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    hi everybody hope you're all having a great easter!
    Well after a lot of umming and aahing about this business i've finally decided to do it. Have to say this website and all you posters have been a huge help in this decision. Just giving me the inside view on what its all like instead of having to hear from my friends that i am too good to do that and it would be degrading to me. Well i think its all between consenting adults so its all good. anyway to the point, i have two questions i was hoping you guys could help me with.

    the first is that i don't know what you're meant to do in a lapdance. I already know I won't be doing extras. I've been to stripclubs but the lapdance areas are private so i can't see what goes on in there. I'm in queensland, australia not sure of the laws etc.

    the second is that i'm living with my family at the moment and i want to keep it from them. my bf is being a bit of an asshole about that saying they should know but i've already brought up the possibility to my mum and i know she'd just be very upset by it. so any tips on keeping it from them while i'm still living with them would be great!

    thanks guys
    kitty

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    Hi,
    Well, as for lapdancing, "dancing" is a loosely held title. Rather, in most areas of the US, and I would imagine Australia, you essentially grind agaisnt the customer. There are a bunch of threads on this topic, so you might want to check those out. Watch the girls at your club and follow suit, you will get the hang of it.

    Sorry hun, but if you are living with your parents, it's going to be nearly impossible to hide. How long will you be living with them yet? It's hard to hide the make-up, late hours, lingering smell of smoke, cotumes, etc from someone you live with. I am inclined to agree with your boyfriend and think you should mention it to them, or at least say you waitress at a strip club.
    Good luck!
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    What if your boyfriend tells your parents? Don't keep it from them. Besides, you'll probably be making enough money to afford your own place!

    Yes, lap dancing is basically you rubbing your body all over his crotch, but different clubs have different rules. You should just go to the clubs you are thinking of working at and buy a dance.

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    What I eventually end up telling my new girl's, because the job will get in the way of your relationship reguardless of how hard you try. I give them as much as a month, this includes " he bought ticket's to a concert and would be mad if I didnt' go with him " , " we had a fight and I had to stay with him" and all that crap, all the time I'm loosing her for a night here and there ( no dependability ). Then I tell the girl .... it's time for ultimatum's. You will ultimately have to deside what's more important to you, dancing or you b/f. If he can't handle it the you will have to leave one or the other. This industry is really tuff for a guy to let the one he love's walk into for many reason's. Mostly insecurity on his part. I usually loss 20% of my new girl's to there b/f's and I think 3 of my girl's have parent's that know what they are doing, actually that would make a neat thread or pole .... How many dancer's parent's know they are dancing ?? I personally think it probably 50/50.

    Anyway's, the best of luck to you Badkitty and hopefully welcome to our nightmare

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    Kitty, if you try to keep secrets from your parents it's simply a matter of time before word somehow gets back to them. Hopefully it won't be because your father walked into the dance club you're working in with a business client (yes fathers keep secrets from their daughters too) !!!! I would highly recommend that you and your bf reconcile the dancing situation amongst yourselves first, and then sit down with your parents. Explain to them that regardless of what they've seen on TV or in movies that dancing is a J.O.B. - that dancing offers a unique opportunity for a young woman that can contribute more towards a secure and better future than just about any other option (particularly now with the worldwide economy in recession) - that dancing is the entertainment business (as opposed to the media's stereotype sex business) - that there ARE clubs which are run professionally and abide by the law like any other corporation etc. - but that dancing is much like professional sports, in that young athletes and dancers need to cash in big time for a few years while they're still young, and then use the proceeds to pursue a different career later on (or retire at age 30 if you work hard, exercise financial discipline, and invest wisely!)

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    thanks guys! I found the lapdance threads so i feel much better about that now. I'm going to the club i'm going to audition for tonight to get a lappie, see how they do it there.

    As for the bf, i broke up with him. i realised that we've been together 9 months now and in that time he has spent more money on a single lap dance from a stranger ($40) than he has spent on me (a ten dollar book). didn't even buy me anything for my 21st! and he's not poor! isn't it funny you'll put up with so much shit from a person then one day you realise something like that and go no, i really think i deserve better. sick of him treating me like a slut. sick of hearing from him that stripping will be dirty money. which is a great one coming from him since he worked in a slaughterhouse! I'm not going to be hurting anyone! i'm gonna be making people happy!

    as for the folks i'm gonna be crossing my fingers and i'll move out as soon as i have enough money! i really don't want to live with the shit they'll give me. if i'm not living here i'll be able to deal with them knowing.
    in the meantime wish me luck!

    anyways thanks for the advice guys!

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    thanks guys! I found the lapdance threads so i feel much better about that now. I'm going to the club i'm going to audition for tonight to get a lappie, see how they do it there.

    As for the bf, i broke up with him. i realised that we've been together 9 months now and in that time he has spent more money on a single lap dance from a stranger ($40) than he has spent on me (a ten dollar book). didn't even buy me anything for my 21st! and he's not poor! isn't it funny you'll put up with so much shit from a person then one day you realise something like that and go no, i really think i deserve better. sick of him treating me like a slut. sick of hearing from him that stripping will be dirty money. which is a great one coming from him since he worked in a slaughterhouse! I'm not going to be hurting anyone! i'm gonna be making people happy!

    as for the folks i'm gonna be crossing my fingers and i'll move out as soon as i have enough money! i really don't want to live with the shit they'll give me. if i'm not living here i'll be able to deal with them knowing.
    in the meantime wish me luck!

    anyways thanks for the advice guys!

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    Aussie Vee is also Australian (obviously), and she may be able to provide you with some good advice. You might try sending her a Private Message?

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