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    hi there. i'm new to this forum. i've spent the last two days pouring over every thread. i really love the dialogue that's going on. it's so exhilerating to have found a space where this many smart, witty, amazing working girls are talking out the trade.

    but i have a problem with the anti-whore sentiments that keep coming up in so many of the threads. i realize that this is a stripper forum, however, i also know that many girls who dance have also had and/or currently have a lot of crossover, working in other areas of the sex trade as well.

    i have been working in the sex trade for the last five years. over the course of that time, i have worked consistently as a stripper, and in the midst of all this dancing, i have also worked as a hooker, a whore, a pro. and i'm a firm believer in the fact that there is nothing wrong with any of the job choices that i have made. three years ago i stopped being a pro and since then, have soley stripped. i stopped being a pro because i didn't want to whore anymore. this isn't about moralism, it's about differences in job requirements. just as there is nothing shameful or dirty about being a stripper, there is nothing shameful or dirty about whoring.

    that said, i do not condone extras being done in strip clubs. never once in my time working as a pro did i do extras in the strip club. strip clubs are for stripping. not blowjobs, handjobs, pussy action, etc.

    some strippers are also hookers, and sometimes they'll hustle club clients for hotel sex later. it wasn't my style when i worked pro, and i wouldn't encourage it. but would i rather hookers hustle for hotel sex inside the club than on street corners? yes. a safety issue is a safety issue. do i want to know about it? not really. i don't care what kind of business girls take outside of the club.

    what i'm deeply invested in is what goes on inside my club, because it affects me. when girls offer extras in a strip club, they are not hookers. they are strippers giving extras. and i have a lot of problems with extras being offered. but it's not because i think that the girls who give extras are dirty whores who have no self-respect. i have a problem with extras because their presence affects my ability to successfully do my job.

    awhile ago the supreme court of canada ruled that touching in strip clubs was legal. this was and continues to be a very sticky subject, as the limitations and possibilites of "touching" still haven't been clearly demarcated. in many cases, management doesn't even know what's legal and what's not.

    in toronto, where i work, this new ruling really lessened the gap between clean and dirty clubs. girls from dirty clubs came to work in clean clubs. where touching was once considered extra, it's now considered standard, and the "touch" that's expected and offered is pretty excessive. club standards have gotten really sketchy and competition is huge as all of us, those that do extras and those that don't, fight to make a living. at my club, which, in customer-speak, was known as a low mileage club, girls have really struggled with this climate change. fights have broken out over dancing too dirty, girls are on extras patrol, and a lot of us aren't making the money we once were because of all the extras that so many girls are doing.

    i have watched clean dancers dance dirty out of desperation. i have watched girls do extras at no extra charge. (if you're going to do extras, charge and charge well! a $20 blow job is ludicrous. not only is it a ridiculously degrading amount of money for the service, but extras in general are ridiculously risky -- they put your job at risk, they increase the potential for raids in a club thereby putting the jobs of other girls in the club at risk, and extras, particularly poorly compensated extras, lower the value of the club and the work itself. i've charged customers extra to simply talk dirty to them -- it's about creating excessive value for your time and your dances. when customers think that you're expensive, they'll always pay more.)

    in no way am i claiming to be a purist. i think that every girl has, at some point or another, had her boundaries crossed and/or engaged in activities that she wasn't necessarily comforatable with, out of financial desperation or just plain naivity. the bottom line here, is that when girls give extras it makes my job harder, and i've lost a lot of business.

    really, what this all comes down to is club etiquette, not who's the biggest whore. stripper is not a dirty word and neither is whore or hooker. when girls talk down girls who whore, it's a problem. it's judgemental and moralistic. strippers have a lot in common with hookers. sex work is sex work -- there really is no hierarchy. you just can't de-stigmatize dancing by stigmatizing whoring. regardless of the distinctions dancers may try to make between themselves and pros, the social and cultural judgements that exist don't make these distinctions. within this industry, we all get considered whores whether we sleep with men for money or not. and just as there are pros who, like me, didn't and/or don't give extras in the club, there are strippers who give extras in the club, and think that hookers are dirty. these distinctions just don't make any sense. dismissing pros as stupid sluts does nothing to better the name of stripper. i'm not a better person now that i no longer sleep with men for money. i simply have a different job. that's all.



