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    Default Re: What a freaking NIGHT last night was....

    unfortaunatly managers dont care about us.. all they care about is how much money they can get from that guy.. ive had guys do mean stuff to me... say nasty things about me.. and they never did a thing..


    it sucks.. they should at least give a little bit of a rats ass.. but they dont :/

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    I also feel that things are getting way bad in regards to what these men are expecting of us nowadays. While there are always going to be good, respectful customers, and at least a few bad apples, it seems like the number of bad apples are increasing and the number of good customers is decreasing.

    Case in point:
    There is this one guy who comes into my club occassionally and gets dances from me. He ALWAYS wears sweatpants and he always gets this GIGANTIC boner while I dance for him--->as if it isn't bad enough he gets one he always points it out. So one day he asks me if I could deepthroat it, and I was like, "uh, probably not" and tried laughing it off. So then, he asks if I will try, right in the back room!?! And in each backroom there is a sign stating no sexual acts or you will get fired, so I pointed the sign out to him, and he was like, "oh, no one will notice." Of course I said no, so that was his last dance. Anyway, while I was getting dressed this guy has the nerve to ask me out to dinner! Unbelievable....

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    Yes I agree, you have to pretty much be your own screener and bouncer at work. Most bouncers are more concerned with looking for dropped dollars on the floor and chairs than doing what they're supposed to do. Managers have become such dipshits that even if they do give a damn about the rules, the girls, staff and maintaining order that they're incompetent to do much about it. Of course most managers and bouncers don't give a damn about anything other than where their next tip or piece of ass is coming from, so when we have a problem it's up to us to diffuse the situation. Also, I have personally witnessed bouncers at my club kick customers out, not for disrespecting the girls or breaking the rules (when the guy was clearly doing something he shouldn't), but for smarting off to, read disrespecting, bouncers. They always say that with 'that' attitude, the guy has to go. Yeah, the guy can do whatever he wants to the girls with only a slight scolding *at most*, but if he says one wrong word to a bouncer, he's got to go.

    I have become so adept at flipping hands out of 'unsafe territory' - I call it doing the spatula. A hand starts heading toward the g-string, my hand spatulas it back. I am an absolute pro at telling guys to behave in a way that makes it sound like I 'might' let them misbehave if there just weren't so many darn cameras and eyes around. And I hardly take my eyes off the guy for a nanosecond while I'm dancing for him - partly because I'm doing the seduction, and partly because I know I have to watch his every move.

    I frequently have guys sit through a lapdance, the whole time watching the bouncer instead of me, so he can try and cop a quick feel when the bouncer turns to deal with another customer paying for dances, or walks to the other side of the dance area. It's annoying as hell, and when I have a guy like that, I spatula him off me for the song he's paid for and just get dressed when it's over rather than try to sell another dance. Another $20 is just not worth the hassle, and there are always other customers.

    I have given up caring whether anyone else in the club cares about me. It's just a job and they don't have to care about me - just like I don't have to care about them. I do my job to the best of my abilities and let everyone else do their thing. This way I am less offended when I see a blatant display of a manager or bouncer not giving a rat's ass. It's not their job to care, but a few tips in the right hands and smiles in the right directions on a regular basis do wonders for extracting 'caring' services of club staffers. At least this way I know I'll be covered if some jerk tries to go too far.

    Sorry to hear so many of you having a bad time lately. Guess it makes me glad I chose this time to get my BA so I can be off work for now. Wishing everyone a better night!

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    As frustrating as some of our customers get, we have to take a deep breath for a minute and pretend we are in their shoes. we tend to be focused on what we want but they are paying us to give them what they want.

    We want to get their money and not be touched or have to touch them, but if we were a guy we would not spend our money if we did not get what we wanted.

    Every guy in the club wants to have sex with us whether he is blue or white collar. Some guys get uncontrollably horny for us and others keep it under check. Some guys have more respect for us as normal women and others think just because we are dancers that we are there to provide sexual services for men and are all for sale.

    Shan, the trick to this business is to be in control of the customer you are dancing for. The amount of touching allowed will vary by club, but I am sure you have seen many dancers who give a good dance, who know how to work the knee and who allow touching of the boob and hips "to a point" so that the guy will get into the dance and buy several since you are arousing him but as his hands wander to the crotch you gracefully move them while smiling and continuing to dance. if that doesn't work you stop dancing and say in a strong feminine voice to relax and let me do the work while staring straight into his eyes. If he is just the obnoxious type, then walk away from him.

    I get annoyed with lots of these guys too but where it is acceptable you have to let them touch "some" or you'll sell no dances, and if you pull away and get an attitude with the guy you are dancing for because he is aroused and wants you, you have lost a captive customer that a seasoned dancer could keep strung out and cash in on just by giving him "some" of what he wants but no sex.

    don't piss off a customer or make them feel cheated or as what happened in LA could happen to you. That same thing happened several times in Houston too as the guys felt they were being overcharged. An innocent person got killed because of it too.

    Did you read the stripper web article of how to own a customer and how to give a lap dance?

    Guys want to fuck the women they are attracted too. Some are just more raunchy in how they approach us.

    Try to maintain control of the customer but in a sexy way and learn to keep the guy aroused without actually jacking him off or giving him oral sex.

    The guy with the boner and the sweat pants could have been satisfied by your butt barely brushing his d*** off and on even though he wanted you to bite it outside his pants.

    Just remember you are in control but don't yell or blow off a customer. Realize that you are being paid because men are attracted to you and work to diplomatically and seductively string your customer along so you can get paid and still retain your dignity.

    It is very important to master the seductive turn on method of dancing if you are to keep a customer buying dance after dance. the girls who master this usually are the top earners and they don't ever give sex. You've got to allow controlled touching but not look repulsed as you gracefully move a guys hands away. Once you look repulsed you've lost a customer.

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