I am really impressed with your replies~i'm certainly glad to hear some intelligent responses for once~you dont get alot of guys in the clubs like that these days......thank you to you all.
    ~*Newly*Born*Lil*Porn*Star*~

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    More woman than a dancer! Nice. Girl next door, i love it! Smiling, eye contact, the way she walks, enjoying her self!!! Wow. I will always keep these words in my mind! Helps me learn what men really want in a woman, dancer or not. Thanks guys.
    Pamela

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    Before anyone draws the wrong conclusions, I feel I need to follow up on AnAgAmEsx's post and remind all the girls that guys like Tre, Jack, G_real, Superdude, Jason etc. are wonderful - however, their respectful attitude, their appreciation of the finer points of a dancer's attributes, confidence, personality etc. is the EXCEPTION rather than the rule as far as most club customers are concerned. If most club customers were like these guys, I wouldn't mind dancing live! However, the fact is that most customers are NOT like these guys. Most customers spending habits are indeed swayed by first impressions of a knockout physical appearance rather than a girl next door look. Most guys' wallets are opened by the promise of "up close and personal" attention rather than a wonderful personality. The guys that post here are "the choir" - but we earn our living from "the sinners"!

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    Melonie you are so correct!!!! However, i asked these questions for myself, wanting to know how i can better carry myself and behave to improve on my skills. I think that alot of guys would respond pretty close in the same direction! I don't know our board customers personally,(actually only one.) But they seem right on with what i ask customers i meet in the club, and guys at work in the hospital, and a smile to me is indeed a personal appearance, as is eye contact. Being focused on that one person. Anything to improve my skills, because i am not a contact dancer, so i don't get that "up close and personal". And i love the Honesty! I agree there are all kinds. The knock out physical appearance is not what makes alot of girls money. It's the attitude..loving your job, and being happy! Average looking or worse make excellent money because of the attitude when a guy sees them working and loving it! I believe. Not all, but alot.
    Pamela

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    Actually, Mel, what I was implying in my less than generic response doesn't differ much from your comments.

    Men crave the illusion, correct?
    Though, often lose themselves within it.
    Most seek the attention of a beautiful, charming woman; Not a "dancer" per se.

    Though one should never be ignorant to the fact that it is a job, the less they are made to feel like they are a customer, and the more they are made to feel like a man, the more enjoyable the experience.

    Certainly, many take the illusion too far, and feel they should be promised "up close and personal attention".
    Feeling it, and receiving it are two separate issues.

    At any rate, thank you for the compliment.

    "The elastic retreat rings the close of play as the last wave uncovers the newfangled way."

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    The guys that post here are "the choir" - but we earn our living from "the sinners"!
    .....I've sinned.....
    "carpe diem"

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    LOL

    Melonie brought up a good comment not all men are nice as some of the guys on this board.

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    Nope, not all guys are nice; I know for a fact that you ladies run into many assholes. Still, I think there are more commonalities between the average customer and the guys posting here, at least in my experience. I was married to an ex-dancer, I've dated several and several of my good friends are dancers; in addition, I'm a regular at a dance club and I'm friends with numerous guys who are also regulars. In my opinion most customers can be broken down to 3 types:

    The Boy's Night Out Customer:

    These guys are out to blow off steam, they're loud, boisterous, usually obnoxious and very easy to spot (this type doesn't have to be in a group though they usually are). These guys are running on pure testosterone, they're trying to impress their buddies with how macho they are. They are looking for good time party girls; if you are after their money (and they often drop alot), a slutty persona goes a long way. Sexual innuendo, flirting and perhaps doing a shot with them will keep their wallets open.

    The Lonely/Horny Customer:

    These guys are out to indulge in sexual fantasy; more often than not these guys sit alone, are quiet and reserved. They seem to like to sit at out of the way tables or in darker corners; if they spot a girl they like, they'll sometimes work up the courage to tip them on stage, if one of these guys tips you onstage, his wallet is probably yours. These are tough customers to deal with, most are shy, if you can figure out what their particular kink is you could easily make a regular customer out of them. For example, one dancer I know has a regular who likes her to jam her heel into his thigh or her knee into his crotch. My suggestion is to approach them gently, don't expect them to be very talkative; whatever you can do to make them feel comfortable will pay dividends in tips, when dancing for them try to get feedback, "Do you like that?" etc.

    The Regular Customer:

    In my opinion these guys are the toughest customers to impress. They are there alot, they've seen lots of girls and have gotten lots of dances. If they show up more than a 3 or 4 times a month , there is a reason; if you're new to a club you might ask a couple dancers if they know about him, I've seen more than a couple loud arguments between dancers because one of them danced for the other's boyfriend. These guys are usually interested in more than your boobs, friendly conversation is a must; as a regular myself, I'll occasionally get a dance from a spectacular looking woman, but by far the bulk of my tips go to women I know and talk to on a regular basis. These guys see and hear alot, trying to hustle them usually doesn't work; on slow nights, I'd suggest spending some of your spare time talking to them, it can pay off in the long run. I know I definitely spend alot more on dancers who I don't feel are "only" after my money.

