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    Default Maybe this isn't for me??

    I started dancing a month or so ago, I like it, it's keeping me in shape, I like getting all dolled up, and having guys tell me I adorable all the time. I don't have any problems I can conciously think of....but for some reason, I just am not excited to go to work.
    I'm 22, I moved here from Florida a year ago. Not too many jobs here, I didn't look too much though before I started dancing. (So, I didn't do it out of nessesity) I have a boyfriend, he's really sweet and supportive, and he has no problems with it. He works during the day, so I don't see him much, but my last job was mostly nights/weekends too.
    My club are great, the girls are great, we have features and whatnot come in at times and they RAVE (and based on what I've read here, we are top-notch!) never had problems, I leave my stuff out overnight and days at a time- no thieves here! The bouncers and DJ's are good...the money is ummmmmm.....alright, I guess. I make about $13/hour, supposedly to pick up when summer starts. (It's a beach town, torists start showing up soon!) That's still better than any other jobs I'm qualified for, so I can't complain.

    I don't see any reason to not be satisfied....but for some reason, I'm just not? Sometimes I think I'm too old for this kind of work...Maybe I should be doing something more professionally related (I don't take this as a profession, it's just a job....and any other job I get will be until I finish school, my profession is medicine) Maybe I just don't have what it takes?
    Is it just Spring Fever? Or an I growing up and realizing I can't do this forever?

    I almost dislike not having a schedule that I HAVE to be there for, I have a hard time making myself go to work!!

    Anyone know what I'm talking about? Does everyone go though this, or is this an indication that this just isn't for me?

    Any tips on how to get though it?

    xoxo,
    ANGEL
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    Hey girl..
    I hear ya! DONT give up, though! If you truly feel dancing is not for you.. then start looking around at other things you could do instead that you are qualified for. Never stick with a job that you dislike. You seem to be in a tiny rut, perhaps? As you don't seem like you hate the job, just a little displeased Happens to the best of us.. I made only 20 dollars the ENTIRE day yesterday on day shift.. tonight I BANKED out!!! So good days happen and go.. if the bad days seem to outweigh the good, however.. perhaps switching clubs? 13/hr for a 4 hour shift is 52$ Still good for any other job, but with payout and everything else, it would not be incentive for me to come to work, either, if it happened all the time. If some days, however, you do wonderful.. it makes up for the shitty days. Lemme know how it goes!

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    The newness has worn off it seems..... You maybe right and dancing might not be for you.......
    You sound very level headed and are going for your education at this time, you might want to hold on to dancing for the fact you can work it around your school...
    We all go through bad times Mon and Tues, for how hard I worked my ass off, money was just ok, then Wens I cranked in the money.....You just never know how it will go, It takes only one guy to make your night sometimes........
    I bartend and dance, maybe cocktailing or bartending would be an opition for you, maybe even in a regular bar, if you want away from the whole strip club scene..
    Best of luck and let us know how things go !!!!!!!!!!
    BeBeBaziez, I had a $21 day this week too, ended up working a double, and cranked that night...... Ya never know !!! LOL
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    Sounds like you found a club MANY women only dream of working at. TOO OLD. Hun i am 33 and just stopped after starting at 21 years of age.

    However, think about it. If it's not in you, it will reflect. Stripping is tough. Hustling alot, smiling, the hours.
    But it will give you a chance to gain better people skills, have set hours you have to be there. It's all responsibility!
    You have got to want to be a dancer however. If not, it will show at work. You are right it's only a job, and one that has many good years on you!
    Sit down and write out your pros and cons. Every day drop a con, or if it's easier, try to drop one con every week. You can snap yourself out of this mode....Easily.
    On the other hand if you 'really do not like stripping' deep down inside and that is surfacing this way. Think about it.
    Good luck! Pamela

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    IF u dont mind me asking,, what area are u working in?? The money sounds pretty low

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    You also have to think about your hourly average rate when you work as a dancer. If you take your money for the week, and divide it by how many hours you worked that week, and all you end up is $13 an hour...well, you either need to switch to a more profitable club or stop dancing all together.
    This isn't necessarily a bad thing, but my point is that as mentally stressful and as physically hard this job is on your body, and the amount of time and money you have to spend on makeup application, hairstyling, beauty treatments, costumes, travel expenses, stage fees and tip outs, you could find another less stressful job where you keep your clothes on, and realistically make the same amount of money. Like Pamela said earlier, it is only a job, and like any other job you have to weight its advantages and disadvantages.
    However, if summer is supposed to be the busy season there...summer is very soon, I think you should stick it out a little while longer to see what the busy season is like.
    Who knows? You might end up working in this business part time like some girls do. If things are alot better over the summer, you could think of it as your "summer job" while you are out of school!