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    I read your post and hear what you say. I have been a stripper since 21 years of age. I am now 32. I have never given a so called "extra", ever. I don't do lap dances, one club i work at is pushing for laps, but still i refuse...Fire me. I disagree, but kindly. A hooker/whore sells her body for physical sex. Bj, Hj, and Fucking. Stripping is a job inside a club where that kind of bahaviour is illegal around here. (Florida). Hookers normally walk streets and flag down cars. A callgirl, gets a call to meet a guy for sex. They are getting paid for a service that over here is still illegal. I am glad you made a decision to stop hooking. As alot of guys will only ride bareback. Dangerous job indeed. Dancing is not a place we "dancers" like to see other girls performing "extras". We are getting set for a bust number 1, and 2 that is not dancing, or stripping, it's whoring. These women can easily become escorts, or walk streets if they so chose to sell their bodies. Dancers and hookers are not the same and one. No way. You are correct this site is for people who strip. We talk about other jobs in the industry, but not selling our bodies for sex (i can't speak for everyone), not sure, but from what i have read we women are trying to keep our clubs safe and what they are "strip clubs". Sex work is sex work....you are correct. But remember there are all different levels of sex work. And prostitution is not on my list. I do not want any women who sells any personal part of her body around me, usually drugs are in the package deal. And many diseases. I am very sorry if you may not understand my point of view. But hooker/whore is a very dirty word to me. And you say if you are going to do extras charge well, do you people not think about women inside the club who are DANCERS. Yes the topic is upseting. A stripper does not even come close to being a whore. Unless she sells her body parts for money. I don't, and know alot who don't. It does not belong inside our clubs. Have respect for others. Pamela

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    Pamela, I LOVE YOU. Thank you, I'd respond to this lengthy self justifying letter that began this thread, but you said what was necessary, and I THANK YOU. I am tired of stating the obvious. I am glad you posted. I stand with you girl, all the way. United.
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    "when girls offer extras in a strip club, they are not hookers. they are strippers giving extras"...in other words, hookers. Just a matter of semantics.

    I have no problems with prostitutes or prostitution...I don't even care what a dancer does with her time outside of the club - if she sees customers privately, that's her business. When it's in the club, however, I have a problem with it, not so much from a moral perspective as from a legal one - I wouldn't want to be busted in a raid for something I don't do or condone.

    That said, I do see the advantages, from a hooker's standpoint, of working at a strip club. You can screen customers, you have a safe environment to work in, you are generally paid very well for FS, and unlike other incall establishments you don't split the money 50/50.

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    I agree with Trashnready, that it is all in the phraseology. Pamela, if you aren't making money off your body, then what are you doing?? I highly doubt that the guys are tipping you $900 a night (for stage only??) just because you offer really great advice and conversation. They are there to see your body. If you were that great of a conversationalist and offerd $900 a night in fabulous advice you would put Dr. Laura out of business.

    I don't delude myself, I am selling my nudity for money. I am selling sexual enticements, and titilation, and fantasy. How is that different than what hookers do? Okay so we don't do a couple of things (intercourse, or oral sex or manual stimulation) but what we are esentially doing is the same as a professional provider, just within the limits of the law.

    I do not feel negetive toward you in any way. I am just disagreeing with you. I hope you don't take this as hostile, but pointing out a reality. You yourself had said that you stage shows are very naughty, and that the guys are allowed to touch you and participate in the show on some levels.


    Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!


