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    had some guy try to finger me.. and as if THAT wasn't bad enough i stopped the dance.. sat down.. NEXT THING I KNEW the fucker was on top of me..


    thank god for the bouncer..

    then i had an old guy try to Suck my tits when i was on stage! ARGGGGGGGGGHHHHH and then he tried this bs line of.. "oh i didn't know" I basically told him.. you do that shit again ill kick your ass



    Needless to say there was a lot of A-holes there.. And i told 90% of there where the fuck to go.. I just couldn't take it anymore



    gotta vent..... [grr]

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    Shan, doesnt that crap just disgust the hell out of you!?

    So hard not to snap a crayon in the process too.

    These nights happen and sooner or later you develop a persona that lets them know that shit aint tolerated at least by you - additionally you become hyper-aware of the nanosecond any puke tries to pull it on you and you are prepared.

    I can't express enough how gross we look at these men for that crap. All I can think of is you pathetic desperate loser. Keep your filthy crud laden mouth OFF me, and YEESH imagine a dirty ass nasty stranger's finger?? ARGH! Just so pathetic and utterly disgusting.

    Imagine that pig not washing his hands after the last bitch that LET him do his dirty deeds on her. Or countless others, no wonder some of us develop OCD's on personal cleanliness in the clubs - I started using my elbows to push doors open, draping my entire outfit over the customer to avoid ANY direct contact with his clothing, oh man.

    THEN there are some nights where you get the best customers in the world full of laughs and fun and manners and couth.

    Its trying to ride out the nights like you just had that make this job so difficult at times.

    Vent all you want Shan - thats why we are here.
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    Last night at my club there was a girl in tears in the bathroom. It was her 2nd night dancing ever and she was going ballistic over some assholes. They don't get to me anymore. I just ignore it. You can't let the assholes get to you or it'll bring you down and you won't be able to do the job. Plus the more time you spend yelling at them or fuming about them, the more time you're not making money elsewhere.

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    This post comes at an appropriate time for me, as I have been getting increasingly disturbed over the VIP issues, thanks largely due to some StripperWeb customer questions.

    I am not the one who has to contend with this shit, but I have had to contend with countless shocked, hysterical, crying, or just plain pissed off dancers, who have been subjected to this barbaric treatment. And quite often I shared the feelings of contempt for the customers that many dancers feel, partly because of this unofficial duty of mine.

    But for over three years I have prided myself with the notion that I was an Artist at work. I felt that pride mostly for my success in getting women to really let loose and dance as they never had before, but I was also proud to say that when I gave my standard spiel for VIPs at one club, there was always a line for the available booths in less than five minutes. I also had a tendency to promote VIPs as each dancer left the stage, with great success, according to the dancers themselves, who grew to despise the other DJ there--they liked him before I started.

    I realize now that there were several dancers there who were providing extras. This means that I have effectively been a pimp. And contributing to the encouragement of the kind of behavior Shan experienced last night.

    Men such as this swine, who are guilty of sexual assault, should have their fingers hit with hammers.

    Leigh's indomitable spirit has enabled her to put these pigs in their place, before they even get started. But not all women have such strength. No wonder I have noticed that well over half of the newbie dancers have dropped out of the biz, before six months have passed. Except in the club I worked at where this kind of behavior was very rare, due to the relatively tame VIPs.

    And if I keep hearing more stories like these, or yet another customer question on the best way to get his erection rubbed in VIP, I'll be dropping out of the biz, myself, before long.

    Well, one good thing has come of this, I am now most effectively motivated to beat the shit out of my bag hanging out there.







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    Well DJ, you're sort of facing the same issue as dancers do from a different angle. For the BEST DJ's and best dancers alike, there are a handful of upscale show clubs where the 'extras' simply aren't allowed, and where the clubs run a "class act" which appeals to upscale business and tourist clientele who are basically not looking for sleaze and who are definitely not looking for trouble. Of course, there are also other factors which go along with being hired in the upscale show clubs, definitely for dancers and I would assume for DJ's as well. At any rate, there just aren't enough "job openings" in these upscale clubs such that every dancer or every DJ has a shot, and the upscale clubowners are in a position to only pick the "best of the best" dancers. I'm not sure what criteria they might use to choose a new DJ, but where dancers are concerned it's either stunning appearance or fitting into a clubowner's pre-conceived notion of what a dancer should look like. This of course dooms the other 90% of dancers and DJ's to working in "less than upscale" clubs.

