I have a question for the dancers: If you knew a guy away from the club that you danced at and y'all were friends and he didn't know that you danced, and one day while performing, you saw him in the crowd, what would your reaction be?
I have a question for the dancers: If you knew a guy away from the club that you danced at and y'all were friends and he didn't know that you danced, and one day while performing, you saw him in the crowd, what would your reaction be?
I would invite him to watch me dance for him. I have that situation going on right now. I work at a hospital PT, and a few doctors i know come in to see me. But i met them at the hospital...so, i invited them (a little different.) to come and see me. Now i have a few more regulars. Just approach...and do your thing. I think it will work to your advantage! Hell, i tell new friends all the time to come and see my other job. And just give the number out. When/if they call, they know it's a strip club...i love teasing them to come and see me. Pamela![]()
As long as its not someone who does not know or is not supposed to know u dance, like a dad or uncle, it is not a big deal. It is not a problem unless u make it one. I've run into schoolmates, high school and college, fathers and relatives, important industry types and all and nobody outside of whoever worked whatever night they were there knows b/c thats work and I'm a professional.
"Come what may although I often say realities come from dreams, but approach all lies with open eyes because NOthing in this world is EVER ALL it seems."
I would just approach them and start talking. This happened once, some guys I knew from school came to my old club, I didn't notice them until I was on stage. They were just standing there in awe, lol. I was going to sit and chat for a bit when I got off stage but they were gone. And just a couple weeks ago, this guy who taught a few of my classes (kind of like a TA) was in my club, of course, when I was on stage. At first I was freaking, worried that he might tell my professors. But then I remembered, it goes both ways. So after I got off stage I went up and said hi, he didn't even recognize me at first. But he was mad cool, he even bought a table dance from me for himself and his friends.



it happened to me before
i grew up in windsor but dance in london
on day in the club i seen my cousins, they were there for one of my cousins bachelor party
luckily they didnt see me naked...i used to push them in swings after all...i ended up sitting with them and inviting some other girls over and we partied...
i ended up dancing for one of the ushers
and when i went to the wedding a couple months later i seen him in the receiving line
and i sat right behind his wife![]()
blessed be


I wouldn't like it at all. I like to keep my two lives separate. I know many of my friends go to clubs, but I still haven't told them I dance. They would want to come and watch, and I don't want that. I like to be as anonymous as possible when I dance. Probably because only 2 people in my life know that I dance, and the more people that find out, the more people that might find out by 'accident'... like my parents.





Ah, this sort of thing happens to me a lot. I have run into lots of guys I know at work, and danced for one of my classmates recently (after the end of the semester!). It doesn't bother me, everyone knows that I dance, and I get a kick out of messing with the guys I know. If for whatever reason they didn't know I danced (professor, maybe?) I would try to make them not feel awkward by going over and saying hi.

I am very private and have always driven a good hour to get away from anyone that knows me. In the 4 years of my dancing I have only run into one person that I knew and i went into the dressing room in tears. He was a jerk and stayed there the entire night watching me dance despite how upset i was that he was there. God why do some men suck?
As far as moral codes at schools you know thats a really good question. There was this news story a couple years back about that girl at some college out in CA that got kicked off the track team because she was a dancer. Does anyone remember that? Was she allowed to return to the sport? I think thats utterly ridiculous. As if half the faculty and or student body and their parents dont frequent these clubs.





Well, it's funny you should ask. Playboy was at UT last spring to shoot for the Girls of the Big 12 issue (my group didn't make it in, sigh, but I still have my check signed by Christie Hefner!) and I asked them what they did about the girls from Baylor, a Baptist university in Waco. They said they would only photograph girls that were seniors, because you *will* get kicked out of Baylor for posing. Unfortunately, they didn't think about the fraternities - the frathouse there that was photographed implicated a fraternity and they were suspended! And as far as I know, those guys all kept their clothes on.I am wondering. As a college student, is there any rules about "moral conduct" in which they could kick you out for being a stripper. I have heard of girls getting kicked out of college before for appearing in one of those Playboy College Coeds issues.
Here's a story:
http://www.dfw.com/mld/startelegram/...te/3956472.htm
As far as Leilani Rios, she was kicked off of the track team at Cal State Fullerton due to a decision by her coach that her dancing was detrimental to the image of the team. The thing about that story that pissed me off was that she was ratted out by guys on the baseball team!
So I think that being a known dancer can get you in trouble with certain activites (sorority, athletics, church group) but probably not with the school itself unless you are attending a religious private school. Personally, I don't think a state-run institution would have any legal ground to stand on - it would be interfering with your freedom of expression. I don't worry because UT is a huge, state-run school w/no moral clauses. They ran a story on the front page of the school paper a few years ago about student strippers and even used photos of me and a friend and we certainly didn't get in any trouble whatsoever. I can understand that the situation is different for everyone and so I suggest absolute discretion outside the club. But we were talking here about how you should behave inside the club. If you didn't know the girl was a dancer; or you knew but not because she told you, I think you should take your cue from her. If she ignores you, ignore her. Pretend like it never happened. If she comes over to talk to you, then you're cool. Hell, buy a dance from her. Girls all react differently.
My best story: My freshman year I was taking precal from a very nice Colombian professor. One night at work I was in the middle of a table dance when I looked over and saw him and a friend at a table about 10 ft away. He looked up and recognized me immediately and they left. The next day I was due in for tutoring abd he said, "er, um, was that you I saw at that place last night? I said, "yes, I'm a dancer." He said, "do you mind if I come see you sometime?" "um, why don't you wait until the semester is over?"
ladies, thank you for your insight, I think that I might go and see her but I still haven't made up my mind. As for Gothic Violet, most men don't suck, if it was me or if I go and the girl doesn't want me there then I would leave.

chivalry-i said SOME guys suck not ALL men are evil geez![]()

two lives.....is this not YOUR life? Are not both these lives YOURS?
No, both of these lives are not mine. One belongs to this chick named divyne who for me has developed into another almost seperate entity that i call on from time to time for certain tasks like work.
Colette was pretty much correct on the school thing, my school is not religious based, was originally founded and funded by one, but is a selective, private lib arts deal. They can kick u out 4 damn near nething they want b/c there are so many moral and standard codes. However, at a state school it would violate your rights of some type to dismiss u for things done off school property that b/c it is a public, state regulated and paid for thing.
"Come what may although I often say realities come from dreams, but approach all lies with open eyes because NOthing in this world is EVER ALL it seems."





For me there's an in between. People that I know outside the club but don't know very well, I don't care if they meet "Lily" (my stage name). People who are very close freinds, know who I am and know who Lily is and it wouldn't really matter. People that are casual friends or just normal freinds, I wouldn't want to meet Lily because I think it would affect the way they related to me.
Lena
I ran into a good friend of mine, just friends, that I had lost touch with. She was waitressing (waitress can dance when the club runs 2 for 1 VIP specials) at the club. We both were a little embarassed, but we ended up catching up with each other and having a good time. She ask me for a dance, but I told I felt uncomfortable about that(it was a nude contact club).
She was not having a very good money night, and she was spending most of her time talking to me. So I started feeling guilty and let her give me dance. Those two songs seemed to last at least an hour. We were both uncomfortable and realized we had made a mistake. I never went back to that club, and I have not seen her since. For me I learned that it is best not to get dances from anyone I know outside the club.
Le Q,
The title is exactly correct, and believe it or not everyone that I have ever known have different personalities at work vs. at play. Therefore two lives.
Gothic,
My appologies, you did say some men suck. But so many people say that. You know what, Some women suck too, of course that could be a good or a bad thing.
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