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    Paris you may have missed my point. I am a stripper. Period. Touching is aloud. When you tip me and touch my VAGINA, now we have a different story. I am making money off my body! Yes. Fantasy is something men love. To dance and sit with him...strip, give a toll free number, all stripping tactics! Doubt me Paris, you are not in my location, and i have MANY regulars who are the best in the proffesional world! (some). And you said it, they are there to see my body, not finger suck or fuck me. Yes Paris i do make good money most nights, and damn proud of it. I worked my ass off to learn how to speak properly to men and strip for them, not to mention dance sexual. I go the limit with my sexual "dancing." And when a man is touching my hair or calf makes me a whore i will stop. And yes i can talk up a storm with a man! Then perform for him. Is it so hard to believe that a lady can make good money on certain nights in this business. I cater to doctors, lawyers and mainly engineers. Some others come along who don't tell me what they do. Hookers don't sell fantasy. They sell SEX. Wow...it's just that simple. I strip, and dance. I don't fuck my customers. And they damn sure don't touch any part of my private body! Disagreeing is fine, i take it well. But when a woman tells me (not the same words, but implying this), that i don't make that much money without knowing me or ever seeing me dance, is making a statement that is simply crazy. Hey im all for the DANCERS of the world. Forget the hookers. Pamela
    PS and Paris there is your difference....we don't do or sell a couple of things they do. our bodies for sex play. A stripper is a stripper. A hooker is a hooker. And 2 very different defiinitions. Anyway your opinion is valued as well. As this can be a touchy subject.

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    Trashnready: I so appreciate your post. I really respect the fact that you gave your opinions and personal experience in the topic instead of generalizing. Lots of people have been generalizing in reference to stripping vs. other types of sex work. Since you have done both, you have a point of view on both. I am really glad for this post. I am a really open minded person, and I too noticed the holier than the whore sentiment that many have.
    I as a dancer have faced personal judgement based on what I do. When I was a bartender in a club I faced personal judgements by people when they thought I was a dancer and when I explained I was a bartender was greeted by oh, well thats different. Since I do dance now, though not full time, I see a lot of the ways people perceive the service that I provide. They look down on me being a stripper, but then its okay when I say i go 2 school.
    So many people equate dancer and working girl with the same thing. They are not the same thing, but hell, convincing the men who spend their money on dancers, whores, and adult entertainment to convince their wives and mainstream america, of that very fact, is a whole nother story. Bottom line: Thanks for your opinion!
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    firstly, i apologize for the length of my post. i had a lot to say and i got overzealous.

    paris: thank you so much for hearing what i had to say. i absolutely agree with you.

    "But remember there are all different levels of sex work. And prostitution is not on my list. I do not want any women who sells any personal part of her body around me, usually drugs are in the package deal. And many diseases."-Pamela

    if prostitutuion is not on your list of sex work, what list is it on? as a dancer you're selling parts of your body all the time. i don't know about florida, but where i live everyone thinks that all strippers are disease-ridden addicts. i have never done drugs nor have i ever contracted any communicable diseases (neither when i was a whore at which point i always used condoms, nor from the dirty brass poles on stage). i've seen just as much drugs in the strip club as i have in pro jobs.

    leigh landon: there was nothing self-justifying about my post. you are just too smart to not get this. and don't you work in niagara falls? that's some pretty close contact dancing from what i've heard.

    in case people have misunderstood, i DO NOT condone extras in the club whatsoever. i don't condone extras from a legal standpoint and also because stripping is about taking off your clothes and dancing, and should not be a venue for bj hj etc.

    the whole purpose of the intial post was simply to pose this question: why do so many dancers feel entitled to diss hookers? why do so many dancers think that what they do is somehow more acceptable, more respectable, more moral, more ethical?

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    I really do disagree with u, I'm sorry but I personally felt whore is a dirty word.

    I can point out that dancers only sell fantasy, allow a little or no contact with customers. Some may rub their chest on customers face that may recieve salvia from customer's mouth.

    Whoring is a whole lot different since they share body fluid which incldude kissing, blowjob and sex. That can transmit various of disease that may or may not be cured. And to think of this, a whore would have sex with at least 10 different men or more in a day!

    In other words, both do sell fantasy but how we do our job is in a different way. More money or less, we earn about the same with good or bad days/nights.

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    There is a BIG difference between a hooker and a dancer. Thats that. One sells sex and one sells a fantasy. A hooker sells SEX, and while that my be a fantasy to men, it is obviously WAY more than a stripper should be doing. My point? If a stripper sells sex, she should consider changing her title.
    And when it REALLY pisses me off is when I am bustingmy ass at work, and these "so called strippers" who are really hookers get away with more, do their extras, and leave me making a ton less than they do.