    Of the "less than upscale" clubs, you've got neighborhood clubs which usually aren't too sleazy, and are usually downright pleasant to work in. But while it might be possible for the DJ in these clubs to make fairly decent money based on tipouts from the dancers, the dancers themselves aren't too thrilled about working in these clubs since there is simply not much money to be pried loose from neighborhood club customers who are tipping $1 at a time.

    This leaves the other "less than upscale" clubs as the remaining alternative for dancers who can't "make the cut" at the upscale show clubs, but who can't make ends meet on neighborhood club tips. This turns the other "less than upscale" clubs into sleaze palaces with very high contact private dances as the means of extracting large amounts of money per "less than upscale" customer. DJ's in these sleaze clubs probably find themselves with the same dilemma as the dancers - encourage very high mileage private dances and earn decent money, go back to a less sleazy neighborhood club and see your earnings cut in half or more, continue to knock on the door of the upscale show clubs in the (vain) hope that the owner will someday hire you, or take "early retirement".

    This entire situation sucks already, and every present trend in the dancing business (i.e. bad economy, anti-dance club ordinances, licensing, busts) seem to result in things only getting worse. These trends tend to make the upscale show clubs even more upscale, they tend to make the sleaze clubs even more sleazy, and they tend to make the low neighborhood club earning potential even lower.

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    had some guy try to finger me.. NEXT THING I KNEW the fucker was on top of me...then i had an old guy try to Suck my tits when i was on stage!
    I had a similarly unpleasant experience last night Shan. I work in Detroit, and all the clubs are high contact, especially the upscale gown club where I work. Ass grabbing and breast fondling are standard for lap dances.

    I would estimate rather than the occasional jerk, perhaps an approximate 50% of customers try to finger me. It's unbelievable what these guys expect. I have had customers refuse to get dances from me because I wouldn't let them eat me out. It's absolutely asinine.
    Many girls at my club perform extras, so it makes it difficult to make money if you are unwilling to bend the rules. All the girls are pretty, so some dancers feel they need to provide the customers with added incentives to buying dances from them.

    Last night I had a customer who tried to finger me the entire song, and I was forced to try and hold his hands away. Looking back, I should have left, but at the time I thought I would just finish the song and leave. Well, my logic failed me in that instance, because the guy decided to try to finger me again, and I physically could not move his hand. At this time, the bouncer comes by and stops the dance, but blames me for the incident because he didn't see the whole situation occur.

    I haven't been that upset in a long time...I was the dancer in crying hysterics. The DJ was wonderful to me, and he knew that it wasn't my fault, so he talked to the manager. The poor DJ was trying to pacify me and play music simultaneously. I explained the situation to the bouncer too, and now he understands, but it was awful nonetheless. I couldn't work after that, I had to leave.

    I hate going to work and feeling sexually assaulted by some customers. Many of the men are stronger, and try to force you to do things. I have had countless customers try to finger me, take off my g-string, put my hand in their pants, rub their dick, etc etc. It's horrible. The fact that I am a stripper shouldn't make guys feel they have the liberty to do what they wish with my body. The fact that I am comfortable wit nudity does not mean I have inclinations towards prostitution.

    I am thinking of switching clubs because I just don't know if I can deal with that much contact night after night, despite the amount of money I make. I work at a great club, it's beautiful, the managers are great, I like the girls, and most customers are genuinely pleasant. But all it takes is one asshole like I encountered last night to ruin my evening.

    Sigh, I needed to vent too....
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    I'm pretty good about setting limits as far as what I allow the customer to touch, but I'm still on the fence about what I let them say to me. On Wednesday I did a VIP with a 50+ guy who wanted to play psychological games with me. Not so much humiliation, but this whole "you're so young and so beautiful, why are you doing this to yourself, why do you allow yourself to work here, let me just love you" bullshit. After having me erotically dance for 10 minutes, he just wanted to bear-hug me for the remainder... I should have told his ass to shut the hell up. I am a stripper because I want to be, I am educated, etc. But I always fall into the trap of letting them shoot off at the mouth b/c then all I have to do is sit there. I spend the whole time trying to NOT let it get to me, but it always does.

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    then i had an old guy try to Suck my tits when i was on stage! ARGGGGGGGGGHHHHH and then he tried this bs line of.. "oh i didn't know" I basically told him.. you do that shit again ill kick your ass
    I absolutely despise this attitude that a majority of men have. They think they can try to get away with anything, and then feign ignorance to avoid responsibility for their actions. It is the core of their selfishness. I see it all the time when I bartender in my conventional bar, and I recognize it when I am at a SC. It offends my sense of propriety and justice, as well as my sense of respect and dignity for all.

