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    Hey girls,

    I need some advice. I think a lot of you know that I work in a bikini bar in the valley in LA. It has a nude bar next door and we are allowed to do lap dances as long as we are back on time to do our stage dances at the bikini bar.

    Things had been going better. I actually had a $500 night last Saturday and only had to tip out $10!! I tipped out $30, just to be generous.

    The owner likes me, as well as the management, bouncers and all of the pretty female bartenders. They treat me with respect and have been polite to me.

    Here is my problem: For once, for some reason, I am pretty much the most popular dancer in the bikini bar. I have always danced well, but as far as popularity, I've maybe been in the top 10 or so in the clubs where I have worked, but not like, the top. I don't have implants, I am not blonde, I am not the youngest, but certainly not the oldest. I love stage dancing and I try to have a good attitude, even on slow days.

    Well, there are about three dancers there who would love to see me quit or get fired. They try not to let me on stage. They get tweaked when they see me make money. Two of them are a lot older than me and all three of them are a lot bigger and taller and are always fucked up on drugs and alcohol.

    Last night, the one who packs a gun, accused me of dancing longer than I should have. (Two songs a set, two stages.) She has done this before and I usually just let her dance. Last night, she said I had finished my set, when in reality, I had one more set to go. I reassured her that I was right. Then other people, men and women told her that I was right. She kept yelling at me and I finally, for the first time, lost my temper and told her to shut the fuck up, damn it!

    Oh boy! While I was finishing my song, she called me names, used her ghetto speak, accusing me of saying that I was "better" than her....et.

    I finished my song, went to the second stage and all of my customers came with me. She was angry. She didn't finish her set.

    The manager asked her to leave. She didn't dance, but she kept going outside and coming in, talking crap about me. Then she called a huge, fat girlfriend of hers to back her up.

    The manager spoke to me and reassured me that I would be escorted to my car when I left work and that they would rather have me there than her.

    I was really afraid. I am getting married in less than two weeks with my Dad walking me down the aisle. The last thing I need is for my face to be fucked up or my hair pulled out!!

    I had guys,my customers surrounding me, to protect me. I can't reason with her. I was really upset because she is a mature mother of four and I can imagine how she treats her kids

    I have never, ever had to put up w/ this kind of behavior before from a dancer.

    I am considering just taking a sabbatical until my wedding is over and going back to work in June. I will talk to the owner about it. If he fires me, I can't help that.

    It is just that I do like the place and I get along w/ almost everyone.

    My big question is: How do I handle working there if they don't fire her? I finally find a place that is comfortable and this is what happens

    What would you girls do?

    I really felt sad for women kind after this incident. This happens after I find out that a beautiful man friend of mine has a rare form of leukemia that can only be cured with the right bone marrow donor! I was saddened and angry about her pettiness!!

    Really confused and not wanting to be a cynic,

    Corey :-/
    (Formerly known as 'Korina')

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    I would tell the manager it's you or her. No one can be expected to go to work everyday glancing over their shoulder because they might get jumped! He needs to do his job and handle this. At the very least, he can warn her that if she does anything to you, she will be fired. If he were reasonable he would have sent her home that day, but for some reason most club owners go for quantity not quality when it comes to dancers.
    Hopefully when you talk to the owner they will have enough sense to know that if they don't take care of this they will be losing a top girl, I'm sure they'd rather have you there than her.

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    Well if the manager already told you he'd rather have you instead of the lunatic, he's basically given you the greenlight to gently ask him to do something about the situation. He obviously knows she's a troublemaker, as well as alot of other people, so I suggest you go in early or call the guy before opening, anything that will allow you to have a calm conversation without other girls around, especially the lunatic. Tell him she is really out of line and that you are worried about your own safety. Tell him about your pre-wedding concerns, and even if you do take a few weeks off to get through your wedding, you will still be worried about your safety with her around. She sounds like a real loose cannon, someone you should be concerned about. Have you heard anything about her attacking people in the past? I'd be surprised if you're her first 'problem'. Finally, make it clear to your manager that you don't want to cause problems, that you just want to do your job and you want to keep working there, but if this girl is allowed to continue terrorizing you, you can't stay there.