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    A LOT of it has to do with the club and the down-business right now. On a s-l-o-w night, when there are NO customers, and you're stuck sitting around staring at a bunch of other half-naked girls waiting for something to happen, it CAN be boring as hell. (Of course, sitting around a McDonalds watching a bunch of OTHER people wearing McDonalds uniforms, but only making $6 an hour, can be boring as hell TOO.)

    Also, I have to wonder what your club is like when it DOES get interesting. I had the real luck to work at a pair of clubs that were VERY friendly and full of really interesting customers who tipped well and were fun to dance for and talk with. If you are lucky enuf to work at a club like that, it's MUCH better than some other job, even if it ONLY pays $13 an hour (although, I'll promise you that if you've got lots of interesting guys who tip well, you'll make a LOT more than that!).

    Is it physically demanding? Yeah. So is slopping burgers for Mickey-D's. Of course, Mickey-D doesn't make you work in 6" heels. Spend a LOT of time every day on cardio and leg exercizes. Eventually, you'll find that dancing isn't as much of a physical strain, PLUS you have a great incentive to stay in great shape.

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    Thanks alot to everyone who replied....I think I figured out what's going on.
    Well, I worked Sunday (my first Sunday, yuck!!) and came home with $28. Monday- $32 Tuesday- $18 Wednesday-$39 (this is all take home, after tip outs)
    I was supposed to go out on Wednesday to see a movie with a few girls from work and thier boyfriends (we're not the "party" girls, so while all the others are drunk at the clubs, we're at the I-hop drinking coffee) I ended up at work, because I hadn't made enough to go to the movie, none of my friends were there (they were out having fun), and pissed because I worked 4pm to 3am!!
    I was scheduled to work yesterday....I couldn't bring myself to go, I'm so stressed because I owe SO much. I was ready to never go back.
    Money sucks right now!!!

    Week before last, I didn't go home one day with less than $200 in my pocket.

    I'm frustrated and annoyed, but I think I'm going to stick it out a while longer. I agree with Susan, my club is full of good people and interesting customers. It's high class and low contact, so, it's not as bad knowing that I make less than most dancers.


    I work in eastern North Carolina, I could easily drive to Crazy Horse in Myrtle Beach, but the girls at my club who are doing that aren't coming home with too much more right now, and SC is known to be higher contact.

    $13/hr is REALLY good pay here...McDonalds pays $5.15, and they are not hiring....neither is anyone else. You'll be lucky to find a job in this town, and you'll never find one that pays more than $8/hr. I guess I'm lucky :-/

    xoxo,
    ANGEL
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    I think you are depressed right now and its because you THINK of money. I mean we all think of money when it comes to stripping, its a job but I beleive if you find something else to think about besides that money that is hard to make depression will go away. I had held jobs that were fun at first but got sooo boring BECAUSE or regular schedule. For me, for example going to work from 9-5 is not fun. I would rather go to work 9pm to 5 am, but thats just me am a night person. I think your should try to trow all the problems to the garbage ,just for a second and go to the club with positive attitude. I know you probably hate it but just for one day try and you ll make much more money because you will be happied myself. I remmeber my friend just started dancing and it was like 30 $ nights 40 $ after being there for 7-8 hours. After my friend changed the attitude and started just hustling and hustling everybody money is well. He is a male and it is harder for them to make money , he wouldnt brng home less than 200. But thats just men, and i think you are beautiful and young and just for now make that money and be happy!))


    I wish best for you

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    If your "lucky to find a job" in your town, it may not be the strip club itself but the area that its in. The locals may be broke when it comes to strip club money but you could get alot of out of town tourists visiting over the summer who are much more generous about spending.
    When I first started dancing, I was having like $40 and 50 nights even when I was hustling hard, and having to pay stage fees, buy new costumes, make up, and other stripper stuff and after deducting that from what i was making, it was like taking my clothes off for minimum wage. After a month of that, I said no way, took a month off, thought about it a bit, and then tried a different club.
    Just moving to a different area made a big difference, and I was no longer having "minimum wage nights" on the average.
    Just smile, and keep trying!

