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    ???I'M WHAT Y'ALL MIGHT CALL A REGULAR. I BOUNCED AT A CLUBS ALSO. SO I LOOK AT THE DANCERS IN A DIFFERENT LIGHT YOU MIGHT SAY. THERE IS THIS ONE GIRL I'VE BEEN HANGING OUT AND I WOULD CONSIDER A FRIEND. I REALLY THINK SHE GOT A DRINKING PROBLEM, SHOULD I SAY ANYTHING TO HER OR JUST LET HER CONTIN ???UE DOWN HER DESTRUCTIVE PATH ???

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    Default Re: SHOULD I SAY SOMETHING?

    Take your own advice: "Some times you have to thin the heard"
    and "JUST LET HER CONTINUE DOWN HER DESTRUCTIVE PATH".

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    If she likes you and you can be open with her, mention the drinking in a nice way. Don't accuse or attack her.
    She may not think she has a drinking problem. But talk to her about it. Now if you don't drink and just want her to stop...thats wrong.
    If you see a pattern, people are always worth a try! No one is a lost cause. (well except my ex , Try talking to a fork)!!
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    OK, so that was a cold-ass reply by me, but most people do not want help in this situation, and saying something usually pisses people off.

    I know you're asking this because you want to help this girl, but more information is needed. How is her drinking affecting her/what negative affects are drinking having on her life? Are you hanging out with her at the club or outside the club? You "consider [her] a friend", how do you think she considers you (I ask this because I belive bringing up her drinking habits will have more weight coming from a person she considers more than a casual friend - you may want to talk to some of her closer friends and bringing it up together may have more of an impact on her).

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    I would say, yes, you should mention it if you are friends. When I first started dancing I drank quite a bit for about 3 months until a good friend of mine told me he was concerned. I did think about it and decided that if I couldn't work sober I would quit dancing. I'm really glad he said something to me.

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    OH WELL. THAT DIDN'T WORK. ITS WORSE THAN I THOUGHT. X & H HAVE A GRIP ON HER TOO. MAYBE IT IS TIME TO THIN THE HEARD. SHAME SHES A GOOD PERSON. THANKS ANYWAY.

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    probably M.Y.O.B. would fit in this catagory...i'm sure she's a big girl and likes to drink....if u had to do our job....you'd drink too!
    blessed be

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    The various AA and drug-abuse treatment organizations have lots of free literature concerning intervention. You will be able to find a good approach if you check this stuff out.

    Odds are that you will have a very steep uphill battle if you even try to do this, and are more likely to lose a friend than to save one, however much she may need salvation.

    Much as I resent the ridiculous notion that my moderate drug use is grounds for chastisement, and the tendency for moral police to view stripclubs with vengeful malice, there is no question that the majority of clubs in our industry present a horrible opportunity for weaker dispositions to become ensnared in very destructive substance abuse.

    Of course, this is merely another manifestation of the American Way to sedate or stimulate.


    I was highly amused at the debate here, on the proportion of people in this country who use psychoactive drugs.

    Ever been to an AA meeting? My parents were involved, and I was dragged along to many of these torturous (if beneficial to the members) events, until I refused to be bored anymore than necessary.

    It's far better than killing other motorists or losing your job, but the typical member will be seen drinking gallons of coffee and smoking like a chimney. From a strictly pharmacological point of view, caffeine and nicotene are extremely harmful drugs, their use being so readily accepted by the majority of our morally upstanding citizens aside.

    I know, I know, cigarettes are under attack. But their use is not viewed with the same bilious condemnation that the act of taking a little bong hit now and then will inspire.

    And some may laugh at my notion that caffeine addiction even exists or is any kind of problem, but a close relative drank at least a dozen cups a day. Not only was her disposition severely altered for the worse, but her body is now horribly ravaged by rhuematoid arthritis, with effects vastly greater due to her years-long and massive consumption of what is, in fact, a drug.


    But I am now trivializing what is probably a tragedy in the making.

    Check with someone who has experience with intervention, before you try it yourself.
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    OH WELL. THAT DIDN'T WORK. ITS WORSE THAN I THOUGHT. X & H HAVE A GRIP ON HER TOO. MAYBE IT IS TIME TO THIN THE HEARD. SHAME SHES A GOOD PERSON. THANKS ANYWAY.

    ??? :o ???

    One try and you are ready to 'thin the herd'? Doesn't sound like you are that good friends then. If someone is truly your friend and is destroying herself it is your responsibility as a friend to try more than once, not just let her die (normally I would not see this as the necessary result, but he did say 'it's time to thin the herd about a 'friend' of his, and this is just wrong)
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    Some say it's better but I say it ain't.
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    the sinners have much more fun.

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    Maybe so, but sometimes it is just better to let a friend go down that frightful path, if the only other alternative is to lose that friendship, because you are unable to restrain yourself from trying to stop their downward spiral.

    I have seen many, many friends drop by the wayside, and my excessive rambling in defense of my own vice should not lead anyone to believe that I am unaware of the severity of the drug addiction problem, especially in stripclubs.

    If you can't stop them, and you can't help them, and you will only piss them off by trying, you gotta let 'em go.

    And hope they find their way back...
    You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star.
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