    I worked at a club once where something similar happened to me, and when I finally complained to the owner, he told me he couldn't fire her because A) she was his ex-wife and the mother of his kids so he felt he had to let her work there to make a living, and B) he was really scared of what she might do if he fired her because of some really nasty things she'd done in the past - like called the cops and told them he was beating her in the club (everyone knew what was happening and he never touched her), falsely reported a fire at the club, attacked other girls at work, sugared a bouncer's gas tank, keyed cars, slashed tires, etc etc etc. Point is, sometimes managers are too scared of some lunatic dancers to fire them, even though that's what they really want to do and know they really should do.

    And concerning the lunatic girl, she is just extremely insecure, has apparently screwed up her life with drugs and alcohol, and can no longer make the money she used to, so instead of doing something positive about it, she looks at girls like you to blame and victimize. She may have once been the 'top' girl, and you may remind her too much of what she ruined in herself, so she tries to terrorize you into leaving. That's really all she wants, for you to leave. And if the manager of your club is stupid enough to put up with her crap, maybe you should leave, and take your customers with you. You don't need that kind of crap for what is, in reality, a little more money.

    Try talking to your manager, and if he can't/won't do anything about it, find another club and tell all your current customers to come see you at the new place! And yes, I'd probably take the time off for the wedding. No need to stress at such a time in your life! Good luck!

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    My advice would be as follows:

    1. Take the 2 weeks off--both of you could probably do with a vacation from each other;

    2. Let her know your position IN FRONT OF MGR. It will add fuel on the fire if you tlk to the man behind her back, and she willassume all sorts of lies are being spread. Hell, invite her friend.

    3. Drop the "most popular in the club" attitude, as I am sure she doesn't agree with you on this matter. You say there are 3 dancers who don't like you--ask them what is wrong--maybe you guys can work out a solutuion to what is really no problem at all. If there are 3 girls havig a problem with you, it may be legit--at least in their eyes. Hell, tip them the next time they're up. Bringa guy with you to tip them ,and let the girls know you are doing it for them. It doesn't take much to please us girls.

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    Gosh i hate to say this, i don't want it to come out wrong. But upon being hired at a new club, you have to walk in that door that first night with an attitude that "my shit don't stink"! Really.
    Dancers can be very bad. And tend to weed out and form a small gang to push around a dancer who looks meek, or can't really stand her own around them.
    I know alot of you may disagree, but it's the same thing as going back to grade school when we had our "bullies". Dancers are bullies! Many.
    Don't even acnowledge her, or anyone who does mean things to you at work. By keeping to your own and having that bouncy happy and i really don't need your shit attitude, they can see it. Believe me. The first thing she wanted was words with you, it opens the door for future words/problems.
    Back off her, stay clear of her. Just say smart words like, "just doing my job". "Here the stage is all yours now". If she wants to pursue "you were on too long shit, keep on walking. If someone can't get a reaction out of you, they sooner or later leave it alone.
    And as far as her getting fitred, well, she probably would go down the road to the next club. So it may not matter to her.
    And packing a gun ? I hope not in the club, and with behaviour like that, she should not be able to carry, period. She has issues.
    Ignore her. Period. Only speak to her when it comes to giving up the stage to her, etc. IN kind words, she is nothing more than stuck in grade school behaviour, and drugs don't help.
    When she sees she cant push you around, she will find a newbie soon, and start on her. How sad.
    Pamela

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    Pamela is talking "pecking order" and it does exist.
    And bullies are bullies usually without rationale and they always have a couple lackeys that hang on, looking up to or agreeing with, everything the 'bully' says regardless of right or wrong.

    Regardless....A GUN?! Holy SH*T!

    I doubt she has a permit to transport, I am not sure about your Laws in L.A. but to tote a gun around one must have permit to transport.

    Maybe a descreet call to the authorities?

    I too would just breeze on by her and her entourage of minions, ascertain my position with the management, perhaps change scheduling so u leave before her, or hell that 2 weeks at another club might be the thing, your wedding is very important - and this stress won't help in any way.

    But I would definitely speak with management and I would definitely consider seeking out another club, especially if you have no troubles picking up where you left off at ie. regulars and high earning pontential as you mentioned.