    Women are human beings, and obviously worthy of basic human respect. Being on a stage in a strip club has not and will never change that. You know it’s wrong to walk up to a woman on the street and try to suck their breasts, what makes you think its okay in a SC? The blatant cop out that "I didn’t know" is just as offensive as your actual act, maybe even more so since it truly exposes the horrendous deficiency in ones character.

    In the 12 years of bartending, I have come to see that a majority of men don’t give a flying fuck about any respect for any woman. It’s a mindset that truly boggles my mind, because it’s almost that if you give any respect to a woman, you are not a man, and your "peers" have a right to harass you for it. Case in point - three weeks ago 4 business-type men, drinking at my bar, were discussing one of the men's recent date. The guy took her to dinner movies, talked for a time, dropped her off, and drove home. The response to this from his friends was - and I quote verbatim, -"Dude, you are a big pussy. If I bought a woman dinner, I would have fucked her". The others concurred. The one guy, who at first I guessed to just trying to be decent, said "Yeah yeah.. I’m working on it". I felt like saying "Stand up for yourself, you douche bag. You did a decent thing.. Don’t cave in". Sometimes it’s hard keeping my tongue.

    There is a basic level of respect one should give everyone, unless they do something to specific to destroy that respect. These jerkoffs at SC prove nightly that they don’t deserve that basic respect.

    Okay, I’m done blathering about this.

    PJ

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    In the 12 years of bartending, I have come to see that a majority of men dont give a flying fuck about any respect for any woman.
    Prester_John,
    Although I bartended for only a year prior to my illustrious stripping career , I must say that is exactly the same conclusion I came to. I've got one word for you: LESBIAN.

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    The absolute worst part of strip clubs is the repetition of second-degree sexual assaults. Night after night. In one of the clubs I go to, the worst perpetrators are off-duty cops.

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    Is that the legal definition of what these women are forced to deal with? I figured it had to be sexual assault of some kind. Is there a third degree, or is that just rape?

    I have come to the realization that these kind of guys would willingly be full-fledged rapists, if they knew noone would catch them or resist.
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    Jayln--I frequent a lot of clubs in Detroit. I always ask the dancer in the VIP to tell me her rules and boundaries. Then we go from there. It's fun for everyone that way.

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    The real pity is that dancers are treated as "second class citizens" from a personal standpoint by guys who assume that we have less than average IQ's, educations, values, ethics etc. Then we are also treated as "second class citizens" from a legal standpoint by judges and juries who assume we have less than equal rights. If the same guy in a club who repeatedly tried to finger a dancer had instead tried the very same thing on a date with the very same girl (say she was also a college student and the guy was unaware of her dancing) he would easily be convicted of date rape. But in a club setting with the very same guy and very same girl, and with the guy having spent $20 in the VIP room instead of $20 on dinner, no chance of any charges against the guy. The judge and jury will assume the girl "asked for it and was paid for it", and the girl would actually face risks of a prostitution charge instead.

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    Prester John: "In the 12 years of bartending, I have come to see that a majority of men dont give a flying fuck about any respect for any woman."

    akajules: "Prester_John, Although I bartended for only a year prior to my illustrious stripping career, I must say that is exactly the same conclusion I came to. I've got one word for you: LESBIAN."

    Unfortunately, it's my observation that human beings generally don't have that much respect for other humans when it comes to getting what they want, regardless of gender, race, ethnicity, intelligence, education, and so on.

    Of course, the ones that do have respect help make it worthwhile.

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    The absolute worst part of strip clubs is the repetition of second-degree sexual assaults. Night after night. In one of the clubs I go to, the worst perpetrators are off-duty cops.
    I have also seen and experienced this. I am of the opinion the MOST guys who seek out jobs as cops (with few exceptions of course ) are just a bunch of schmucks with poor self-esteem and ego problems who see the 'authority' of the job as a way of boosting their personal esteem. So they run around abusing their authority and blatantly breaking the laws, as if they are above the law. It absolutely disgusts me.

    Not too long ago I had some creeps swarming around me at the bar as I was scoping for someone to approach, and it turned out they were supposedly 'federal employees' who expected to get the 'full treatment' in VIP. One guy even asked me to go to VIP with him, and assured me he'd behave when I told him he had to be a good boy in there. Well of course he backed out when he discovered he had to pay the waitress for the time BEFORE we started. Guess he figured he'd get me up there, get me to spend the time and then flake on the fees. NOT.

