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    Alrighty, here's the deal. I know my bf of five years enjoys strippers, he's asked me before why I've never done one for him. Fact is I'm clueless. I've been thinking about performing a private show for him this v-day, i know he loves those little school girl skirts and i would like to go that route, any ideas on music/moves or any advice!!!!!!

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    Ok so I know i'm not in this for the proffessional side, however i am positive that u can help me out. pretty please....anyone?

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    Hi Heather,
    I think it is sweet you are going to do a private dance for your boyfriend. Ok, I don't know if you have any school girl type costume to wear for him, if not, try going to
    www.3wisheslingerie.com

    They have a good variety of cute school girl costumes that your boyfriend would just love.

    Now as far as music goes, do you want music that will have a school girl theme or would you rather just have sensual music that you can give a very sexy private dance to? If you wanted school girl music you could try playing: baby one more time by britney spears, another brick in the wall from the Faculty soundtrack, or any other music that reminds you of school. If you wanted sexy music, you have a tremendous selection: Marvin Gaye, Aaliyah, Enigma, etc...

    Now, as for the private dance itself, I don't know how much you know about giving private dances, like if you have ever watched your boyfriend get one? For the dance you are giving him I would recommend to strip VERY slowly, like take one article of clothing of every 1/2 song or so. It is hard to write in words how to give a private dance, but maybe you could rent the movie Showgirls (there is one scene where Elizabeth Berkley gives a very good private dance) and get the general idea of how to dance for your man.

    Ok, I hope I helped a little bit, and good luck!

    ~Theresa

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    Oh gosh i would have to say get him comfortable, put on Enigma "principles of lust" song..and come walking out from around a corner in his full view, with your costume on (Sexy schoolgirl skirt, sexy white schoolgirl top tied up high. If it buttons thats a plus.) And of course you knee high socks and glossy lips, sexy ponytails, or one high ponytail. And take Theresa's advice about slowly swayng and peeling off clothing. Toss each piece too him with a sexy smile! You go girl!!! Pamela~

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    Heather, you are going to make your boyfriend a very happy man! One reason it has been easy for me to resist any temptation to get dances on my nights off, other than maintaining a professional image (the way this business is, I could be working with the woman next week), is that two of my ex-live-in lovers used to dance for me at home. It's just not the same at a club for money. The most talented dancer cannot compete with a woman who loves you and loves the sex you share. I always buy my friends dances instead.

    You might want to go to an exotic dance club with your man, if you are comfortable with this you will get lots of ideas on music, moves, costumes, all of it. Some clubs are better than others for women to go to (I always love it when women come in--it forces the guys to at least pretend they are gentlemen--and I try to play music they like, give them a dollar to tip the dancer, etc.), you will probably want to go to a nicer one, though expensive exteriors do not always mean a comfortable interior.

    You might consider renting one of the many striptease oriented videos found with Playboy videos, etc. in most video stores. There is a wide variety, look for ones shot in clubs , or they do have some how-to videos out there. Playboy has some good striptease club tour videos, if you can stomach the geek narrator (where do they get these guys?). Don't be intimidated by the slick moves, if your man is asking for it, he'll be happy no matter what you do. You might find something that you'd like to try for him, and it will give you the general idea.

    I would advise practicing a little bit, or at least, and maybe more fun, go out dancing with him some night, and keep in mind what you want to do later. That way you'll be loosened up. This might also help with figuring out your music (listen to Pamela, try one Enigma song).

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    Ohhhh... I LOVE doing those for my husband (and back when he was my b/f) and other guys I used to date. It's even MORE fun than when it's for a customer!!!

    Just as an aside, if you're in our backyard (we have a 2-story house) and you look up at our bedroom window (big, huge expans of window) you can't see in if your not EXACTLY in our back yard. To this day, sometimes when my hubbie is in the backyard, I'll crack open the window, let him hear some music (soft, slow jazz is more my style...but what the hell... or occasionally Billy Idol if I'm in a REAL kinky mood) and start peeling right there in the window for him.....