    Sometimes it all aint worth the effort. Just make your position known to the manager - your wedding plans etc and that safety is of your utmost concern, hell they can walk u to your car everynight but whats to stop that gal from following you HOME? The club can only do so much so it is primarily up to you on how you wish to handle it.

    Think big picture.
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    I have to agree with Leigh on this one. Get out of that club and don't go back! If this club manager really felt that strongly about doing whatever was necessary to right wrongs and to guarantee keeping you by firing her, he would have done exactly that last night. What this manager actually did do is avoid pissing off this other dancer any more than was absolutely necessary, and offer you one night of security escort to your car. Leigh is absolutely correct that this girl poses a risk to you outside the club as well as inside. This girl also poses a risk to you if the manager fires her and she blames you for it. But if the manager does not fire this girl and you wind up working with her again in the future, it's simply a matter of time until an instant replay of last night occurs, or worse. This is a no-win situation.

    If you aren't prepared to simply move on and leave this problem behind you as you move to a new club, taking two weeks off right now would in effect be making a statement to this girl and her friends that they were successful in intimidating you. Even though this statement isn't the reason you're taking the time off, this girl and her friends will think that you left because of what they did. This will only make the likelihood of a nasty instant replay even greater when you return in 2 weeks. If you want to continue working at this club, it's imperative that you continue to show up over the next few nights to send the opposite message i.e. this girl's bullshit has not changed anything. At that point, this girl is forced to deal with a choice of laying off your case or of shooting you to get rid of you! Odds are 99% that she'll lay off your case, particularly since she has 4 kids to consider if she gets 10 years for attempted murder. But there's always that 1% chance, particularly if drugs and alcohol are involved.

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    How does management allow girls to carry guns? (If they do know that she does) That is completely ridiculous.. I carry pepper spray for my own protection, but a gun? Cmon! As far as girls being bitches when they see other girls making money.. yep, it happens. It just shows that THEY arent making money or they wouldnt be hounded you so much! Geeze..

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    . ( Drop the "most popular in the club" attitude)

    Precious,

    This is something that has just happened. I have never, ever, voiced this to anyone especially to the other dancers. I have been courteous and polite and I have complimented the other dancers while being honest about it. This is just an observation, not an attitude.

    I do appreciate your advice, in a big way.

    To Leigh,

    You CANNOT get a permit to carry a handgun in LA. I heard from another dancer that she is full of shit. As far as her picking on other dancers; she has. In fact, it was one of the other ones who wanted to see me leave. An ex-porn actress who drinks Jack out of a bottle who is just as tough. I wasn't there, but I heard they got into a fist fight. I have not seen the ex-actress since I heard about it. She also had a nasty yelling fight w/ one of her friends. A pretty black girl, who is very petite. Since, this girl is somewhat friends w/ her, it didn't faze her. She also terrorized a new pretty black girl, who had never danced before. This new girl confided in Tina,(her name) and told her she was a virgin. Tina then proceeded to try to pimp this girl off to customers with this information. The poor girl was in tears! Now this girl, the new one, is gone and she was one of my friends.

    When I first met Tina, we got along great! She was full of praise and compliments and I helped her out w/ her costumes and it was just over a month that I saw this "witch" starting to emerge.

    Pamela,

    The way I got these three women to start hating me, was by sticking up for myself, calmly. If I had let them walk all over me, they would be fine. I can only take so much.

    To Everyone,

    I am a really physically strong person. Small, but strong. I carry defensive weapons, which are legal and I can defend myself physically. I guess I really don't want it to come down to it. Actually, I am afraid that if I do fight, I may lose it and possibly really cause serious damage to someone or maybe , death. I certainly don't think it is worth it!

    To Melonie,

    I see your point of her point of view. She probably will see my sabbatical as a weak point. I really do want to rest before my wedding and my fiance is already supporting me in a big way, both emotionally and financially. Our scheduling is weird. They are trying to keep a study schedule, but some women just tend to LIVE there. The economical situation in LA, as you know is so poor that some dancers are working 24/7, relying on drugs, alcohol, you name it. One of those three girls is a tall, beautiful, blonde ex-runway model. She is still young, but she is so fucked in her head by the business. She felt she had to gain weight to make money as a dancer to support her runway shows. When she modeled, she was too thin to make money as a dancer, she told me, now she has gone somewhat over board with her weight, and her runway career is finished! She is always drunk and looking for ways to make quick money. She is really jealous that I am getting married. I don't understand it. She is younger than me and if she put's the bottle down, she could have or do whatever or whomever she wants.

