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    Hey everyone. I have a career already but am considering dancing because I hear the money is awesome. At the risk of sounding vain, I am considered a 9 or 10 by most, but have low self esteem, and am generally pretty sensitive.
    The only person who knows I am considering dancing says that maybe dancing will help my confidence and make me stronger. I know you all arent psychologists, but what do you think?
    Will dancing probably mess me up even more or will it probably help me? Are other dancers usually bit**es to new dancers? Are customers? I will probably work in a pretty nice establishment if I decide to take the plunge.

    ID LOVE ANY FEEDBACK!!!

    Amber

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    Your gonna come across all kinds Amber. Keep your head straight, do your job, don't break any rules/laws, and be friendly!
    You will learn alot of great people skills by becoming a dancer. Learn how to deal with all types of guys, and women. Never argue, just do your job!

    PS dancing can only mess you up if you let it. And it's not the dancing, it's the people you come across. Be straight forward, and friendly. Remember...No means no. Do only what the club allows, within laws of course. I was known as a *bitch*, but undeserved, i did my job, and hustled for the guys attention. In the long run, it did not hurt me, but made me feel powerful and in control of myself. Customers can be tough too. But you also get nice guys. Best and worst of both worlds can hit you. Go with the best when it comes to dancing!!!
    Good luck, Pamela

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    Considering your past Topic, Pamela.. this is sort of like the torch being passed.

    Good Luck to both of you.

    PJ

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    Well, i used to have the same problem when i started dancing.. but still some cusomers can be rude and sit and wait, and won't tip until you get off the stage, especially if you are not blonde with big breasts, but some tell you the nicest compliments it just depends most of time. Keep your chin up anyway!
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    by the way, do you even HAVE to ever go on stage? Why go on stage if the table dances get you more money?
    So all in all, does stripping help how you feel about yourself or hurt it?


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    Well, at some clubs you can pay an extra fee NOT to go on stage. For example, at my club it is $5 to the dj if you do go on stage, but it is $25 not to go on stage. I don't mind going on stage b/c that is how I advertise my product, so to speak.

    Some nights the money just isn't there and no matter how good looking you are you can go home at the end of the night feeling terrible about yourself. But i think overall, after hearing guy after guy tell you how beautiful you are every night, you do feel better about yourself. (my ex-boyfriend said I got conceited after I started dancing, but I don't believe a word of it )

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    I'm sure you might find stage unnerving right now. Many girls start out with the intent of being behind-the-scenes waitresses or lap dancers, and still find that stage is an amazing, athletic, creative, and profit-building aspect of dancing. Don't try to form opinions now about what you'll do there until you've taken the plunge. Many club strictly enforce stage times/rules, and require all dancers to dance. In my experience, girls who do not go up on stage are usually too "in demand" at that point in the evening or are not up the stage standards of a club at certain times for the evening. However, some clubs have stage dancing as a minimal emphasis, and if stage will be a hurdle or impossibility for you I suggest you try one of these clubs.
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    I enjoy dancing on stage because it's basically 'endorsement' for yourself.. maybe that's not the best word. It's advertisement for you. Guys can see YOU, with the spotlight on you.. dancing your heart out, lookin sexy as hell. Plus, you see who tips you well. Then, you approach them after your set

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    If you're going to dance, you're going to go on stage. It's not one of those things you can completely avoid.

    Dancing will boost your confidence and make you feel like the most attractive, sexy, powerful woman in the world one night, and the next night you'll be crying driving home feeling like shit. That's if you let it though. If you have your own knowledge of your value as a person apart from your job, it won't affect you as much.

    In general, if you have the ability to fake it till you make it, dancing in the right club might boost your self esteem. If you don't, it could crush you. For example, we had a new girl named Precious a few weeks ago. Beautiful, exotic, young black girl. She totally could have banked. But she would walk looking down at the floor, hunched over, arms crossed over her chest like she was waiting for someone to yell at her. On stage she would get naked right away (thinking probably that she wasn't worth anything with clothes on) and then dance in front of customers but not hold her garter out for a tip. She didn't make much money that way, soon resorted to offering blow jobs in the vip and was fired.

    On the flip side, we had another newbie start about the same time. Not the greatest body, really couldn't dance. But damn she had personality. She put together themed outfits from her freinds closets, found music to match, talked to all the guys, went up on stage and SMILED and was CONFIDENT (even though she really looked kinda funny) and she BANKED.

    This business is totally what you make of it. It can be empowering, oppressing, degrading, esteem-boosting, traumatic, or the best thing you've ever done. It's totally up to you.

    Lena



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    I'm sure there are more "types", but I've met three different "kinds" of girls working in the clubs. The first are the ones who have their heads screwed on wonderfully straight even BEFORE they walk in, and they view stage dancing (and the whole show, for that matter) as show-biz, pure and simple. They prolly did "Juliet" in their high school production of "Romeo and..." or were one of the chorus girls in their local little theater production of "Pirates of Penzance" and this is just a perfectly normal extension of THAT. If they weren't dancing, they'd be working as dental hygenists somewhere, with basically the same attitide toward
    "the job".

    The second group I've met are basic shy wall-flowers who end up in a strip bar either on a dare (usually with a boyfriend) or out of morbid curiousity and fascination. They end up coming out of the woodwork, and the stage becomes hypnotic and extremely empowering for them. I was kinda in that category.... sorta.

    The third kind, sadly, are on their way down the ladder of life. They're stripping cuz they've been fired from MacDonalds too many times.

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