    Where was I? In "professional" settings, there are all SORTS of privat dances. I would suggest a "nearly no touch" dance. Go rent "Showgirls" and see how Elizabeth Berkeley lap-dances in the private room. You need to be all over the room, but occasionally come up close to him, just briefly so that you can let a stray nipple touch his face or let your hair drape in his lap.

    Lots of clothes -- if you're going to do the school-girl bit, then everything you can see from the street needs to be "street legal" for a Catholic high school (plaid skirt just above the knee and plain, white long-sleeved blouse). Underneath, though, I'd suggest a white thong, white camisole, white stockings with a white garterbelt, and a front-snap white lace bra. Black 3" heels.

    Dance slowly. Be sure you have plenty of music lined up. If you're a VERY aggressive dancer (like a cheerleader) then something funky. Otherwise, take my suggestion for soft, slow jazz. Blouse goes first, leaving you with camisole and skirt. Toss the blouse over his head. Smile a LOT. Lots of eye contact. Unzip the skirt (unless it's a wrap-around) and let it fall to the floor. Don't worry about stepping out of it, just walk over it.

    Lose the camisole over your head, but be sure that you combine losing the camisole with tossing your hair over his head.

    Dance for a while. Tempt him. Leave him wanting more. Play flirty games. Play with the drapes (if you have them). Dance behind him (if the chair is in the middle of the room). Use the furniture as props, if you can. Be creative at this point.

    Then get close to him. Let him see that you're playing with the snap on your bra. (Hint: if you DON'T have a front-snap bra, let him unsnap you.) Un-snap the bra, and take FOREVER uncovering your boobs. Let your bra fall down over your arms, but KEEP EYE CONTACT with him.

    Dance a bit more, closer to him, so that you can let a nipple touch his face occasionally.

    Here's the toughest move. It requires a little bit of gymnastic ability. (I'll give you an alternative in a minute if you can't do this.) Turn your back to him, bend at the waist, and look back at him as you slowly lower your thong down your legs. Step out, turn around quickly while tossing your arms up in the air sort in a "voila" move! If THAT doesn't work for you (it takes a little practice!) then lay on the floor, some distance from him (or on the bed) and slowly lower your thong over your legs and feet. I like to keep the thong in my hand.... and sometimes use it to play with his head and hair.

    Like I said, there are a million ways of doing this.... good luck. You MIGHT get hooked on this, you know! Wonder what your b/f would think about you joining the ranks of the working girls?

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    Pamela, I had to have a cigarette after the way you described that sensual dance. WOW
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    Sorry Susan I replied to Pamela before I read Your post, WOW WOW
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    Check Ebay for the schoolgirl costume. Not sure ifyou actually want to buy one? Trust me, once he sees you in it....you'll be wearing it more often!

    Good luck!

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    Ladies, thank you thank you and more thank you's! I'm printing this stuff out so I will remember! To answer some of you's questions. a) never done this before B)he's actually talked about opening one up with me in charge of the girls. thanks a again!

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    Oh that sounds like so much fun. I have occasionally danced for my husband - I enjoy it because it is him and it is fun getting him all hot and bothered when he is not allowed to touch - He doesn't much like it right now because it reminds him of what I do at work, but when I'm finished dancing it will be a different story.

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    1) Could you try and sneak away to a local strip club without him? If so, see if a girl there would show you a few moves and / or use her as a giuinnea pig. If you have tried it already, it will be a little smoother when you do it for him.

    2) dance slowly, and touch him in non sexual places ie- gently caress his face, eyebrows, cheeks, neck, ears - blow or purr in his ear gently.

    try a body slide - shere you slowly move yourself down his body with your front.

    If money is an issue - try the local second hand stores for school girl skirts .


    Good Luck

    Rebecca
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