    Ok, I am rambling. I really, really appreciate all the advice you girls have given me. I am calling the owner today to speak calmly to him,(or if I get one of the managers, that's cool), and I am taking the next few days off or I might just work an early shift for the next few days and hopefully avoid her,(our club is small, that is the problem) :-/

    The thing is, I am also a legitimate actor and I was just going to do dance contests, but I have workshops that I have signed for that get me out too late to make some of the contests. However, there are three that I can do between now and when I leave for Vegas to get married. My fiance really would like me to lay off the club for a while.

    Regardless of what I end up doing, the talk with the owner or manager today is a definite.

    I'll keep my posts shorter in the future

    Thanks girls,

    Corey
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    Oh God, I'm back again :o

    There was something that I had remembered. She has actually almost sat on the stage while I have been dancing, watching my every move. She has complimented me, as I have her. But the vibe I got, was so evil. She has also pounced on stage before my second song was even over. This happened one night while I was having a pretty lucrative set. I had to scurry around gathering my money, feeling ridiculous!

    I now wear boots a lot and stuff mu money in them

    I have even given her money that she has accidently left on stage!

    Just can't win :-/

    OK, I'll stop,

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    I doubt she carries a gun inside the club,,but you can leave it inside your car. At least in florida, but not a smart move.
    As far as quiting the club, well yes and no.
    As a dancer for many years, i would have quit Pure Platinum in the first week because of other dancers, and threats. I had to work around it, and stand on my feet, with out aggression. The bad apples eventually go.
    These types are in every club, they just don't get reported enough, so the dancer who is picked on just quits.
    You can club hop for many years because of "bad dancers'. I would not chose that path.
    As a human being, and working under that establishment, you have rights. First protection from her, it's the law. We have harrasment, and god forbid she laid hands on you, jail time.
    You said you talked with the managment, do so again, alone in an office setting. Be walked to your vehicle, and have management talk to her about her job status.
    And you say you are the most popular girl there, don't flaunt it. Maybe you did. Word gets out quickly. Nothing is your fault, bullies are bullies, and eventually an adult who is one will pay the price.
    But keep your money earnings to yourself. Don't let her or anyone push you around.
    If all fails, and management does NOT get rid of the trouble makers for other dancers, then it's time to book.
    Until then i would stay, work, be polite, say "fuck you' under your breath, and move on with making money.
    It's not often the most popular dancer quits a club, managment sees to it they stay. Trouble makers go.
    Pamela. Good luck!

    OK Corey i just saw your post....THIS CHICK HAS GOT TO GO. AND BUCKLING UNDER WILL EAT AT YOUR SELF ESTEEM.

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    Hey again!

    I just got off the phone with the owner. He doesn't want me to leave and apparently, after I left that night, he put her and one other girl on a temporary suspension letting them come back with a warning that if one more thing happens; they're gone.

    I told him I feared for my safety and felt uncomfortable and that I can afford to take the next couple of weeks off, if it was OK with them. He did want me there. So, I compromised.

    I will work all of the days that I am on the schedule,except for Friday and work the earliest shifts. I know this may eat into my income, but that's the least of my worries. I feel this way and I am standing my ground, satisfying my employers and making myself a bit more comfortable.

    The owner is a porn/actor that has dealt w/ drugged out actors/dancers before. He told me he knows she NEEDS this job and has no-where else to go therefore, she has to keep in line. He assured me that nothing would happen to me or my car. My fiance is behind any decision I make.

    So, wish me luck tomorrow and if it gets ugly, I'll just walk out the door and not lose my temper.

    Thanks again girls!!

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    I just got off the phone with the owner. He doesn't want me to leave and apparently, after I left that night, he put her and one other girl on a temporary suspension letting them come back with a warning that if one more thing happens; they're gone.
    so when they come back, they'll be out for revenge against you. there's also the distinct possibility that they won't wait for the temporary suspension to be over and will be camping out in the parking lot for the next time you show up. all management has really done is provoke them into doing worse to you.