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    Hun, it does not matter what people think! It's what one does with their life that matters...And should matter to you. I will not contract a disease from DANCING. A hand in my hair??? Close contact with a customer is not selling your self off to be fingered or screwed. I can't believe this subject falls under stripper. Example: As a hooker will a guy pay you to just sit in his vehicle and talk. NO. Dance for him. NO. There is a difference. Hookers carry disease, i work Pt in a major hospital too. We used to have names listed until laws passed that said take them down. Chances of getting an STD from dancing are LOW....sleeping around over and over for a living...HIGH. Glad you posted, i have never (that i know of,) heard from a hookers point of view. I just have no time in my life for prostitution...Thats all. No hard feelings...Ok, i am done. You all know how i feel about selling our bodies to be screwed for money.
    Just for all of you who seem to be missing the point made by the original poster.....A HOOKER IS A HOOKER, SELLS BODY FOR THE PURPOSE OF MAKING MONEY FROM HER SEXUAL PARTS BEING TOUCHED ETC.
    A DANCER IS A WOMAN WHO STRIPS OFF HER CLOTHES ..SURE A LAP DANCE VIP'S...ALL IN THE JOB. BUT DOES NOT SELL OFF HER BODY PARTS TO BE HANDLED

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    Dancers diss hookers because deep down inside, they think that there is something wrong with being in the sex industry, so they need to make themselves feel better by saying, "Well, at least I'm not doing that!"

    They might have legitimate reasons for thinking badly of sex workers in other areas of the profession, but to my mind this is contrary to their choice to work in the sex industry if they believe that only their one little pocket of it is morally ok.

    I am continually amazed at the number of dancers who have this gap in their perception of reality. We are all selling (well, renting) our bodies, just in different manners. Whether it's for looks or touching or even penetration, someone is handing over the money because of our physical presence and appeal.

    It's all a matter of degree. Some people are comfortable with a high degree of involvement (escorts, etc) some with a very low level (photographic model). There will always be women in the industry - hell, in the same club - that have both a higher and a lower level of "service" than you. Any woman in this industry, if she wants to be at all realistic, needs to accept this fact of life.

    So I say, no whore bashing! We're mature enough to know our own limitations and to abide by those, rather than fret over those of others.

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    Example: As a hooker will a guy pay you to just sit in his vehicle and talk. NO. Dance for him. NO.
    Pamela
    Oddly enough, I have a guy friend who does business up in Montreal frequently, where his associates always indulge in a little paid company. He, however, enjoys talking to the hookers and doesn't care for sleeping with them - so in essence, he pays them to talk. And remember what guys say, you don't pay her for sex, you pay her to leave .

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    Well, you've opened a whole can of worms here, haven't you, sis?

    First, where does the "sex trade" begin and where does it end? Is a 14 year old modeling underwear for a Sears catalog in the sex trade, or is that limited to a 19 year old modeling a g-string for a Frederick's of Hollywood catalog? What then, is the difference between Julie Andrews appearing topless on film (yes, she did) and ME appearing topless on stage?

    Let's go one step further.... what's the difference between a erotic film actress being paid $1000 to give a guy a BJ on film versus a hooker being paid $100 to give a guy a BJ in a motel room?

    You see the prob.... we're ALL in the sex trade. You... me.... Britney Spears.... Nicole Kidman.... anyone who sells titilation.

    With that in mind, each and every one of us knows our limits. Some girls won't dance nude -- topless only. Some girls will dance nude but don't want to do lap dances. Some girls will do lap dances but don't want to be touched by the customer. The girl on Joe Millionaire didn't mind being tied up in a bondage film, as long as she wasn't nude..... Damn confusing if you ask me, but there you have it. I'll dance topless... I MIGHT dance nude (havn't yet), but don't want to be touched.