    Anyway, that's my advice.

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    The first thing with me is "face" then body, then when up close if appearance is untidy or mouth is fowl then I run the other way.
    Also If the girl has "noticably overdone fake boobs" that is a GIANT turnoff to me, and these days a lot of other guys I talk to aswell.
    Also I don't think the "knockout" has it made in the shade either, a lot of guys are intimidated by them and go for a more homely type woman.
    Just my opinion.

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    Tre said it best when he described the woman not the position.

    That said from a distance I look for her appearance, does her outfit and clothing choice flatter her, is she trying to hard by placing herself on "display" in her outfit. Her appearance must fit her demeanor, as she gets closer I look at the way that she makes eye contact, the smooth and confident manner that she moves in (without being "swanky") and most of all the way that she looks at me when saying "hello".

    Be it the bar, the dance club, or even the gym the way that a woman moves and carries herself can be just as alluring if not more then seeing her dance topless or nude, the nudity by and of itself is not attractive to me, but the woman is.

    If that makes sense?
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    Also I don't think the "knockout" has it made in the shade either, a lot of guys are intimidated by them and go for a more homely type woman.
    Just my opinion.
    I think it is unusual to hear this from a strip club customer. Before I started dancing I thought that women HAD to be "knockouts" to make money as a dancer. So I went to a club to check it out, expecting to be surrounded by Pamela Anderson clones...boy was I surprised. But I still think "homely" dancers should put a little more time and effort into their appearance so they look like dancers, and not just any girl you can see out on the street. This past Saturday I was sitting and talking with a bunch of married guys. They said that they were pretty disappointed in the quality of the girls thus far, and if they wanted to see girls like that they would just go home to their wives. :o

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    I'm late to this discussion but as a frequent patron of strip clubs, the first thing that catches my attention is the smile which means attitude. I go to the club to get myself into an up mood. I don't need people around me and especially performers who are hostile or snotty. Fortunately, where I go the women are all great. I always leave the establishment feeling a lot better than when I went in. And some of you women on this board (hi Pam) are a big part of that.
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    Pamela, you want my attention? How you work the pole or stage will determine whether or not you'll get my attention, and eventually, my wallet. I don't care if you dance to a slow, seductive or heart stomping beat. As long as you put effort and get into the routine and smile while making eye contact at me at the same time, then, you've got my undivided attention.

    Don't think I won't know if you're just going thru the motions because I can spot the lazy, unmotivated girl from the rest. I'm sure you've seen the type of dancer I'm talking about. The one who does the same tired, predictable routine that's guaranteed to turn my focus somewhere else. She may fool the newbie or other customers many times, but it won't work on me.

    And, some dancers wonder why they get turned down despite their good looks?

    I hope that helps.
    "carpe diem"

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    And Chet i do give my undivided attention to one who likes my style! No doubt. Pamela
    However i am one for the more (not all the time,) slow, sex, masturbating looking dancer on pole or floor, totally enjoying the fact that i look like i can actually get off kinda dancer. Makes me feel good, sexual, in control and powerful!! It's a high...really.

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    I look for a connection. Kind of like when you're at a party and some one catches your eye and smiles.
    We all imagine ourselves the agents of our destiny, capable of determining our own fate. But have we truly any choice in when we rise, or when we fall, or does a force larger than ourselves bid us our direction. Is it evolution that takes us by the hand, does Science point our way, or is it God who intervenes keeping us safe.

    So much struggle for meaning, for purpose. And in the end, we find it only in each other. Our shared experience of the fantastic. And the mundane. The simple human need to find a kindred, to connect. And to know in our hearts... that we are not alone.
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    Actually, I feel a lot of customers are intimidated by the "knock out", who may come off snobby and unapproachable. I 've noticed that not necessarily "homely" but the girl next door does attract a lot of customers. I agree that most customers don't want to feel like they are paying for an illusion and have felt rejection from snobby "knock out's" outside of the club, thus they are not apt to fall for it. Therefore girls with truly beautiful physical appearances have to exude an approachable presence to compensate for this, as well as making sure they are enjoying themselves and not just counting their tips.

    Also, I realized we all need to be "up close and personal"...Thanks Pamela! Whether it's a physical connection or a mental one. I am not a contact dancer either, so I don't get that "up close and personal" physically, but in conversation and presence. These are the skills are I am interested in improving.


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    Hmmm....the first thing to catch my eye is usually the 'knockout' blonde, but that's not who I usually end up getting lap dances from. A smile is definitely an attention grabber (or more generally- enthusiasm), and I like the 'cute/sweet' look a lot (more approachable than the knockouts who always seem stand-offish and abrupt with me). I usually end up buying a dance from a girl who is a good combination: looks + approachable + enjoying herself (or appearing to), which is usually not the best looking, or easiest to talk to, or most fun dancer in the club, but a bit of each. I buy repeat dances from the girl above who is soft and *sensual*. I've had a few dances where I swear she must have been trying to drill for oil- ouch; it's a lap, not bedrock!

    Also, though there are probably a few exceptions, I think Dharmabum nailed it with his description of the three customer types.

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