    I told him I feared for my safety and felt uncomfortable and that I can afford to take the next couple of weeks off, if it was OK with them. He did want me there. So, I compromised.
    i really don't understand why you feel the need to compromise your personal safety to such an extent. of course they don't want to lose you, you make them money. as far as i can see, the money they make from you is all they really care about. they've already demonstrated that they don't care about your personal safety because the problem girls are still there, and they've been there through all the problems they've caused before. they also don't care about the bad reflection this puts on the clubs business... anywhere i've worked would never continue to let a dancer work in their club that caused such problems that the customers were aware of it, particularly to such an extent where the PATRONS had to step in to protect you. :o

    I will work all of the days that I am on the schedule,except for Friday and work the earliest shifts. I know this may eat into my income, but that's the least of my worries. I feel this way and I am standing my ground, satisfying my employers and making myself a bit more comfortable.
    if you're an independent contractor, they aren't your employers and you don't owe them any employee loyalty. frankly, no one with employee status would ever put up with such hazardous working conditions just for a paycheck, so i really can't understand why you think you owe them one damn thing.

    The owner is a porn/actor that has dealt w/ drugged out actors/dancers before. He told me he knows she NEEDS this job and has no-where else to go therefore, she has to keep in line.


    she has to keep in line? from what you've been saying, she's already stepped far out of line and she still has a job. Melonie is right... she should have been sacked the night of the incident in question. with her drinking and drug problems and previous history of troublemaking, she should have been sacked long before the incident. you aren't the first girl to make complaints about these troublemakers and you won't be the last. yet through it all, the club still lets them continue to work there and cause problems.

    He assured me that nothing would happen to me or my car.


    get that in writing. although i seriously doubt they'd do such a thing, which would just go to show how much faith you should put in their assurances... they've already demonstrated that they don't care about the safety of their dancers.

    My fiance is behind any decision I make.
    i would hope that someone that cares so much for you would be more concerned about your personal safety. i can understand your fiance not wanting to make waves right before the wedding or put himself in a position of telling you what to do, but i think you're asking far too much from him in his being ok with your continuing to work in this environment.

    i think you're making a huge mistake. as long as you continue to work there, you put yourself in harms way. you'll have to look over your shoulder constantly, and eventually something is going to happen. the owner you spoke to already said that something else has to happen before these loonies get the axe... why are you offering yourself up as the sacrificial lamb?

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    So, wish me luck tomorrow and if it gets ugly, I'll just walk out the door Corey
    wow this is rather scary but I guess you alone are the best judge. While I agree with Pamela in essence, it seems like your situation goes beyond your typical jealousy and sabatoge girls encounter in the club. There is drinking, drugging and deadly weapons involved. And they have some twisted hatred of you. Don't underestimate what they might be capable of. I think if at ANYTIME your instinct tells you to get out then you should GET OUT immediately. Fuck finishing your shift. Your safety (and your life) just isn't worth risking.


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    That's what those drugs will do to a person. don't confuse me with the black Tina who is your problem. I'm very nice LOL.

    that LA area has a bad vibe of despondency to it. i worked ther briefly last summer and in one club the mexican gangbangers were trying to burn the club down while I was there because the owner was trying to keep them out, and at another long beach club the 'senior' girls had their own dressing rooms and at another club TJ's in Stanton, the new girls couldn't share the dressing room with the veteran ones but had to use the other area.

    That is why I posted that the whole LA metro area has gone down and as you know you can drive for miles there and still be in the barrio/hood. And dancers are more fucked up than regular women anywhere you go let alone in a metro area that is run down for miles. my fiance got a haircut in the black shop and the barbers were talking about several of their businessmen customers who moved to Houston and Atlanta to find a nice suburban lifestyle. i work bookings with a girl out here in the dakotas who worked many of the LA clubs before her and her husband moved from there to Sioux Falls SD to get out of the ratrace.

    Like Melonie says i would get out of that club. you are on their turf and even if the manager fires the girls they will have one of their homies fuck you up outside of the club. That Corey is the name of the game in the streets.

