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    Greetings,

    This weekend a friend who works at a larger club in the Chicago area was complaining that the night before, the house mother was telling the owner everything about the girls--personal stuff about who is getting along, etc. Most clubs I go to don't even have house mothers. What exactly is a house mother, and are they trustworthy? Or are they just spies for the owners? I have heard everything from "she's great" to "she's the devil" about house mothers. I bet there are some house mother stories out there, from what I hear!

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    House Mothers are an extension of club management. This usually means that if club management is picky, pushy and nosey, that the house mother will be also! However, if club management is supportive and accomodating, the house mother is likely to be that way also.

    Every club I have danced in for any length of time has always gotten on my case to stay and become a house mom - which I always decline. I think this is because I usually have a very easy time of showing younger girls that professionalism pays off (i.e. being on stage when they're supposed to be, working the room for private dances instead of sitting at the bar, paying attention to their diet, their makeup and their costumes, and keeping a reasonable lid on the boose and drugs, to share some time proven tricks of the trade, and to teach them to keep their club life and their personal life separate). This is basically what a house mom's role is supposed to be in theory.

    In practice, the house mom often winds up being a referee in the middle of dancer fighting in the dressing room, or being a spy on behalf of management.

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    I wanted to be a house mom. Is there anyone who is or was one. What did you have to do to become one. Just what to know?

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    The house mom at my club is AWESOME. I love her. She is always soooo helpful, she helps me in my outfits, makes us sandwiches at the end of our shifts, and showed me how to cut my crappy cheap plastic shoes to make them less painful. She is always giving me support and advice, keeps extra cigs on her for the girls, and makeup, hair stuff, sells decently priced items like breakaway thongs and garters. On my first night she gave me a drink on the house to calm my nerves as well. I always tip her well because she is so helpful. We call her momma cause she is exactly that, just like a really cool mom.

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    I've worked with some nice house moms and then I've worked with some bad ones. The bad ones are the ones that instead of doing their job, just get in everyone's business and run tell management what they pick and choose out of a girl's whole story. A house mom is supposed to make it easier or less stressful for a dancer to do her job which in turn is supposed to make the club a better work environment.
    The best house mom is the one who can do it all and has the answer to everything, and just in case she doesn't either knows somebody who does or will tell u that she doesn't know right now, but she will find out. One housemom I absolutely loved was the stylist, makeup artist, nail tech, and counselor all in one. The best thing about her was her door rule. She had her own room and the door rule simply was if u have something to talk about or say as long as the door is open its fair game to any and all, and if u shut the door thats where it stays. She was a real savior to a lot of us. U might be having a shitty night and say well, I'm going home and she'll say put on such and such outfit, its the nicest looking one on you, and go make one more round I bet u'll get a dance. Always worked. She was a former dancer so she knew the ropes of the business in and out. She fed us snacks and juice, gave advice, and kept the dressing room a harmonious place by letting everyone know that conflict could be mediated, but that she say and catty shit was not flying in there while she was around. It worked really well, and whille we had a house mom things were generally more peaceful and upbeat around the club.
    The worst housemom is the burnt out former dancer who has an attitude problem and only has the housemom job b/c she can't dance nemore b/c she is too fat, strung out, older orwhatever and just can't leave the club environment alone completely. These kinda housemoms are likely to be grumpy people who let you know they only do it for the money and the environment. They really don't care about the girls or the club for that matter. This type of housemom will just keep up confusion as she is jealous and catty to dancer's who still have all the things she does not nemore. No help to ne1 at all.
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    I have worked with house moms and "house dads" lol.
    Anyway, the woman who was my house mom at the one club i just quit was fantastic. Had a problem go to her, a personal question go to her. She really did a great job. Was never rude, and very mature. I mean 60's. She would hand out tampons if someone got their period at work, and just make sure there was law and order in the house.
    Her name was Bella, and we used to yell " Bella's in the house", a few times!! She was a trip.
    The club i dance at now, just a bunch of great guys. No house mom. So we call one guy "house dad", he hates it! Keeps him awake.

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    We have a house mom who is awesome. She was a dancer before she got pregnant. She helps us with everything. But she is also with the management team but she values our privacy. On friday nights we also have a house dad to go with the house mom. He does our makeup and hair and helps with our clothing while the house mom is doing her errands.
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    I have a house dad or "girlfriend". I love him he did hair, makeup, everything you ask him to do. He was great to talk to when I had bad nights. My favorite house mom was a guy. Love you Peter

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    [quote]Greetings,

    This weekend a friend who works at a larger club in the Chicago area was complaining that the night before, the house mother was telling the owner everything about the girls--personal stuff about who is getting along, etc.


    i was wondering if you would tell me what club this is i live in chicago and i am thinking about becoming a dancer to save money for this summer,,, i will be studying abroad in germany and i dont want to go anywere that they are rude, i will need some help ive never done this before thanks

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    The few house moms I have dealt with so far haven't really been much more than dressing room fixtures. However, I did a contest a week or so ago and the house mom at that club was great. It was my first time ever dancing and she was wonderful to me, explaining the rules of the club, showing me around the dressing room, making sure I knew what to do, etc. I had a great conversation with her about the business when we were all leaving for the night. I have had good experiences with house moms thus far, but I don't know how they relate to management.
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