    MORE IMPORTANTLY, none of us wants to work in ANY situation where we're being TOLD by the manager what we MUST or MUST NOT do. Further, (and this is a big deal), it causes a LOT of confusion for customers if they go into ONE club and the VIP room means a handjob where in the club down the street the VIP room just means quiet conversation with a nekkid girl.

    LOTS and LOTS and LOTS of girls blur the lines, and that's OK. I've known plenty of girls who worked the topless or nude dance circuit as a way of promoting their XXX film careers and vice versa. Personally, I'm OK with that. In fact, personally I wish the whole industry (including prostitution) was decriminalized and regulated. It would be a hell of a lot healthier. However, until that happens, realize that a LOT of us are very careful to draw a line between LEGAL activitities and ILLEGAL activities.

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    way to go trash!!! i'm totally with you on this. i think some people are misunderstanding though. it seems like some think that you are saying that hooker and dancer are the same and that strip clubs should welcome girls to turn tricks in their clubs. however i'm not hearing that at all. we're just sisters in the same industry. and really how will we ever de-stigmatize dancing if we never work to destigmatize the hooker.

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    Honestly, for me it certainly isn't an issue of legal versus illegal - it's not like a bunch of girls that would otherwise be hookers are sitting around saying, "Oh, if only prostitution were legal, I'd quit Sears right now!" (But that would be funny). It's more an issue of what I am comfortable with. Touching someone else's genitals or having mine touched for money is outside of my boundaries. It is also illegal. However, so is dancing nude on stage in Memphis, and I have done that because it's what goes on there, just about every girl does it, and it was well within my comfort level. It's also illegal to touch my breasts at work, but I do it, and so does every other girl (not my breasts, but their own).

    That being said, I can understand why dancers would draw the line between legal and illegal activities. It's just that that's not the reason given for looking down on prostitutes here - that seems to come from a moral high ground rather than a disdain for lawbreakers.

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    whore is not a dirty word. stripper is not a dirty word. dancers don't want to get thought of as whores (stupid, addicted, diseased, trashy, sleazy, garbage). whores don't want to be thought of like that either, because contrary to popular belief, whoring is a job very worthy of respect. it takes a lot of guts and a lot of strength, especially in the face of whore stigmas. we all should know. after all, dancing, too, takes a lot of guts and strength -- dancers face the same stigmas. but that's not a reason to whore-bash. as long as whore is a dirty word, stripping will be considered a dirty word (by those outside the industry). stripping and hooking, though different jobs, are both about being in charge of your body and making decisions to do things with it that other people don't think is okay. i think that anyone who does any sort of sex work is strong and deserves my respect. no matter what they do to get their money.

    no hard feelings anyone. this is just a really volatile topic.

    colettecall, you are my shero. i think you're brilliant and i couldn't agree with you more, on all counts.

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    Hun you put the post up. You must have known you would get mixed opinions. No hard feelings, and more power to ya! I for one am just glad that you are no longer selling yourself out for sex to all kinds of men. Just my opinion. Sounds more like a turn for the better. Play hard, play safe! Pamela

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    Collettecall said:

    >>>>it's not like a bunch of girls that would otherwise be hookers are sitting around saying, "Oh, if only prostitution were legal, I'd quit Sears right now!"

    LOL... I can ALMOST hear them saying that!!!!!

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    this is just a really volatile topic.
    LMFAO oh boy is it ever! And been going on for years. Just be prepared to agree to disagree!


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    Actually some people wrote a book or paper (Stripping as Deviant Behavior, or something like that. They wrote another one called Deviant Behavior: Lesbianism as an Adaptation to Stripping, or something like that. I apologize for not remembering). Anyway, the paper is old an outdated and has a lot of thinking that's just wrong, but one of the things that they thought, after travelling the country and interviewing hundreds of strippers, was that we use these definitions and insults as a defense mechanism, to seperate ourselves from the other dancers and from the industry as a whole. And I have to agree.

    And having been on both sides of the fence, I have to say that it really is the same. When I dance, I sell my sexuality. When I hooked, I sold my sexuality.

