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    I was just wondering what you girls thought of this? I went to watch at a local club (it was amateur nite). Not only was I harrassed by EVERY dancer multiple times to join the contest, later, after the contest had ended, they continued to try to get me up there and dance. I was there with a couple male friends who informed me that during a trip to the restroom the manager came out and asked them if either of them was my boyfriend and if they knew if I would be interested in dancing. When we were ready to leave, the manager "showed up" and began talking to us and tried to get me to fill out an application. Now don't get me wrong, I'm actually considering working there, but I had never been there before and wanted to see how it was. I actually got a little annoyed that the dancers kept coming over to bug me about dancing since I made it clear I wasn't going to that night... but I couldn't help but get the feeling that the manager asked them to come over and try to influence me. My friend told me I should take it as a compliment, but I got a strange vibe from the whole situation. Should I just let it go and take it as a compliment?

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    A guess here. They are desperate for dancers. They loved your look. Although i have never been approached by a dancer to work for the club she works. Hmmm. Don't know, if anything i seem to have been ignored by other dancers when i went to visit clubs. Do you have a different look than the others? Did they seem like they needed more dancers? Do the dancers/ management know you plan on working there, because maybe they were short staffed that night. Tough call what was on their minds. However i guess i can see the point if they know you are going to work there. If they don't know, strange that you would get bothered like that while out having fun.
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    I know i would feel like you, if no one knew i was going to work there.

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    Thanks Pam Yeah they had no idea I was thinking about working there. As for the dancers coming up, I think the manager told them to. Actually I forgot to add, one of my friends works there (didn't know that until I got there), and while she was giving me a dance she told me the manager told her to try to get me signed up... that he really wanted me to work there. It wouldn't have been that bad, but I was approached seriously about once every 5-10 minutes and asked over and over. There were about 10 dancers there I suppose. The stage was empty a few times, but they seemed to be doing okay. I do have a unique look. I have a couple of unique facial piercings (septum, vertical labret), and I usually come off as gothic. At first I thought they just wanted more amateur competitors, but then it kind of seemed like that was just another approach at getting me to dance. I got everything from "we need just one more amateur" to "you'll get money if you dance, I promise, even though you haven't done it before" to well now that we're not busy you can go up there... consider it practice... I won't tell anyone!" It was overall just a little creepy lol. I'll see how they act when I do amateur nite next time. There were alot of other girls in there and none of them were harrassed.

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    If you were asked to dance do it! Many times we spend too much time thinking and not doing. Lots of clubs are a pain in the ass to get hired in and if you were welcomed, you should have gotten up there and then let them hire you.

    What did you have to lose? If the club doesn't produce as much or more money as where you are dancing now you could always quit, right?

    this is an impulse business.

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    I don't dance yet. I'm checking out the local places. So far this club is the best. I don't think the manager thinks I'm coming back though lol. Apparently alot of girls say I'll be back next week and then disappear off the face of the earth.

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    Girl do what u are comfortable with. If u feel u can do this then Go for it!!! Like Tina said it's a pain in the ass trying to get hired at different clubs. If u like this club better then give it a try and if u dont like u can always quit.


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    If there's a girl at my stage I always (no matter what she looks like) ask her when she's going up on stage. It's a great way to initiate conversation and make a girl feel at ease and accepted. Now obviously you are attractive enough to be sought out for legitimate dancing positions, but being that you were there as a customer on a amateur night, maybe the girls were seeking to make you feel accepted/appreciated. Especially since you have a somewhat aggresive (punk)look, maybe they were attempting to put you at ease. (which they obviously didn't...)
    Anyway, don't EVER allow yourself to be harassed into ANYTHING in adult entertainment....or anything else for that matter.
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    You should think very carefully whether or not you want to dance. Some people will lose respect for you if you dance and you may lose respect for yourself. I have seen this many times

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    reznor, don't listen to lover
    if u were'nt interested in dancing u would'nt be a member of this board...
    a) i think they're in need of girls, particularly new faces
    b) take it as a compliment , they would'nt be bugging u if they didnt like your look
    blessed be

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    I gotta go with HollyDay on this one. When I see an exceptionally attractive woman in any club I'm working in, especially if she has a distinctive look, (which you do, trust me--I saw your photos) I will go ask her if she's interested in dancing. But I am very careful to be respectful and sensitive to any bad reaction to the idea.

    Take it as a compliment! Cuz that is most definitely what it was. If you had the damn dancers themselves asking you, that's pretty good, OK? Whether the manager was egging them on or not. One reason they may have been bugging you so much is that it was an amateur night. Also, an empty stage at any time in an exotic dance club is a very, very bad thing, and could lead to such acts of desperation.

    If you do dance, you better go by "Sin", or I'll be mad (hold on here, you don't like pressure--sorry, but it IS a great name). Did you get the tattoo yet--thats the one where the "S" looks kinda like a 5, right?

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    Thank you all. No, I haven't gotten the tattoo yet. My appointment is on Saturday (yes it's the s that looks like a 5 and connects all strange). I'm getting it right above the pubic area Anyway I'll definately go with Sin. It's a great name. I think when I go to the club next time for Amateur nite (to compete) I'll see how things go. Hopefully I'll end up with a job out of this.

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    good luck reznor
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    Seeing the avatar, from a guys point of view, I can't imagine why there is any confusion. Your attractive and who wouldn't want to see you naked?

    As to ladies asking you....... There are a LOT of gay and bi dancers........ I'm sure that is a "part" of it......

    As to Managers........ You dance, they get tipped out... the more dancers.... the more money in their pocket at the end of the night

    If I was in your neck of the woods I would certainly come see you.
    I have a difficult time meeting ladies!

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    they must really want dancers there

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    There's probably some self-interest involved on the part of the clubowner and other dancers when they repeatedly approach you to become a dancer. I have found that many times a club looking to move "upscale" will go to great lengths to attract new dancers who are '10's. The business rationale is that if more fantastic looking girls are working in the club that more customers will be attracted (meaning more cover charges for the clubowner and more potential customers for ALL of the dancers to extract money from), and that more "upscale" customers will be attracted, which tend to spend more money per customer (benefitting the other dancers and the club also if it collects a percentage of private dances).

    The underlying question you have to answer is "why doesn't this club have more '10's already" ? The probable answer is that there are other clubs in town which already attract the 'upscale' customers where the '10's can earn more money! Another possible answer is that this club has peculiar rules in regard to dancer requirements i.e. mandatory shifts, merchandise sales etc. which dancers who are '10's don't want to deal with (and don't have to if better clubs with less rules are available).

    A few dancers and clubowners have 'gold in their hearts', but most are more interested in 'gold in their pockets!". Every time I have been heavily recruited to work in a particular club, once I found out the club realities in regard to earning potential, rules etc. there was usually a pretty clear reason why the club wasn't already full of '10's!


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