HELP! I'm 23 yo and work in a club in upstate NY for two years. My problem is that there's this guy that came into the club 6 weeks ago, never seen him before, older (46yo). He treats everyone here with so much respect, it a breath of fresh air.
I've become his ATF, and after the first lap dance, which ended and I stayed on his lap and talked for 40 minutes. Whenever he comes in, he tips me when I go on and he says he loves to see me dance-dance, not strip dance. Dance is what I always wanted to do, Broadway...., but live took a turn and here I am. After I move on, he moves to the bar. After my set and lap dances, I sit with him. I usually tips me well, and i tried to stop him, because I really enjoy our talks. I gave him my number, so that we can talk (he gave me some advice that worked) and I want to get into things that I don't want overheared at the club, but he doesn't call.
I know he's married with kids and he knows I have two kids, but we talk so well that I sometimes wish he would call. When I made a remark about giving up dancing and doing something else, he's produced info on the something else. He seems very concerned and has given me an ego boost. I now feel better about myself.
I want to continue to talk, but I think his afraid of what my motives are or could something happen. My motives are simple, I need the ego boost and he's a striaght shooter. He doesn't tell me what I want to hear, he tells me how things are from his view point. Perhaps he's the Dad I don't have because of my high school pregnancy, I blamed my mom and they ended up getting divorced.
So, should I continue to pester him, plead my case? I know where he works and have his office number. Should I call him? All I want to be is friends, no more.


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