    Pamela, don't be offended, but I could call you a dirty whore because you fuck yourself (eww) on stage with a dildo. But I don't. I respect the fact that you've found a safe way to make money with your body, and most of all that you're comfortable with what you do. In your post you said "Have respect for others" AFTER you spent the whole post talking about hookers being dirty and not wanting them near you. Is that respectful? Trash came here and posted honestly about what she has done. She said that she was able to safely make money as a pro, without having unsafe sex or offering extras in the club. Can't you respect that?

    Sorry for the length of this.. but, all that being said, I just want to say that I DO have a problem with girls doing extras in the club, and girls who recruit cheap hotel sex in the club. Now I don't mind if a girl charges $700 for sex in a hotel room, she's probably not taking any business away from me. But there's one girl at my club who I know charges $200 for sex in a hotel room, and that's two hundred dollars that a customer could be spending on a champagne room with me!

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    I agree with Pamela when she writes that hookers don't sell fantasy, they sell sex. It's not the same thing. I personally get a lot more excitement from fantasizing ( I admit I fantasize A LOT) than from merely having sex with someone you really have no empathy for. It's like "hey, you can take me home for $150.00" and if you do, like there's this tension, this anxiety just thinking of how you will perform. That is a recipe for disaster. You simply do not perfom, but the hooker gets her easy money. This is much different than having an excellent relationship with a woman, dancer or not, trusting her, getting to know her well and having empathy for her. Then a sexual encounter would be OK. Don't get me wrong, all of this should be done outside the club, if the woman HAPPENS to be a dancer.



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    I know this is the ladies forum, but I need to give my opinion and I am ready to be criticized for it.
    If a lady is comfortable with offering sex outside of the club, I do not see anything wrong her working as a dancer, following the rules of the club while she is there, not giving extras and meeting men. If she is good at her job, she will be able to size up her customers quickly and decide which ones are safe to offer her services to. It is certainly safer than meeting strange men through an escort service or hooking on the street.
    If I were a guy looking for sex, I would personally feel more comfortable with a lady I have met in a club, got to talk to and feel comfortable with than with some stranger coming to my hotel room door or some “hooker” I picked up on the street.
    There is definitely a difference between a “hooker and a “dancer”, and I respect both, but if a lady can separate the two jobs and be successful, I do not see anything wrong with it. I know some of you will disagree because you feel that “dancing” is legal and “hooking” is illegal, but if you come right down to it, the majority of dancers break the law to some degree.
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    weird but i agree with everyone
    i thingk stripping, whoring and sex mags are all in the sex trade but at different levels. just like you can have different ;eve;s of actors( broadway, commercials, tv shows movies.) extras do suck cause your taking away from "honest people". i guess its "the same shit different pile"
    personally i couldn't sell my body for sex cause i would feel dirty. but dancing is more like an art.
    we can't make people change there minds but we can ecxept there opinions.

    well thats my 2 cents
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    I totally agree with Susan on the real issue being LEGAL versus ILLEGAL in the context of a girl performing illegal activities side by side with girls who are NOT performing those illegal activities, but are being put at risk of being busted since these girls both serve in the same capacity of "dancer" in the eyes of the cops and the courts. I make no personal moral judgements whatsoever on the subject of girls providing sex for money. Hell, I do it myself in my XXX films. But XXX films are LEGAL, and a XXX film actress is protected by the first amendment and other laws such that performing sex on film cannot be considered prostitution. However, I have never provided sex for money in any environment other than a film studio, because these are NOT granted the same legal protection and do constitute prostitution which is illegal virtually everywhere in the USA.

    It's bad enough to be convicted of prostitution if you are actually doing it, but it's even worse if you wind up charged with prostitution when you are NOT doing it yourself but your charge is based on the circumstantial fact that you are a "dancer" in a club where other "dancers" do perform sex acts and you have no way to "prove your innocence". Been there, done that, cost me close to $10,000 to "prove my innocence". I have no problem whatsoever if a girl chooses to provide sex for money on a streetcorner, in a hotel room, etc. - it's her choice and she assumes the risks that go along with it. But when a girl chooses to provide sex for money in a dance club that I happen to be working in at the time, she is exposing me and every other dancer in the club to HER risks !

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