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    Before stumbling across this site I always wondered why some guys liked strip clubs especially no contact ones. Now I see it's about the "fantasy." I'm curious what percent of guys do you think realize they are just buying a fantasy? I assume the fantasy is that she really likes you.

    For guys who like the fantasy doesn't dipping into your pocket for $$ mess up the fantasy pretty quickly?

    Also, is a lap dance a "fantasy?" Isn't that real sexual stimulation? If you are providing lap dance are you still just providing a fantasy or real sexual stimulation?

    I'm just curious. I rarely go to strip clubs but find the whole phenomena interesting. When I do go I feel like I'm wasting my money unless there is some contact and even then I wonder if it is worth it. I guess that's why I seldom go...

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    Hey Luke,
    It's all fantasy. The plus is that you get to talk too a lot of pretty women. The money is no big thing, some spend alot some spend alittle. The brain is the biggest sex organ.
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    I always wondered why some guys liked strip clubs especially no contact ones.
    Um... because it's enjoyable to see a pretty girl naked. At least, that's my guess.

    If you're wasting your money and don't feel it's worth it, don't go. But don't try to talk me out of it. I'm not wasting my money, because it's worth it. Otherwise, I wouldn't go.

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    Hey from a female perspective?

    When I have gone to male strip establishments, I really had a good time. The shows were great, lots of nice looking men strolling around and conversating...I sat with my friend (another female) and watched and made idle chit chat with each other.

    I LOVED the fact that I was in a bar and no guy was drunkenly pawing me or trying to pick me up or making an ass of himslef otherwise, (meaning a regular bar) I could enjoy a drink and openly gawk at good looking men!

    If I smiled at them they smiled back! I liked that. It was a comfortable zone, and I enjoyed myself. ANother male bar my friend unknowingly to me had bought me a couple dances from a hottie I mentioned drooling over earlier in the night...it was really cool. I mean I was still shy and all the little things that go with how to handle getting a dance from someone...but I enjoyed it.

    He was a beautiful man, a very nice build, he smelled absolutely edible and he was very gentle, polite and sexy.

    And I didnt beg him to fuck me/meet me later/ask him how much an "extra was/or all the other stupid ass shit like *some* schmucks do to us in the female strip bars. LOL!

    But all in all it is enjoyable. But each to their own.
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    If I just want to look at naked women, a low or no-contact club fits the bill. If I want to go a little further a high-contact club is the one for me. It's as simple as that. I'm a somewhat moody customer .



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    Luke you are not alone, i have come across many guys in conversation (not at the club), who say strip clubs are a waste of money and time for them. The women use them and don't care for them.

    Well....Yes and no, from a dancers point of view. I ONLY want to provide a fantasy. I don't want to be a regulars gf in his mind. And i am doing a job, one that caters to ALOT of lonely guys.
    The majority of men i met at the club are alone, and lonely. I dance for them, and talk with them. I am someone who will LISTEN. And sometimes that is important for a customer.
    Guys go to strip clubs for different reasons. Not all of them just to see naked women, some actually hope to find a gf!
    I hear alot of stories from guys, and i do believe what they say when they tell me why they come. I am safe, someone to cater to a fantasy, and not go home with him and complain about the dirty dishes.
    I am a "no strings attached gal"! Some guys just like that. And pay for our company. Believe it or not some guys don't want contact. But conversation. Just an ear. I'm their girl.
    PS excellent dancer too!!!
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    Guys go because they like to ogle hot women without shame. They also like to be able to chat with hot women who will be nice to them and expect only money and not some big commitment (similar to why some men like to see prostitutes). Some are lonely and want some female company without strings, and some want something to fantasize about when they're alone that night in their hotel room away from home. And some would simply prefer to spend their money on a hot chick who knows how to entertain and is willing to do so instead of on 'regular women' who expect the guys to buy them dinner and drinks all night plus entertain them to boot. Figure what you spend on a 'regular woman' trying to impress her on a first date, take that to a strip club and spend it on a hottie there, and you'll most likely get much more bang for the buck - plus the stripper will happily let you relax while she does all the work. Any one or a combination of these.

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    I agree with Bridgette.

    I also think that people frequent strip clubs because they are guarantee (well at the one I work at) that a pretty lady is going to come up to them and talk with them whereas in a normal niteclub situation that may not happen.

    Then as far as PD/LD go.. for some people it is sexual stimulation. There are others that just want to be touched... it is that sharing of touch.. "the intimacy of touch" and all.

    It is well-known that human beings like to touch and be touched in life and not everyone is touched enough (or able to touch) so they come to a strip club and do that... no sex.

    Another reason for PD/LD is.. the guy doesn't have to worry about "performing" (as in getting a hard on) compared to paying a prostitute (he HAS to perform). Safer that way as well... not going to catch STDs.

    It is different for every customer as they are all individuals (I know DUH! but sometimes it isn't realised so much).


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    I must admit that it's MUCH easier for a guy to strike a conversation in a gentlemen's club simply because it's the girls' job to provide conversation and entertainment. The dancers will always be at the club, whereas at a regular bar/restaurant it's a hit or miss situation; you may be lucky just to find a willing female who doesn't have a guy by her side already. As of the cost-benefit analysis in Bridgette's post I'd say that it's relative. If a guy lucks out and gets a great dancer to provide entertainment and conversation, sure there's more bang for the dollar than if that guy spent his money on a girl who's not worth it in terms of committment. If that dancer is not worth it, maybe then whatever you spend at the regular bar/restaurant was warranted, even if you don't hook up with a girl.