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    The absolute worst part of strip clubs is the repetition of second-degree sexual assaults. Night after night. In one of the clubs I go to, the worst perpetrators are off-duty cops.
    I have also seen and experienced this. I am of the opinion the MOST guys who seek out jobs as cops (with few exceptions of course ) are just a bunch of schmucks with poor self-esteem and ego problems who see the 'authority' of the job as a way of boosting their personal esteem. So they run around abusing their authority and blatantly breaking the laws, as if they are above the law. It absolutely disgusts me.

    Not too long ago I had some creeps swarming around me at the bar as I was scoping for someone to approach, and it turned out they were supposedly 'federal employees' who expected to get the 'full treatment' in VIP. One guy even asked me to go to VIP with him, and assured me he'd behave when I told him he had to be a good boy in there. Well of course he backed out when he discovered he had to pay the waitress for the time BEFORE we started. Guess he figured he'd get me up there, get me to spend the time and then flake on the fees. NOT.

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    That's a freakin' good practice, making the guy pay beforehand to a third person in the presence of the dancer. In some clubs the dj tells the audience that the dancers are available for private dances and that info's at the bar. You pay at the bar then flag your dancer. Some dancers (a minority, really) take advantage of this to charge extra once inside the booth or lounge or to negotiate extras.



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    There's actually some statistic that like eighty or ninety percent of serial killers and serial rapists have worked as cops or security guards....

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    Lena, This is the source:

    In his book The Killers Among Us, Steven Egger defines serial murder:

    • A minimum of three to four victims, with a "cooling off" period in between;

    • The killer is usually a stranger to the victim -- the murders appear unconnected or random;

    • The murders reflect a need to sadistically dominate the victim;

    • The murder is rarely "for profit"; the motive is psychological, not material;

    • The victim may have "symbolic" value for the killer; method of killing may reveal this meaning;

    • Killers often choose victims who are vulnerable (prostitutes, runaways, etc.)

    Statistically, the average serial killer is a white male from a lower to middle class background, usually in his twenties or thirties. Many were physically or emotionally abused by parents. Some were adopted. As children, fledgling serial killers often set fires, torture animals, and wet their beds (these red-flag behaviors are known as the "triad" of symptoms.) Brain injuries are common. Some are very intelligent and have shown great promise as successful professionals. They are also fascinated with the police and authority in general. They will either have attempted to become police themselves but were rejected, or worked as security guards, or had served in the military. Many, including John Gacy, the Hillside Stranglers, and Ted Bundy, will disguise themselves as law enforcement officials to gain access to their victims.


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    There must be something in the stars. Last Wednesday night I had a gig dancing along with two gorgeous girls at a bar over here in a busy crowded area of Hong Kong. It is the first time since I have been dancing in HK that there was a problem with aggressive clients.

    In Australia, dancing for mixed crowds does not happen, unless it is in a gay bar, and even then it does not really work. It is virtually taboo - straight guys don't want to watch another guy dance, and I am certain this is the same in most Western countries. In Oz, accepting a job where you know there a lots of eager girls along with straight men is like putting tow roosters together: a cock fight is inevitable.

    It is different in HK. Even at bridal showers, the girls may have male friends or partners along, and wether there, at bars or parties, they behave really cool and even enjoy the action with or on behalf of their girlfriends. They are not gay or bi - they are just enjoying the show along with the girls who in turn are enjoying it in a different way.

    Not so the other night. We did two long sets, and from the first one these guys were going to be trouble. As soon as I got to my g-string they were trying to light my balls with a lighter. Yep, you read right. The second time in that act they tried it I told them to stop and made it clear it was not OK.

    They did it again in the second act and I reacted by stopping the chorry with the girls and hitting one of them. It was not a closed fist punch, but a pretty firm strike to let them know I meant business. Next thing when we are free styling off in the VIP part, someone throws a dice - hard - at me. (Chinese bars have lots of gaming equipment that they use in a non gambling context). At the end they finally left, clearly pissed that their "fun" had been halted. they were about to be ejected anyhow.

    I have been reading this board stacks to understand what you girls go through and learn - sometimes to my surprise - just how different female stripping is from male stripping. Last week I was in a situation where some dickheads basically wanted to humiliate me. I also noticed in the free style part how a lot of these guys - most drunk - wanted to grab and grope my body, including my cock - in a nasty, not nice, way.

    I sympathize with you girls. I am hiring a bouncer, instead of my lovely Chinese lady as an assistant for future gigs in these types of bars.
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    it hasnt been this bad untill april came along.. as soon as april hit.. most the clubs have been getting nothing but perverts.. AND i sware.. IM THIS close to losing it on someone.. Ive had enough with these fucking dissrespectful assholes..