    I've seen your picture and you are a beautiful girl and too much of a threat to be working around that tough kind of element.

    I can't recommend where you can go, but i feel that all west coast states are not good to dance in anymore. Many of the middle class normal families have moved to Phoenix and Las vegas from the LA area. as you know white people are a minority there. You're in Mexican country and evenblacks have lost ground there. Asians have taken over the former high end white neighborhoods and you're just in a position to be bullied there.

    I'm not trying to be racist as I am non-white myself, just telling it like it is. You are not making that much money there for it to cost you your life.

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    Hey you guys,

    THANKS!!

    I just got back from the gym and I kept thinking about all of the things that could possibly happen to me. My gut starting turning when the thought of one of them siding up to me in the dressing room and putting a knife in my stomach entered my mind in repetition,

    Alanah:

    You are the voice of reason. I am usually very logical. I guess Brad made me feel safe for about an hour. I am almost in tears after reading the latest posts because it all makes perfect sense.

    Tina:

    You are right. Most of these places are in the ghetto or have that vibe. I really did feel comfortable here. The area is not bad and the flexibility was great. I audtioned for Forty Deuce which is one of Ian Kane's clubs (The Deep). The dancers do elaborate burlesque shows which are choreographed extensively. You don't have to deal w/ tips, you get paid salary and no extras or nudity. There was 70 girls at the audition. They needed 10 for their LA/Las Vegas clubs. I got cut at 30.
    Too short to be a show girl :-/

    Screw it! I'll just do a couple of contests! I am outta there!

    Thank you for making me wake up and smell the java, all of you! I am in tears to know that there is a community that cares.

    Big Hugs,

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    Corey,
    I sent you an Inbox on stripperweb --hope things work out for you. After reading Tina's reply to you, I 'm convinced you're making the right decision to dump that place. I didn't realize how rough things can get down there, but wow, buring the place down is an eye opener for me.

    Come back to S.F., we miss you!

    Kaiya (at the Lusty Lady San Francisco)

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    After reading more of the details you've posted and some of the other ladies' opinions, I have to agree it's probably in your best interest to get out of there. The club's management wants to keep you around because you make them money, and in my experience, most managers will say just about anything to placate you and convince you to stay. You certainly can't take them seriously when they say something like 'they won't let anything happen to you at work'. That is a load of crap. If some lunatic girl gets a wild hair to cause you harm, she WILL do it, no matter what - besides, I have seen way too many managers and bouncers falling down on their jobs to put any faith in their assurances of 'protection'. The manager who told you the lunatic girl has nowhere else to go and she really needs the job sees the lunatic as a steady source of tipouts, so he will never fire her. That type of attitude shows he wants girls who 'can't' go anywhere else, because he knows he can always count on them showing to pay the tipouts. He would love to keep both you and the lunatics, but he can't have both, and apparently he values the lunatics with noplace else to go more than a beautiful talented dancer with a good attitude - he knows you DO have other places to go, and therefore less reason to keep returning to his dump.

    Just don't go back there at all. Drop the place like stinky used socks! Maybe the contests will be better for you for now. Are there any other clubs in the area where you can work - even if they're further away? I really wish you the best of luck in this situation!

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    I am appalled. Why in the heck would he keep a "jerk" who dances ?
    She is a threat to others as well as you. nothing good will come out of this for him, he lost you, a good dancer! And kept a drug filled woman, who one day is going to hurt someone at the club.

    All he taught her is it's cool, behave badly, i will still keep you, but a slap on the wrist now and again will straighten you out! Yea right.
    This chiick needs to learn. Not chase off other dancers. His club will eventually crash.
    He takes care of her. Hmm, he's not worth it either.

    Good luck, were you move on to. And thank god she will be away from you.
    Too many damn nuts in the clubs, and management needs to keep it clean. I honestly thought he would get rid of her, Blew my mind, and first time i have heard of this.
    Pamela

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    This girl sounds dangerous, she's on drugs and has a gun. I would take a mini vacation while she cools down. If they do fire her, the mother of four, she'll be even more dangerous.

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    I highly agree Brandi,
    i would have a" Baker act" thrown on her, and therapy along with it!
    Pamela

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    . ( Drop the place like stinky used socks!)