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    Some are lonely and want some female company without strings, and some want something to fantasize about when they're alone that night in their hotel room away from home. And some would simply prefer to spend their money on a hot chick who knows how to entertain and is willing to do so
    RIGHT ON B
    Guys who are looking for "commitments" or GF's should stay away from strip clubs. Go to a regular club and play the "pick-up" game. Leave the strip clubs to guys who appreciate the "fantasy" and are willing to pay for it.
    I know that a lot of the ladies would appreciate it

    Luke - spending $$$ for "fantasy" doesn't diminish it. After all, we all spend $$$ on vacations to exotic places. Isn’t this just a search for "fantasy" as well?
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    Before stumbling across this site I always wondered why some guys liked strip clubs especially no contact ones. Now I see it's about the "fantasy." I'm curious what percent of guys do you think realize they are just buying a fantasy? I assume the fantasy is that she really likes you.
    While I've met a lot of gals at strip clubs that I would be interested in personally, it was because of their personality and not because they were a dancer. Certainly I don't expect a gal that I'm paying for fantasy to really like me, but we guys like to have a lady make us feel like we're special, and every guy defines "fantasy" differently. That's why some guys are more than happy to pay a dancer for her time just to sit and his table and have a chat.

    Also, is a lap dance a "fantasy?" Isn't that real sexual stimulation? If you are providing lap dance are you still just providing a fantasy or real sexual stimulation?
    We'll I might be in the minority on this one, but I don't buy lap dances so the dancer can get me off. I enjoy a beautiful lady making me feel like I'm the center of her universe for those 3-4 minutes. A dancer talking to me, blowing in my ear, massaging my shoulders and such will get more of a response out of me than one doing a drab clinical grind to pass the time. She has to present to me that she's into it.

    I'm just curious. I rarely go to strip clubs but find the whole phenomena interesting. When I do go I feel like I'm wasting my money unless there is some contact and even then I wonder if it is worth it. I guess that's why I seldom go...
    Truth be told, many of my co-workers who inquire frequently about my strip club trips would be BORED there, simply because the fantasy element there doesn't appeal to them that much. Porn movies and magazines on the other hand, don't do much for me. There are "sexualists" and "sensualists" I think the saying goes. Everyone's brain is wired up a little differently.
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    We'll I might be in the minority on this one, but I don't buy lap dances so the dancer can get me off. I enjoy a beautiful lady making me feel like I'm the center of her universe for those 3-4 minutes. A dancer talking to me, blowing in my ear, massaging my shoulders and such will get more of a response out of me than one doing a drab clinical grind to pass the time. She has to present to me that she's into it.
    No I don't think your in the minority on this one doctor. I think that a lot of us strip club junkies are in it for the "fantasy" not the sex.
    However I can can name a few who post on this site that would dissagree
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    LOL, Chuck.....ya got me....

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    There are a number of reasons why I got to clubs, and none of them have to do with fantasy.

    1) - Beautiful women. I am a guy. I like seeing beautiful women in various states of sensual dress and undress. That’s pretty basic and natural.
    2). I get to focus on something other then my worries for a while. I don’t drink (ironic, because I’m a bartender), so other bars or drinking heavily don’t do it for me.
    3). If I’m lucky, I get to have nice human interaction with a beautiful person, whether is merely smiles and playful tipping, conversation, or a lap dance (or all three). Sometimes, by being generous, clean, respectful and decent, I make a dancers day. That makes me smile . I really leave a SC feeling better.
    4). Lap dances - sensual (albeit brief) contact. I’m a sexual person, just like millions and millions of other humans. It’s a nice way to express that and satisfy that. Is it possible to satisfy sexualness WITHOUT sex or the proverbial "extras"? Absolutely. At least for me it is.

    Fantasy was a big part of my SC experience when I was unmarried in my early 20s. I never went to a SC during my 5 years of marriage, but after my divorce, I went (and still go) to them on a fairly consistent basis. Fantasy is not a part of my modern day experience (partially, I guess, to my pragmatic nature). However, it’s obvious that it is a large part of many SC patrons. There is nothing wrong with that at all, except for the fact that sometimes the Fantasy can be so desirable that some guys attempt to try to make it into realty.

    I hope this gives you another side of the multi-faceted experience that is Strip Club Going.

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    Luke, you wrote:


    "'m curious what percent of guys do you think realize they are just buying a fantasy?"

    I'd say 80 of stripclub patrons know their buying a fanatsy.

    " assume the fantasy is that she really likes you. "

    yes and no..... see many customers
    want to feel liked, or attractive or funny or appreciated or needed etc......

    as exotic adult entertainers,that is what we try to make
    them feel.... it could be any of those things or all of them

    part of the art of what we do is figure which one of those things a customer came in looking to experience intently
    for a short span of time. It is escapism.

    then the rest fall into:

    pure entertaiment guys who most appreciate the "show" the glitz the glamour the untouchable aspect women can have

    the raincoaters- those who are looking for sexual release, these can be weirdo's sometimes.

    then you have some mental unbalanced
    types, who want to own or buy or control people and others
    who want to get back at or insult
    or degrade or even hurt women.

    but thankfuly most customers seek and find some simple "playing make believe" for profit.


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    Therapy costs money. Talking with a stripper costs less than talking with a psych
    I wouldn't equate a stripper to a therapist. If one has real behavioral problems, a strip club is not the place to go. As of costs, hmm, I don't think so. Even the best VIP with the best stripper will cost you more per session, er, I mean hour (depending on the club and whether you go with house drinks or the bubbly), and a therapist will probably charge you between $50 and $150 or $200. I know from experience .



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    Hi y'all, new member here and hope to make a contribution to the board--you may want to check out the book "G-strings and Sympathy" by Katherine Frank-it's very relative to this discussion--basically delves into the customer side of the strip club equation, but written by a former dancer. I'm sure you can find a review on the net--

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