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Physically fighting? Or both just trying to "win" me over?



Bob's rule of thumb " I would fight to the death for a woman, I wouldn't raise a finger over a woman. I would never compete for a woman's affection, I have way to much to offer and if they can't take the time to find that out then it's there loss. That would be why I have a great marriage and relationship with a beautiful, intelligent woman 15 year's my junior. She saw me for who and what I was.
I have no clue how to vote this pole ???


I think if 2 guys are fighting over 1 girl, then either:
The girl is playing them both in an attempt to empower herself. Probably has low self esteem.
Or the girl has no desire to be with either of them and the guys are just wierdos.
Tyler




I was speaking mainly about arguementative fighting although that sometimes turns physical. If I were the object of affection I would see the contenders actions as that of jealousy. If someone relies on cutting down and bashing others to boost their image they must be insecure. But some people see that as desireable. As I see it they end up with a person who is continually playing the elimidate game and everyone represents a threat to the relationship.
If I were one of the contenders I would assert my personal qualities but I see no purpose to belittling others. I'd let them be the judge of their destiny. Of course I'd probably be the first eliminated.


If the girl is even entertaining the thought of some other guy, I don't want her.




If a girl is allowing two guys to fight over her, most likely she is enjoying the show and cares more about that than either one of them. Crazybob said it eloquently and succinctly. One fights for a woman, not over her.
Personally, any women who encourages two guys to fight over her is not worth fighting for.
BINGO bro. you will be much better off with someone
who with only you. nobody needs that. Dating is tough
enough.
If they have to fight over my affections, then they can kiss my affections forever bye-bye.




Okay Nightrider, suppose two or more girls were competing over you for your attention. They are all on the same level so you are not obligated initially to any one of them. Because they are willing to battle each other (cut down, verbally bash, demean each other) do you see this as a way one expresses dedication to you or are they simply intimidated by their competition so much that they must resort to such tactics? How would you interpret such an event?
The situation isn't that prevailant among men (women fighting over men) but in elimidate they seem to enjoy it ever as much as the women.
well lets just say people do all sorts of things for love, lust, sex and HATE. I never want to guys to compete for me. I date now freely, and i make it clear i am dating other men for friendship, companionship and to eventually know what guy and i can share experiences, be who we are. (something i could not do while dancing, i was looked at like sex mainly).
Anyway, i had 2 guys get into a bad one over me, and i'll be damned if it happens again. Both of them went, btw.
NO fighting for someones affection etc. Tell the person how you think about them, and if she does not get the picture, her lose. BUT....She has to know. I have dated TOO many guys who thought i could read minds. Thats what had led to fighting. I don't like violence. Period. It shows insecurity.
Pamela
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