    Bridgette: Love that quote! That is so-o-o funny!

    Pamela: Umm...excuse my ignorance but, what is the "Baker Act?"

    To All of You: Once again, thanks! I am not going to deal w/ looking for another job until after the wedding. My fiance is supportive and is more than happy to help me out until then.

    If I wasn't working on an acting career, I would definitely be dancing in another state in another city, but I gotta stay. Who knows, maybe I will have to hang up my platforms and g-string if I can't find the comfortable place to work.

    (I'll make this short,at least try.) When I first moved her in Jan., I met a female film producer and went snow boarding w/ her. I told her while I was doing the acting thing in San Francsico, I danced part-time and it worked out well. I was concerned about reading for someone, being up for the part of a Mom or Attorney or even a Nun or self-rightous social worker,FBI/CIA..et. Then having this casting person come in and see me on stage. My image would be changed, my chances of getting the role, most likely ruined.

    She advised me to stay out of W. LA and Hollywood and to try the valley. She mentioned the valley because everyone lives there but nobody 'important' in the industry goes out there.

    She got me on the audition list at Forty Deuce. She didn't return my 'Thank you' email. I may go w/ my gut and try some Hollywood clubs. I am tired of commuting so far and dealing w/ ex-porn actors. Besides, this is one industry person's opinion. When I first moved here, I just didn't want to make the wrong move as far as making my first steps in the industry. Now, I am a little more grounded.

    Anyway, thanks for the support. My decision is made. I will miss a lot of the people I worked with, but it's not like we were lifelong friends.

    Cheers and thanks,

    Corey

    PS I guess this wasn't very short
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    A baker act is a process that an individual has done to them, against their will. Family manily baker acts individuals who need drug/alcohol rehab.
    Police can baker act one who is violent, and intended to harm others or their own person. But this process has to be seen. (the person goes off).
    What happens is they come to the hospital usually some treatment, ie, alcohol level is up too high, then they are escorted off to a rehab, where they can not walk out the door for 48 hours prior to admitting. If they fight in the ER...anyone, that is assualt, and then jail too. Even spitting in ones eye can cause problems.

    That is an easy case, others go to jail, the ones who family have turned over to the authorities for drugs/ extreme alcohol abuse and are pretty much can't function in society, the person normally has a warrant for arrest that is outsttanding, so goes to jail for X amount of time too.

    We have a place down the road from the hospital that does baker acts, they do the therapy part, it's an oupatient/inpatient facility who is staffed 24/7 by qualified doctors, therapists and nurses.

    I love my sister, so i had her baker acted once, she was upset after getting out, but i saved her life at that time i feel.

    I deal with these paople all the time, and they do more harm sometimes allowed to continue in society this way, untill someone, hopefully a loved one, steps in. And baker acting is for the ones who do not freely go, of course, they need police escort.
    Just to quickly sum it up.
    Pamela

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    again, "real world" forces need to be considered in this case - with those forces being the "gang" and "drug" connections that the offending dancer apparently has. This is probably the reason that the clubowner was as lenient as possible with the offending dancer given the circumstances, he didn't want a fire bomb thrown through the club's back door! And as far as the Baker Act goes, "street law" will definitely win out over 'book law" i.e. the local cops and hospitals are lots more concerned about gunshot wounds than psycho/rehab cases (especially when the hospital isn't reimbursed by MediCal for treating these "illnesses"!). Real world situation says get the f%*k out of there and don't go back.

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    Melonie i know you are in a different state, but without a doubt i work around baker acts 4 night a week. They DO NOT throw these types of people out the door and say go away.
    The only problem you bring up about the "baker act" is the fact that not enough people do it! Untill it is beyond control and someone gets hurt bad.
    Gunshot wounds happen all the time, we know because they get reported. psycho cases do not. That is where the public has to step in.
    Local police and hospitals take on as many cases as they can. But if people like her are not turned in, she runs the show, untill she becomes the bomb.
    And street law is a baker act law as well. I have to be confronted with this issue far too much, it sucks.
    Kinda like the kid people think is being abused, then one day know this kid is, because he was beat to a pulp. Sit and wait approach never works. Never

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