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    i'm so excited to have found this site. i wish that i knew about it for the past four years i've been dancing. i have recently decided to call it quits and am giving myself three months to get as much as i can before i move onto other things. i am not ashamed of being a dancer and am quite open about it with family and friends. it has just had so many ups and downs and i'm so sick of the downs, i feel it is time to just let go of it for at least awhile. i'm wondering if other girls deal with the downs and how they deal with them. the main things i've had a hard time with are hating customers so much some days and having bouts of low self esteem. i find it really difficult some days to keep the personal and the professional seperate when my profession has such a personal flavour.

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    Burn out...nasty word. Yes when i start to feel burn out i take a few to a week off. Longer if you have savings. This is your minds way of telling your body to slow down. Take a rest. What we do is soooo repetitious, even though its a different guy, song etc. And feeling burn out is normal. Just listen to your body, if it's a little tired take a few days off. If you can't, come home and soak in a warm bath, read. But get dancing off your mind for as long as possible. And remember the "hating" customers probably hate themselves. You can't control how people behave towards you...But you can control YOU!!! You will be fine. People "hate" for many different reasons. Most because they don't like themselves. And because they are intimidated by you...yes some men are. And 'they' have issues with low self esteem. Don't let it ride your back. You don't have to deal with these people all your life. This job is made up of alot of guys who seem to be "haters" of dancers. But they come to the clubs! Hmmm.. they have the problem, take their money as best you can, walk away and smile! The suckers!!! And to keep your job seperate from your day to day out of club activities...dress different, don't wear your hair like you do at work. Less makeup etc. All this is who you are NOT inside the club. Lotsa luck, Pamela

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    I'm not a dancer but as a DJ I have reached a point after three years where I have become almost totally burned out. I gave notice (not really wanting to quit) at my last position after one too many criticisms/demands for conformity from my brainless, twitching (from too much coke, I presume), power-tripping manager, and three weeks later was replaced. It was a very depressing experience but I am actually glad now that it happened.

    It's a damned shame that those who enter this business with the highest hopes are most easily crushed in spirit. I am a visual artist so I try to think of each dancer as a performer, an erotic artist in motion, and when everything goes well this is phenomenally effective, and lucrative as well.

    All too often this process is stifled by the pathetic, banal impositions we are forced to deal with. Greedy, short-sighted, even moronic management, customers who could care less about DANCING because all they want is to cop a feel--you all know better than I do how it can get to you. But...

    Call me an idealist, if you will, but I have made it work and it can be glorious. I will do it again.

    It was very funny to go into that club last night and see how fucking DEAD it was, with my hot shit replacement at work, LOL. Of course the management will probably find a way to blame me, even after a month (I've seen this once before, business went directly to hell, the bartenders and dancers--the ones that didn't bail out immediately after I left-- knew exactly why, but the other DJ and manager accused me of ruining the business! Even though when I was working we all banked!). The fact that, like every place in town, with season coming it will be packed, does not detract from this bit of ironic justice.

    I'm sure that some areas are much worse than others, Daytona (the only place I have done this) certainly is pathetic. I am making plans to ease my obligations here, to explore other areas and find a more tolerant club/atmosphere to work in.

    I do have a position for season at a club to keep in practice. And best of all, I have started drawing and painting again! Once again the key seems to be maintaining a separate and meaningful life outside of the business. Choosing the right friends can make a difference, too, like the people on SW...

    Michelle, you are so right about this site, it has been very helpful for me here. My gratitude to all of you out there (I especially appreciated the comments on that last post). I believe in the laws of Karma, and we who follow them will prevail.

    Djoser

    Later--Damn, this post is so negative! Bitching and whining again, LOL. I should be following McCain's advice and remembering that old classic "Influencing People" (maybe old but so true today). That is a great book! Rule #1, stop complaining. If you haven't seen it look in "Hustle Hut", its worth it...
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    This happens to me all the time! I find myself constantly changing clubs to try to shake things up. That is the only solution I have come up with. I also do allow myself time off when I need it. I have just taken about two months off! Now I feel recharged though and ready to go back to work. I would also recommend doing something different during the day to take your mind off dancing (day job, school, etc), and maybe cutting back to a few nights a week.

    Just an afterthought: What about changing your hair or something? Or maybe your stagename, etc...

    Good Luck!

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