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    Default When people recognize you out of work

    Just wondering what you guys do when people recognize you outside of work? Has it ever been akward? Just curious.
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    Default Re: When people recognize you out of work

    Just wondering what you guys do when people recognize you outside of work? Has it ever been akward? Just curious.
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    has it happened to you? I'd imagine it would be very awkward for both people
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    Default Re: When people recognize you out of work

    i usually never acknowledge customers outside the club...what if his wife comes waking around the corner?
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    Default Re: When people recognize you out of work

    The situations vary a lot. A few times it's simply been a passby with maybe a smile or a nod. If we have both been alone (like happened one time at the shopping mall, we stopped for a few minutes to say "hi") I think the most akward moment I had just happened recently. It's a family tradition to go barhopping on St. Patricks day (yes, family-parents, siblings and friends) and while doing so, ran into a guy from the club (twice!) he stopped to talk with me, but I felt extremely awkward, not introducing him to anyone and not knowing really what to say other than idle chit chat. Thankfully, he never mentioned anything about my work, and understood completely (whew!) when I explained later at work.

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    Whoa yes! People i work with at the hospital may come and see me dance. I have to then work around some at the hospital. I never bring it up. Some do, and i just say, "yep i had a great time".

    Now running into a customer at the grocery store or something like that, i have not done...I don't think, some people have asked me if they know me. Or "haven't i seen you someplace before" ?
    I just smile and say i don't think so. And Walk on by. I can't afford to be chatting with customers outside the club. I always smile when they ask though, because to be honest, i don't remember some of them! Lol.
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    Default Re: When people recognize you out of work

    Let me ask you this? How do you react when you or someone else recognizes you from somewhere other than the club?

    You see, too many of us dancers are ashamed of what we do. Until we stop worrying about what people in the mainstream world think about us and walk proud with our head high, other people will be ashamed to say they went to a club as well.

    I was in a K-Mart the other week and the manager walked by my fiancee and I and said hi, how are you doing today. I sold him a dance the previous week. I said hi and kept on walking.

    Until we as dancers and customers stop being ashamed of being associated with strip clubs, society will continue to treat the industry awkwardly.

    Just say hi to the customer and smile as you would anyine else you see in the store or wherever and keep walking.

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    Default Re: When people recognize you out of work

    As a customer, I have never run into a dancer outside of her work (oddly enough, I was contemplating starting a thread on this very topic). However, I have already thought about my own personal rules of engagement if such a thing occurs.

    One - If I see her and she doesn’t see me, I stay away and leave her be. Even though I am very friendly to a number of dancers in the club to the point where I know some of their real names and know what town they live in, I will altogether respect their need to not be "at work" when not at work. I won’t ambush her if I see her and she doesn’t see me.

    Two - we see each other. I will only acknowledge her if she acknowledges me first. For all I know, whomever she may be with would cause all sorts of problems, or she genuinely wants to not be bothered with someone whom she has given lap dances too. It could be any of a million reasons. So to save her any stress, I won’t acknowledge her unless she acknowledges me first. I'd rather err on the side of caution out of respect.

    Three - she acknowledges me, and engages in conversation. Since she only knows me from the SC, she is obviously comfortable with me and our situation outside the club (i.e., she isn’t threatened by my customer status). I will chat with her for as long as we'd like, after all, I consider her a friend of sorts. HOWEVER, unless she says something unlikely such as "lets get a drink somewhere", I will conclude our conversation and move on to our respective business at hand with a "see you at the club". Her talking to me is NOT an invitation to anything else, just the way it’s not within the club itself.

    Whatever issues a dancer may have outside of the club; it’s not my place to acerbate any problems. So, just like in the club, I will follow her lead and her lead alone, out of respect.

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    Default Re: When people recognize you out of work

    Right on Tina! That is exactly right - we don't have to be ashamed to run into a customer outside the club.

    Of course, in my case I don't tell my grandparents I'm a stripper because they are just too old-fashioned and it would simply cause too much unnecessary stress for them. Well a few years ago when they had come to visit me in Texas, we were going into Wal-Mart together when a guy I had danced for just the night before (who was walking out the door as we were walking in) saw me and started loudly and enthusiastically calling 'Hi Candice!' at me. I just flashed him a look and acted like I had no idea who he was. I guess he got the message and went on. My grandparents of course asked who that guy was and why he was calling me Candice, and I just said I had no idea and that he must have thought I was someone else. End of story.

    Other than that, there's no reason not to at least nod in his direction and/or say hi.

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    Every situation could be different. How well do you know that particular customer? Is he alone (and if he is, is he TRULY alone...the wife/girlfriend or kids could be just around the corner). Are YOU alone or with your s/o or kids?

    As Bridgette said, a nod in his direction or a quick glance will most likely be enough.

    I've actually run into dancers quite a bit in the last 3 years...not sure why other than I live about a 5-minute drive from the only two clubs in far North Austin which are right next to a large "yuppie" shopping center. Most of the time a quick nod is all I get. Once I ran into a lady in a Barnes and Noble, and we ended up just sitting off to the side and chatting. She never brought up the club, and I didn't ask.

    The only "awkward" situation I've been in was at a restaurant on the opposite side of town from my favorite club. I sat down and realized that I was staring straight at a dancer I knew who was sitting facing me in another booth. Apparently her group had just gotten there ahead of mine so we spent most of that time stealing quick glances at each other; other than that we didn't acknowledge each other. Unfortunately her group consisted of her husband, her daughter, and a friend of the family's. I would say that for about 18 months after that night we avoided each other in the club. It wasn't until last May that she approached me again. We're fine now, I guess...
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    Well, I haven't that experience yet, so my opinion is that if you do know a dancer well enough and have sufficient trust with her, you will know how to treat her if you do run into her out of the club. If she turn the other cheek or justs nods if she sees you it's not because she's a snob or a bitch. It's simply because she wishes not to be recognized outside the club, for the usual reasons. If she does greet you and chat with you, keep in mind that it's innapropiate, in most circumstances, to bring up the club as a theme for a conversation. That's when you, as a real gentleman, should treat her as what she is, a real person.



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    I think THEY are ashamed too. I ran into a customer at the mall. he waas there with his wife and kid and we just walked by each other. What was I supposed to say? What was he supposed to say? Then I saw some guys that I knew from my club at a regular dance club and it was annoying because I felt like I should put on my act that I put on at work and not just the normal me (you girls know what I'm talking about, I'm sure.)

    As for being ashamed, I hate that too! Like when you go to a grocery store and you buy your groceries with all 1's and you are like "I hope they think I'm a waitress" or, like the other day, I went to get a massage because my lower back was killing me and he's like "why do you put so much stress on this?" and I had to explain to him that I work in high heels and am constantly pushing my pelvis forward....how embarrassing! I wish I didn't feel that way

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    Default Re: When people recognize you out of work

    I have run into one patron out side of the club, he tried to call me by my stage name. I just act as if I did not hear him and went on about my business. Later he had came into the club and asked if that was me and I told him I did not know what he was talking about. However, I look very different inside the club than I do outside the club.

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