Just a fun little poll.
Just a fun little poll.
With all the estrogen flowing on these boards, I don't believe everyone has voted--otherwise, I 'm sure several would have chosen the LAST option.


I'm just impressed that many people would simply walk away. Wish I had that kind of self-control!
"Just 'cause she dances go-go, that don't make her a 'ho, no.....called up my Mama, said 'I'm in love with this stripper yo.'"
-Wyclef Jean
I think it depends on the person and their attitude, and my mood.
Tell them how you feel in a nice calm way. Or Try to change this persons mind. If the person was reasonable type person.
If they were bigoted misogynists and attacking what I did for work I might. Tell them how you feel in a mad, pissed off tone. Or Walk away. This person has issues.
Some people I don't care what they think.
Beat em up. I might fantasize about beating them up, I am not a violent person. Don't enjoy hurting people. And I believe the way of Martin Luther King.
Anyone that does not respects others on this difficult planet to live in is, mean and hateful and generally unhappy.
Happy people share the joy.
People are preprogrammed with preconceived ideas and prejudices from the scripts of the herd of sheep. They are ignorant and prejudice.It usually comes from a man. Who hates women and is full of anger. Consider the source.
Hold you head high and be proud of what you do. Exotic dancers are one of the most unappreciated workers in our society.
But that doesn't mean it's deserving or true that Exotic Dancers are inferior in anyway. I like to call them haters.
whut does diss dancer mean? (i really dont know)
Talk trash about us/to us simply because we are dancers.
" If I can't be a good example, then I will just have to be a terrible warning."
whut does diss dancer mean? (i really dont know)
Diss is short for disrespect.
Like where do you live on the moon.?( just kidding) That's an example of dissing somebody





I generally walk away, but if the dis is very severe, I will make sure the shithead is properly insulted and made to feel and look like a real asshole in front of whomever is around, then walk away. Of course the second reaction is very very rare.
I'd walk away simply because I am trying to make money. And not only do I not make money by wasting my time with an asshole, but if I let it get to me, it's going to make me cranky all night. And you know being in a bad mood will affect your earnings like nothing else!





I can't just pick one answer as depending on variables I acted differntly, sometimes I'd try to reason with them othertimes I'd walk away and sometimes I'd get pissed.





I'll just walk away ninety percent of the time.
If it's somebody that I know and respect I'll give them the opportunity to keep my respect by letting them know how I feel and letting them decide to adjust their position or not.
Lena
There are those few insults that a person could give me where i would blow up. Some girls wont put up with being called cunts- others wont tolerate being told to shut up- and i have mine i can tell you that!
I just have to walk away when someone "dishes out the disses"- hell, its not like i dont have enough shit on my plate to put up with already, and I have learned that you have to walk away from certain situations- " grant me the serenity to accept the things that i cannot change, the courage to change the things i can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
Im not religious at all, but i live by this saying. It holds a truth that there are some things in life you have no control over- no matter how bad you wish you could. I cant change the way people think or act torwards me, (dammit! why not??!)- i cant change the fact that i have two kids now and im way too young for it.
I can change how i act torwards jerks, and control the situation completley, because if I ignore them or say " thanks for your opinion" and walk away, i controled that because that asswipe is left in the cold with no one to pick on but himself.
Once again,
i don't know call me cold, or something, but i don't have the power to stop what someone says about me, or to me, but i do have the power over my own feelings.
Walk away. "what i did not hear anything". Lol.
If someone who *doesn't even know me* disses me, what am I supposed to think? That their opinion actually has some importance?
Insults reveal everything about the person uttering them-- they are not about you at all.
I know that sounds easy to say that, but it actually took me a few months of cognitive therapy to realize the truth: you cannot control what other people think or feel. You are not responsible for their feelings. However you have control over how you choose to respond. There are always options.
When I work, I am focused on doing well and making money. I simply have no time to allow anyone to upset me or throw me off. (Of course if the "diss" crosses over into genuinely abusive behaviour, I am perfectly capable of bringing it to the attention of the house manager, who might choose to shut off the customer's liquor or ask him to leave.)
Last nite was a perfect example, I speak to this "boy" who was sitting by my satellite, taking up what could have been a seat for a paying customer and just staring at me. I speak and just say hi and keep dancing. When song ends I said was I really that bad or are you just not into the whole club thing? He said naw, u looked nice but why should I pay u anything? I said I don't recall asking u for money or anything but u were staring at me like I was a green monster or had a tampon string hanging out or something. He says naw, but I would never pay for a dance u should pay me to dance for you. You girls in here think the world revolves around ya'll and shit. I looked at him and said I'm sorry some girl or stripper did u wrong and make u hate those of us with estrogen but if u hate us why r u here, but honestly I don't want to know the answer, have a nice night and take care. I walked away.
"Come what may although I often say realities come from dreams, but approach all lies with open eyes because NOthing in this world is EVER ALL it seems."
My favorite way to deal with this is to let someone walk themselves into a corner.
Most of the time that I have run into the "diss the dancer" thing, it is by a woman in my daytime mode, i.e. me dealing with the electronics or promotion of one of my club nights or bands or in a computer related instance since I occasionally contract.
So here they are mindlessly turning to the topic of how terrible/drug-addled/stupid/whatever dancers are for whatever reason thinking that this is somehow an appropriate topic for us "liberated college educated chicks" (or the occasional PC guy telling me that HE'S a feminist *gag*) when I eventually work it around to getting them to ask what my "full-time" job is. "Oh, I'm a dancer". "A ballet dancer?" "No, I take my clothes off for strange men for money". Big Grin.
LOL! If you do it just right, the blushing and back peddaling is priceless. Even funnier is how often they become fascinated by the world and want to do amateur night!
For the record, I almost never deal with this in the club. If I sense something leading that way I just blow the guy off and move on. Not worth my time or energy since they seem to never have money anyway, heh. Getting mad just ruins your money for the night.
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