    They think that because we are dancers that we do not have any feelings?


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    Shan - Please DON'T LOSE IT ON SOMEONE!
    Not only are you risking your own life, but you are also risking the lives of all the customers and your coworkers. Some of these guys are very dangerous and they will come back in with gun.
    I talked to a guy who stuck up for a dancer at a strip club in Long Beach, CA called Angels. He was shot in the parking lot and almost died. Angels was shut down after that incident. Just last week I spoke with a dancer who worked at another club here in LA where a customer who had asaulted a dancer, and was rightfully kicked out, came back into the club with a gun and started shooting. The DJ was hit, but not seriously injured. At a club that I worked at in Hollywood, the cops came in asking questions about a customer who raped a woman after leaving our club.
    The best way to deal with these guys is to tell them what to expect up front.
    I tell the guys to use their common sense - for example no mouth on the boobs and no hands down the pants. I used to get absolutely furious with guys who would solicit me for the services of a prostitute. Now I simply say I don't work outside of the club, or Bernadette the stripper does not exist outside of the club, or I am stricly a club girl. If they ask me for my real name (which is usually a sure tip off that they want more than a stipper), I tell them it's Bubbles. If all of my tactics fail, I simply say, OK, well let me know if you change your mind about getting a lap dance later and walk away and start talking to another customer immediately.
    The other night I had two guys say that they would rather have sex with me than buy a lap dance. I said "well, I am not going to have sex with you, but let me know if you would like a lap dance". And then I just simply walk away and approach another guy.
    A lot of these guys do not have good social skills. In a way we are like social therapists who teach these guys how to behave.
    Hang in there. I would suggest checking out a book called Stripper Success Secrets by Fawnia Mondey and Georgia Lawrence. Georgia really helped me to diffuse my anger towards those guys by asking her for advice via email.
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    plus it's always the girls that gets fired for making a scene, even if the customer provoked her (and of course he did, which is why she reacted!)

    The floor is the last place to take out your aggressions! It's a buzzkill for other customers.

    Just remember, there can't be "good nights" without "bad nights".

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    Yes I agree TRY not to lose it - it can have profound repurcussions. AND IT CAN BE SO HARD NOT TO LOSE IT! Please know I absolutely empathize with that feeling, LOL!

    In Toronto - an acquaintence type friend (another dancer - friends in the club - not outside the doors) had a customer drive his finger full force into her ass when she was doing the "bend over view" at him during a VIP dance - in her absolute anger and fury she took her wine glass off the table in front of her and swung back around have drove IT right into his face, dead center! Of course it smashed and cut his face terribly. Cops came, she was charged, I never saw or heard from or of her again. Hard to say how that played out but the guy WASN'T charged but in fact was taken care of and fawned over and cleaned up and the cops were hell bent on verbally beating up the girl during this chaotic scene. Hauling her away.

    We really dont have much in the way of the law being on our side no matter how it plays out...sad to say.

    Best thing is to just avoid the guys that provoke or listen to that little voice inside that says a particular customer is creepy or too aggressive. We often think -ok I need the cash - there are bouncers'- I can probably handle it - but try to see what MAY happen and consider its worth.

    Dont wait until the 3rd or 4th time he pulls something you already clearly said NO to - bust it the first time and be firm.

    Good money luck and in the immortal words of that old cop show - BE CAREFUL OUT THERE!
    LIVE LONG & PROSPER!
    Leigh Landon

    Never explain yourself to anyone, because the person who likes you doesn't need it and the person that dislikes you won't believe it.

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    If you think you had a bad night the other night. Listen to this one. I was working at a new club (new for me) for a couple of weeks and it was going great. I met this guy who was kind of hippie-ish and he was very nice and calm and he wanted to go to the vip area. So we went I got my money, a bottle of champagne and everything was cool. All of a sudden he was trying to kiss me and get on top of me and it scared me. When I told me to stop and to get off of me, he slapped me in the face. I got up to leave and he pulled me back by the back of my dress I fell back on the table, the table flipped over, the glasses and champagne were on the floor I was screaming for someone to help me and I finally got out of there. I told the managers and they did not even kick him out. I was hysterically crying, shaking I was in such shock. They saw that the table was upside down and they didn't even kick him out. They have cameras in the rooms. I thought they were for protection but obviously not. I am so mad and upset and traumatized. I will never go back to that club. I just feel uncomfortable working anywhere right now though. In my five years of dancing, nothing like this has ever happened to me.

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