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    $13/hr is good money in the San Francisco bay area too. Like the other posters said, try to find a better club that works for you if possible.

    Another thing that could be happening is your "fresh meat newbie" stage is over. This happened to me after my first month, but over time I cultivated regulars which helped me make good money again.

    Lastly, having a positive attitude makes a huge difference. My most profitable days have ALWAYS come on days when I go in happy and upbeat. Good luck and stick it out!

    Kaiya (at the Lusty Lady San Francisco)

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    The money fluctuates in this business no matter if you work in a high end or middle of the road club.

    It depends on who comes in the club that day/night, how many girls are working vs. the number of customers, and if the club pushes dances and the dances offer enough contact to keep the guys wanting to buy one after the other.

    When I work at a club where the dances are stimulating to the guys, and the clientele is over 35, I sell lots of dances. when i work at a club where contact is minimal and guys are used to getting more, I sell less and make a lot less money.

    You are having a string of poor shifts. I usually work 8-9 hour shifts in my clubs and still have several days a week out of 6 where I might hit the low $100 range and then other nights where I hit between $200-$400.

    Your club sounds like it is very slow and doesn't have much money being spent. I have had 4 under $100 nights in a row several times over the last year or so and then bounced back with several $300-$400 ones. You are making really bad money, no wonder you are upset. I would seek out other clubs to work in if that option exists for you if it were me.

    This business is going down nowadays due to many cities eliminating contact dances which is what the customers really want. And working at a traditional job is a rat race. you'll never get rich doing that either.

    Continue with your education but my two cents worth is to see if you can find another club to work in with more stable business where guys buy lots of dances.

    Good luck.


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    When I stop thinking of dancing as a job, and put time and energy into a social life at work, I stop making money and become less enthusiastic about work. I'm not saying don't have freinds at work, but when you're at work, remember that you're there to work. If you have freinds, see if you can help eachother keep focused and upbeat while you're at work, and don't get caught up in the drama.

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    Lena, You are sooo right...but I think the opposite was my problem. I refused to be friends with the other girls, I've been taking this as a job, and going in with the mindset for money, but not the mindset for fun. If you ask any of the girls I work with, they'll tell you, I'm a smiley person (they gave me a ton of crap when I first started, they thought I smiled TOO much) but I had the, "no money no love attitude".
    I went in tonight thinking I don't like this job, I went in not giving a shit if I came out with money, and I went in and got all the numbers of the girls I was friendly with so I cound contact them if I choose not to come back......I had the most fun night since I started. The other girls and I were dancing together, I was just walking by a girl I'm not even friendly with and she asked me if I'd like to sit down and do shots with her and her customer, I was having a BLAST!!
    I don't feel tired, I came home happy, I didn't even realize it was 2 until they called "last call"
    I left with $645!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    I think I've been TOO serious, and too professional....I know I shouldn't go too far or start goofing off all the time, but I got a better reaction from EVERYONE when I was just being me!
    I know the money was a fluke, it happened to be the first night after finals (the club is within walking distance of UNCW) and we had a ton of college kids. I don't expect to make that again, but I'm really happy, and that makes up alot for this past week.

    I'll keep everyone updated on the situation. Thanks to everyone for the help. I guess I just needed a "cheer up, it'll get better"
    Hottie on the Hood

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    God I think I feel like that at the end of almost every night when its slow. But stick with it because it sure beats the alternatives even at $13 an hour. Have ti agree that sounds way low and hope you look at some other clubs.

    Shawnee

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    clubs with a younger or college clientele are not lucrative as college kids don't spend money on dances much. Glad you had a good night, but realize your money comes from the older set and that the younger clientele clubs consist of mostly stage tippers.

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    If you're not into it why don't you take a sebaticle? At 22 you're not too old by a long shot. I quit dancing for years to pursue other interests. Then I came back with avengeance. Keep in mind , dancing is not a career or a limited one at best.
    It's best to work a job you are enthused about. Good luck.

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